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Postby PDiddy75 » Fri May 08, 2009 2:16 pm

Wow! Maybe I just dont read enough into people or read enough gossip magazines...but I didnt know Adam was gay. Not that I am judging him or anything, but asking if any of you knew this??? If u google him, theres tons of things about him being gay. You learn something knew everyday. Hes not all that "rocker" to me now...


http://www.celebslap.com/proof-adam-lambert-is-gay/


http://www.realityblurred.com/realitytv ... ambert_gay
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Postby Triple S » Fri May 08, 2009 2:37 pm

Maybe you should read the "Adam Lambert on Idol" thread - there's a couple of other 'non-judgmental' :roll: people who would be happy to agree with you.
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Postby RedWingFan » Fri May 08, 2009 2:44 pm

Watched it for the first time this week and I have to say the whole damn show is gay! I think gay is a pre-requisite to be part of the show. I bet Slash had to slam a double shot of heroin to deal with the fact that he took part!
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Postby PDiddy75 » Fri May 08, 2009 2:49 pm

Triple S wrote:Maybe you should read the "Adam Lambert on Idol" thread - there's a couple of other 'non-judgmental' :roll: people who would be happy to agree with you.


Nah. Thats like 26 pages long...lol. I really aint "judgmental" at all. Seriously. It was a joke about the mouth thing, obviously. Each to thier own on thier sex preference. One of my good friends is a lesbian...and I think it sucks that people find it "okay" for 2 women to be together but they dont want to see 2 men together. I dont get it. I need to worry about my own dam sex life before I would go worrin about someone elses. haha. Maybe Im just hatin on him cuz hes at least gettin some!!! LMAO! =P hehe
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Postby PDiddy75 » Fri May 08, 2009 2:52 pm

RedWingFan wrote:Watched it for the first time this week and I have to say the whole damn show is gay! I think gay is a pre-requisite to be part of the show. I bet Slash had to slam a double shot of heroin to deal with the fact that he took part!




LMFAOOOO!! :lol: :lol: :lol: Too funny!


I actually like the show, but this has to be the worst one yet!
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Re: OT: Adam Lambert is gay...hm. Never knew!!

Postby moangel58 » Fri May 08, 2009 3:57 pm

PDiddy75 wrote:Wow! Maybe I just dont read enough into people or read enough gossip magazines...but I didnt know Adam was gay. Not that I am judging him or anything, but asking if any of you knew this??? If u google him, theres tons of things about him being gay. You learn something knew everyday. Hes not all that "rocker" to me now...


http://www.celebslap.com/proof-adam-lambert-is-gay/


http://www.realityblurred.com/realitytv ... ambert_gay


I have a facebook and there is a pic on his site there with him and another guy kissing away...oh yeh, the tongues are in full view.
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Postby Vladan » Fri May 08, 2009 4:23 pm

You know, I don't think anyone here has a problem with him preferring the company of men over woman (what Adam Lambert does in spare time is non of our business, but unfortunately some people like to express themselves and cram it down your throat, by making statements) Just becauce your gay, it doesn't mean you have to tell the world about it, nobody cares.

But I also just think it's the fact that he's a fruit cake when he performs, and fortunately I am not into theatrics and self indulgent trash. He is not Freddie, Halford, or any other real true rock legend who made it on their own, as Freddie and co could actually sing, but even though they were queer, at least they had masculinity about them and they are likable, and they were never self indulgent to the point you just roll your eyes in disgust.

And don't bother arguing with me in his defense, because I am not here to debate, but rather set things straight.

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Postby Voyager » Fri May 08, 2009 5:21 pm

Vladan wrote:And don't bother arguing with me in his defense, because I am not here to debate, but rather set things straight.


No one needs to be set straight. They are already either gay or straight. You can either like them or hate them based on their sexual preference. I choose not to base my opinions of people on their sexual preferences, because the gays didn't choose to be gay anymore than you or I chose to be straight. I just came out of the womb loving the ladies, and the next guy came out loving the cock. Who am I to judge him? Did I choose to be attracted to vaginas and nice racks? No, I was just born that way.

PDiddy75 wrote:Hes not all that "rocker" to me now...


