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What does it mean to you?
How does it work for you?
How does one lose or earn your respect?

Pstburp wrote:What does it mean to you?
How does it work for you?
How does one lose or earn your respect?

One way to earn respect is to not moan and complain about not getting any respect. I get tired of hearing professional athletes cry about how other teams, players, and fans don't give them respect. Boo-freakin'-hoo!

conversationpc wrote:One way to earn respect is to not moan and complain about not getting any respect. I get tired of hearing professional athletes cry about how other teams, players, and fans don't give them respect. Boo-freakin'-hoo!

I agree 100%. For me independence wins respect. Much of our society has turned back to a very self-centered philosophy, instead of thinking about others first. I believe we should be much more concerned about how we treat people than how people treat us. Doesn't mean you can't toot your own horn when you need to, but I don't respect whiners.

Rip Rokken wrote:

conversationpc wrote:One way to earn respect is to not moan and complain about not getting any respect. I get tired of hearing professional athletes cry about how other teams, players, and fans don't give them respect. Boo-freakin'-hoo!

I agree 100%. For me independence wins respect. Much of our society has turned back to a very self-centered philosophy, instead of thinking about others first. I believe we should be much more concerned about how we treat people than how people treat us. Doesn't mean you can't toot your own horn when you need to, but I don't respect whiners.

Totally agree with that. I don't respect whiners either and respect the heck out of stand-up people that can own up to their mistakes. Also find I can be too trusting sometimes, almost to a fault......always want to believe the good in people.

Pstburp wrote:What does it mean to you?
How does it work for you?
How does one lose or earn your respect?

Maybe you need to go ask Dr. Phil.

Deb wrote:I don't respect whiners either and respect the heck out of stand-up people that can own up to their mistakes. Also find I can be too trusting sometimes, almost to a fault......always want to believe the good in people.

I do always look for the good in people, but trust is another issue. For me, I've found it's best to trust that people will be human, warts and all. I don't expect a lot out of people that aren't very close to me, and that way, it limits the extent that I can be disappointed in them if they do something that disrespects me.

My wife used to have a customer that came in frequently and they had a lot of friendly conversations. Then one day the girl just up and lashed out at her. She was really hurt that a "friend" would do this, and I explained that the girl was never a friend -- she was an acquaintance, and to not get too attached to them, because you never really know people unless you spend tons of quality time with them, and even then, you sometimes get a surprise!

whenever i hear the word RESPECT the first thing that pops into my mind is that scene from Goodfellas.. where the local neighborhood kids carry henry hill's moms grocerys home....

.............and you know why??? out of RESPECT!!.... out of fear!... respect has lots of meanings..

I tend to respect people who do what they say they are gonna do...Reliability

Own up to what they do... Accountability

Respect others as they want to be respected...responsibility

Escape Artist wrote:I tend to respect people who do what they say they are gonna do...Reliability

Own up to what they do... Accountability

Respect others as they want to be respected...responsibility

Perfectly stated...

Respect is earned, not implied. Just because I know someone doesn't necessarily mean I respect them. It falls along the same lines as trust which is also earned.

This is one of the problems with kids these days...they expect respect without earning it or even giving it.

When used as a verb, respect means to hold in esteem or honor. I feel that everyone deserves respect until they prove otherwise-not the other way around.

Some great posts here on this thread! Very cool.




I Love Aretha.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-xALiBgzPzE

I respect others point of view, and tend to treat people in a way that I would like to be treated myself. In the ideal world ,respect should be a two way street,... but this doesn't mean, that one should wait to be 'respected' before extending that courtesy to others. Respect is not earned through any elaborate means, merely through acknowledgement of the fact that others have feelings and needs identical to your own, and that the greatest happiness comes about among those who do recognize this.



Understanding that no one is perfect is also important. There are times when we experience unhappiness and this can manifest itself in disrespectful behaviour towards others, when in fact the frustration is really aimed at oneself, and ones own situation. Being honest about ones state of mind is important in assuring others that you mean no disrespect to them.

Respect to you all.

"I dont get any respect " I aways liked that line from Rodney Dangerfield

Natalie wrote:When used as a verb, respect means to hold in esteem or honor. I feel that everyone deserves respect until they prove otherwise-not the other way around.

I think everyone deserves a certain level of respect, which can be lost depending on their behavior. But they can also earn MORE respect, so it's kind of a middle of the road thing with me.

To me, respect and integrity go hand in hand. Someone else posted the reponsibility, et al in their post. All of those things are part and parcel in a person of integrity.
I tolerate those I'm first meeting until I can gauge their level of integrity (if any), then I'll either handle them with respect or leave 'em at the curb.

conversationpc wrote:
I think everyone deserves a certain level of respect, which can be lost depending on their behavior. But they can also earn MORE respect, so it's kind of a middle of the road thing with me.

Well said Dave, I think even street people deserve respect and small children because people of any age and walk of life know if you are being condescending.
If you treat people with respect even when they don't "deserve" it they may rise to the occasion to earn it= plus that's what having grace can mean.

conversationpc wrote:I think everyone deserves a certain level of respect, which can be lost depending on their behavior. But they can also earn MORE respect, so it's kind of a middle of the road thing with me.

That brings up an excellent point, in that there are several different kinds of respect. There is basic human respect that should be given to everyone. Your average person should be "treated with respect". There is also respect for authority (such as your elders, law enforcement, etc.), which ideally shouldn't need to be earned... I think what we've been talking about is more of an admiration type of respect, and that absolutely must be earned.