Onestepper wrote:Arianddu wrote:Onestepper wrote:I would say that his current behavior though is far from classy. The fact that he can't get past the fact that the band has moved on, and he refuses to speak to his former band mates except through lawyers, tells me that he is the type to hold grudges and may be a very bitter person. He has his reasons, and that is fine, but I don't consider it 'classy'.
See, I would want to know exactly what Schon/Cain/Valory want to talk to Perry about. If it's anything to do with the back catalogue, money, touring, etc, then it makes sense for Perry to say 'talk to the lawyers' because it all touches on legal stuff. Somehow I don't think they're asking him out for a friendly cup of coffee and a chat about the old days.
And to be perfectly honest - if I had been with a bunch of guys who for years talked about how we were like family, then dumped on me and ditched me because I wasn't healthy enough to tour, who put one record and one tour before my health, and then finally dumped me AND kept rubbing salt in the wounds by implying that it was just my work ethic that was not 100 percent... well, I'd be a little bitter too. I mean, that's how I see it - if they really were like family, if they really did care for him like a brother (and brothers don't always like each other) then it would have been 'screw the tour, there's always another record, another tour, just do what you've gotta do to get better'. And they didn't. Doesn't make what he did right, doesn't make what they did wrong, but on a personal level, that's got to be hard to forgive.
Sometimes you just have to say the relationship got broken beyond repair, and let it go. And if that's the case (and I suspect it is) then
he's the one who's moved on, because he's
not the one constantly bitching about the other half of the equation; he's able to be civil, positive and wish them well. Can't say the same for Schon at least.
Agreed that the business of Journey should be left to the lawyers. However, the bad mouthing of him came AFTER he refused to even speak to them when they decided to move on with out him. Does it make it right..of course not. But we aren't talking about the class of JC and NS. We were talking about how 'classy' Perry has been, and his behavior does not denote class. They had ZERO indication that he was ever going to tour again, or that he even wanted to do another thing with the band. Also, keep in mind that their long time manager was in their ear saying to move on..and NS considers Herbie like a father figure. So it's not surprising that he followed that advice. I don't think it was as personal as people make it out to be when they decided to go on without Perry. It was a business decision, and it's funny how Perry can make all of the 'business decisions' he wants (including only speaking through lawyers), but the rest of the guys are supposed to only make decisions with their heart.
Ok, you've lost me totally. I'm saying that, here and now, Steve Perry speaks well of his former band mates, does not dish on them, praises their skills as musicians and speaks fondly of their time together, although he does not currently communicate directly with them, which, to me, indicates that he has moved on from the bad blood of the past. Neal Schon, on the other hand, doesn't seem to be able to say a single thing about Perry without taking some sort of pot shot at him - that indicates to me that Schon
hasn't moved on and gotten over it. That's the current state of play as I see it. You said "The fact that he can't get past the fact that the band has moved on..." - I say evidence shows that professionally they may have moved on, but personally/emotionally, Schon at least has not. And I haven't seen anything in Perry's behaviour since '98 that says he 'can't get past the fact the band has moved on'. So he only communicates with them through lawyers- so what? What does he have to talk about them except business? They aren't friends any more, he has no reason to speak to them, why should that imply he hasn't moved on?
I can't work out if you're saying Perry's behaviour
now is not 'classy' because of what he's done in the past, or what. If we're going by past actions, shit, no one on the planet comes out clean! As for business decisions, sure, they made a business decision to move on - nothing wrong with that, but you can't divorce the personal and emotional from the logical and stay human. Like I said - doesn't make what they did wrong, but it doesn't mean Perry had to like it. And given what happened, and that he probably
didn't like it one little bit, the fact that he has always publically refused to dish on them shows a lot of class.
Just my opinion.

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