C'mon PD... do you really mean that? Or are you saying, "I'm pissed off because he likes the guys and not the ladies?" Is Freddie Mercury less of a rocker to you because he was gay? What about Rob Halford of Judas Priest? Hell bent for fucking leather... it doesn't get any more "rocker" than those guys in my opinion. Who cares what they do in bed?

PDiddy75 wrote:I really aint "judgmental" at all. Seriously. It was a joke about the mouth thing, obviously. Each to thier own on thier sex preference. One of my good friends is a lesbian...and I think it sucks that people find it "okay" for 2 women to be together but they dont want to see 2 men together. I dont get it. I need to worry about my own dam sex life before I would go worrin about someone elses. haha. Maybe Im just hatin on him cuz hes at least gettin some!!!


Okay, Freddie said he forgives you. But he also said that you and your lesbian friend need to come over to my house to hangout and party so I can re-educate you on sexual matters. (LOL! JK - the wife probably wouldn't go for it. :cry: )

But seriously, I think bashing gays is one of the things from the 70s and 80s that I don't miss. It raises its head now and then, but most people have moved on from homophobia because they realized it's a waste of time to try to micro-manage the sex lives of others. Most hatred of gays is based in primitive religious laws that were created 6,000 years ago by barbaric men who lived in a day when burning people at the stake, stoning people to death, and treating women like possessions was the norm. They decided that anything that was abnormal to their current culture was sinful, and they condemned gays to hell right along with non-virgin wives and rebellious sons.

I had a friend who was gay who killed himself over the stigma attached to it. I never even knew he was gay. That changed my whole outlook on the subject.

The grass is greener on the non-bigoted side of the street. C'mon over and join us. It feels great to be able to just accept people without worrying about what they do in bed. I was raised just the opposite, so I do understand the Miss California/Jerry Falwell mentality.

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Postby Andrew » Fri May 08, 2009 6:32 pm

This thread better stay on topic....AND RESPECTFULLY TOO.
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Postby portland » Fri May 08, 2009 9:14 pm

Andrew wrote:This thread better stay on topic....AND RESPECTFULLY TOO.








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Postby stargzr210 » Fri May 08, 2009 9:50 pm

http://perezhilton.com/2009-05-07-seriously-2


i knew he was gay but never saw pics...i was on ph blog today and just saw this......wow! look at those clogs!
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Postby YoungJRNY » Fri May 08, 2009 10:39 pm

There goes his American Idol. He only screams anyway. I hate American Idol, I know the rating are huge, but there's only 1 AI, and that's Kelly Clarkson. There will never be another one.
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Postby brywool » Fri May 08, 2009 11:15 pm

Um...


DUH
NO. He's NOT Steve F'ing Perry. But he's Arnel F'ing Pineda and I'm okay with that.
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Postby madsplash » Fri May 08, 2009 11:15 pm

YoungJRNY wrote:There goes his American Idol. He only screams anyway. I hate American Idol, I know the rating are huge, but there's only 1 AI, and that's Kelly Clarkson. There will never be another one.


Carrie Underwood is the most popular Idol ever. She's WAY prettier than Kelly and a much better singer. She's also sold more records. As of right now SHE'S the American Idol.

And who gives a rats ass if Adam's gay. He's the best singer and it ain't close. I don't understand homophobes. What business is it of your's? I'm not directing that at any one person. That's a general statement. Mind your own damn business.
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Postby brywool » Fri May 08, 2009 11:18 pm

madsplash wrote:
And who gives a rats ass if Adam's gay. He's the best singer and it ain't close. I don't understand homophobes. What business is it of your's? I'm not directing that at any one person. That's a general statement. Mind your own damn business.


wow, I actually agree with you on something.
Did Hell Freeze over? ;)

However, Clarkson is leaps and bounds above Underwood. Just is.
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Postby portland » Fri May 08, 2009 11:58 pm

brywool wrote:
madsplash wrote:
And who gives a rats ass if Adam's gay. He's the best singer and it ain't close. I don't understand homophobes. What business is it of your's? I'm not directing that at any one person. That's a general statement. Mind your own damn business.


wow, I actually agree with you on something.
Did Hell Freeze over? ;)

However, Clarkson is leaps and bounds above Underwood. Just is.





I like both Clarkson and Underwood - they are just different types of singers....I don't think one is better than the other, Clarkson rocks while Underwood is a counrty singer, the both have had considerable accomplishments.
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Postby bluejeangirl76 » Sat May 09, 2009 12:10 am

Vladan wrote:You know, I don't think anyone here has a problem with him preferring the company of men over woman (what Adam Lambert does in spare time is non of our business, but unfortunately some people like to express themselves and cram it down your throat, by making statements) Just becauce your gay, it doesn't mean you have to tell the world about it, nobody cares.


So let me ask a question - if I post a picture on my facebook of me kissing a guy, am I "cramming it down your throat" that I'm straight? Why shouldn't they be proud of their relationship as well?

I believe those who feel like these things are being shoved in their face are the only ones with the issues. If a gay couple posts a picture on their own facebook, or kiss in public, aren't they just doing the same things the straight population is doing? But instead, they're accused of purposely shoving it in your face. :roll: I say if you can't handle it (and by "you" I mean in general, not directed at anyone specific), then that's your problem, not theirs.
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Postby Vladan » Sat May 09, 2009 12:31 am

bluejeangirl76 wrote:
Vladan wrote:You know, I don't think anyone here has a problem with him preferring the company of men over woman (what Adam Lambert does in spare time is non of our business, but unfortunately some people like to express themselves and cram it down your throat, by making statements) Just becauce your gay, it doesn't mean you have to tell the world about it, nobody cares.


So let me ask a question - if I post a picture on my facebook of me kissing a guy, am I "cramming it down your throat" that I'm straight? Why shouldn't they be proud of their relationship as well?

I believe those who feel like these things are being shoved in their face are the only ones with the issues. If a gay couple posts a picture on their own facebook, or kiss in public, aren't they just doing the same things the straight population is doing? But instead, they're accused of purposely shoving it in your face. :roll: I say if you can't handle it (and by "you" I mean in general, not directed at anyone specific), then that's your problem, not theirs.


You have a valid point bluejeangirl76, however! I don't believe that my original point came across correctly (maybe because I'm Australian?, could be a culture thing) but probably my choice of words, but what I mean is, guys will kiss guys, you see it all time, girls will kiss guys, you see it all the time, on facebook, the world, everywhere, and nothing is thought of it. What I am saying when you see "two guys kissing, but making a statement of it like "WE ARE GAY AND WE ARE PROUD". Now that! that is pathetic, the world does not revolve them, and I couldn't give a shit. My gay friends even laugh at that crap, it's ridiculous. It's like a guy and a girl did the same, "WE ARE STRAIGHT AND WE ARE PROUD" - well I say get the f**k outa here with that! that's what I mean :)
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Postby Triple S » Sat May 09, 2009 12:40 am

Andrew wrote:This thread better stay on topic....AND RESPECTFULLY TOO.


Yes, A Little Respect please (even for this guy) - I love this song :wink:

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Postby RossValoryRocks » Sat May 09, 2009 12:41 am

YoungJRNY wrote:There goes his American Idol. He only screams anyway. I hate American Idol, I know the rating are huge, but there's only 1 AI, and that's Kelly Clarkson. There will never be another one.


Having heard your Guitar Hero vocals are you really in a position to criticize anyones vocal ability??? :lol: :D ;)
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Postby Ehwmatt » Sat May 09, 2009 12:46 am

bluejeangirl76 wrote:
Vladan wrote:You know, I don't think anyone here has a problem with him preferring the company of men over woman (what Adam Lambert does in spare time is non of our business, but unfortunately some people like to express themselves and cram it down your throat, by making statements) Just becauce your gay, it doesn't mean you have to tell the world about it, nobody cares.


So let me ask a question - if I post a picture on my facebook of me kissing a guy, am I "cramming it down your throat" that I'm straight? Why shouldn't they be proud of their relationship as well?

I believe those who feel like these things are being shoved in their face are the only ones with the issues. If a gay couple posts a picture on their own facebook, or kiss in public, aren't they just doing the same things the straight population is doing? But instead, they're accused of purposely shoving it in your face. :roll: I say if you can't handle it (and by "you" I mean in general, not directed at anyone specific), then that's your problem, not theirs.


You know, most reports of homophobia are pretty rampantly exaggerated. I had an openly gay kid on my college athletic team come and play for two years. Yeah, "fag" was part of our every day vocabulary and "gay" was a favored adjective to describe something unfavorable etc etc. One of your average gay rights or extreme liberal zealots would have been appalled to hear our conversations on the way home from games and such.

Anyway, this kid was not as manly as Clint Eastwood, but he wasn't flamboyant by any means. You weren't surprised to find out he was gay, per se, but it wasn't like he was completely effeminate and obvious. Anyway, we had no problems with the kid at all. I even had to share a hotel room with him once with another teammate. There was really no problem at all. He chilled with us, hung out with us etc. If there's any atmosphere for homophobia, it's the testosterone-heightened environment of sports and competition. So anyway, that's that. He's still in touch with us regularly and I still consider him a friend. I know other gays that I consider friends as well, though I haven't been as close to them as this kid.

With all that said, it doesn't mean I have to accept what they're doing as simply different from me or society or nature. Contrary to the Facebook example, identical straight behavior vs identical gay behavior is not identical at all because homosexuality is a deviant behavior, however sugarcoated you want to have it. Whatever homosexuality is caused by (I personally think most are born with genetic predisposition and a few choose), it is NOT NATURAL. Consider this: What would happen if every last man and woman on earth turned gay? No, please don't say "artificial insemination" you bleeding hearts. I don't have to like the parades, the constant overtures for me to affirm for them that it's ok, and the absurd notion of trying to change the definition of the word "marriage" (the key elements: man AND woman). This is the exact kind of thing that extreme gays think they are entitled to do: http://www.masscops.com/forums/new-engl ... h-sex.html ... just "because."

That just ain't right. So yes, cramming deviant social behavior down my throat is offensive to me. They can do whatever they want, date whoever they want, enter civil unions with whoever they want (give them the tax breaks/power of attorney/whatever else so they stop trying to change the definition of 'marriage'), and whatever else. But just because they aren't wired to behave naturally doesn't give them special rights. I'm not out to get them or stop them from doing most things, I just don't have to pretend to tow the social liberal party line and not have any problem with it.
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Postby Ehwmatt » Sat May 09, 2009 12:47 am

RossValoryRocks wrote:
YoungJRNY wrote:There goes his American Idol. He only screams anyway. I hate American Idol, I know the rating are huge, but there's only 1 AI, and that's Kelly Clarkson. There will never be another one.


Having heard your Guitar Hero vocals are you really in a position to criticize anyones vocal ability??? :lol: :D ;)


That was Prog wasn't it? Or did I miss something? :lol:
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Postby RossValoryRocks » Sat May 09, 2009 12:49 am

Ehwmatt wrote:
RossValoryRocks wrote:
YoungJRNY wrote:There goes his American Idol. He only screams anyway. I hate American Idol, I know the rating are huge, but there's only 1 AI, and that's Kelly Clarkson. There will never be another one.


Having heard your Guitar Hero vocals are you really in a position to criticize anyones vocal ability??? :lol: :D ;)


That was Prog wasn't it? Or did I miss something? :lol:


Was it??? They look alike I get confused...LOL
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Postby Vladan » Sat May 09, 2009 12:51 am

Ehwmatt wrote:
bluejeangirl76 wrote:
Vladan wrote:You know, I don't think anyone here has a problem with him preferring the company of men over woman (what Adam Lambert does in spare time is non of our business, but unfortunately some people like to express themselves and cram it down your throat, by making statements) Just becauce your gay, it doesn't mean you have to tell the world about it, nobody cares.


So let me ask a question - if I post a picture on my facebook of me kissing a guy, am I "cramming it down your throat" that I'm straight? Why shouldn't they be proud of their relationship as well?

I believe those who feel like these things are being shoved in their face are the only ones with the issues. If a gay couple posts a picture on their own facebook, or kiss in public, aren't they just doing the same things the straight population is doing? But instead, they're accused of purposely shoving it in your face. :roll: I say if you can't handle it (and by "you" I mean in general, not directed at anyone specific), then that's your problem, not theirs.


You know, most reports of homophobia are pretty rampantly exaggerated. I had an openly gay kid on my college athletic team come and play for two years. Yeah, "fag" was part of our every day vocabulary and "gay" was a favored adjective to describe something unfavorable etc etc. One of your average gay rights or extreme liberal zealots would have been appalled to hear our conversations on the way home from games and such.

Anyway, this kid was not as manly as Clint Eastwood, but he wasn't flamboyant by any means. You weren't surprised to find out he was gay, per se, but it wasn't like he was completely effeminate and obvious. Anyway, we had no problems with the kid at all. I even had to share a hotel room with him once with another teammate. There was really no problem at all. He chilled with us, hung out with us etc. If there's any atmosphere for homophobia, it's the testosterone-heightened environment of sports and competition. So anyway, that's that. He's still in touch with us regularly and I still consider him a friend. I know other gays that I consider friends as well, though I haven't been as close to them as this kid.

With all that said, it doesn't mean I have to accept what they're doing as simply different from me or society or nature. Contrary to the Facebook example, identical straight behavior vs identical gay behavior is not identical at all because homosexuality is a deviant behavior, however sugarcoated you want to have it. Whatever homosexuality is caused by (I personally think most are born with genetic predisposition and a few choose), it is NOT NATURAL. Consider this: What would happen if every last man and woman on earth turned gay? No, please don't say "artificial insemination" you bleeding hearts. I don't have to like the parades, the constant overtures for me to affirm for them that it's ok, and the absurd notion of trying to change the definition of the word "marriage" (the key elements: man AND woman). This is the exact kind of thing that extreme gays think they are entitled to do: http://www.masscops.com/forums/new-engl ... h-sex.html ... just "because."

That just ain't right. So yes, cramming deviant social behavior down my throat is offensive to me. They can do whatever they want, date whoever they want, enter civil unions with whoever they want (give them the tax breaks/power of attorney/whatever else so they stop trying to change the definition of 'marriage'), and whatever else. But just because they aren't wired to behave naturally doesn't give them special rights. I'm not out to get them or stop them from doing most things, I just don't have to pretend to tow the social liberal party line and not have any problem with it.


Wow - I didn't expect that. Well, I will have to go through and read this through, but! thanks for replying. Interesting read thus far!
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Postby bluejeangirl76 » Sat May 09, 2009 12:56 am

Vladan wrote:but what I mean is, guys will kiss guys, you see it all time, girls will kiss guys, you see it all the time, on facebook, the world, everywhere, and nothing is thought of it. What I am saying when you see "two guys kissing, but making a statement of it like "WE ARE GAY AND WE ARE PROUD". Now that! that is pathetic, the world does not revolve them, and I couldn't give a shit. My gay friends even laugh at that crap, it's ridiculous. It's like a guy and a girl did the same, "WE ARE STRAIGHT AND WE ARE PROUD" - well I say get the f**k outa here with that! that's what I mean :)


Ok, I see what you specifically mean... I read it the other way, because that happens a lot, where people take offense at the mere act of being open about it, whether there's a statement attached or not.

I'm kind of embarrassed to admit this, but I get a little tired of the cheerleading as well sometimes. I feel bad for thinking that because I have a number of people close to me that are gay. One person extremely close to me used to do that a lot and sometimes I found myself thinking "oh my god, knock it off already, you're making a bigger deal of it than anyone else, the rest of us don't care who you sleep with..."

But I generally do try to ignore that stuff, because I also understand why they do that. It's along the same line of thinking as Rosa Parks sitting at the front of the bus. "This is what I am, and it doesn't make me less of a person and I'm going to make the statement until all you racists (or homophobics) STFU and MYOB and treat me like I belong, because I do." I mean, you can't really blame someone for wanting to be treated well. We all want that. Unfortunately some people have to fight hard for it, and still may not get it. :(
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Postby Ehwmatt » Sat May 09, 2009 1:00 am

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Vladan wrote:but what I mean is, guys will kiss guys, you see it all time, girls will kiss guys, you see it all the time, on facebook, the world, everywhere, and nothing is thought of it. What I am saying when you see "two guys kissing, but making a statement of it like "WE ARE GAY AND WE ARE PROUD". Now that! that is pathetic, the world does not revolve them, and I couldn't give a shit. My gay friends even laugh at that crap, it's ridiculous. It's like a guy and a girl did the same, "WE ARE STRAIGHT AND WE ARE PROUD" - well I say get the f**k outa here with that! that's what I mean :)


Ok, I see what you specifically mean... I read it the other way, because that happens a lot, where people take offense at the mere act of being open about it, whether there's a statement attached or not.

I'm kind of embarrassed to admit this, but I get a little tired of the cheerleading as well sometimes. I feel bad for thinking that because I have a number of people close to me that are gay. One person extremely close to me used to do that a lot and sometimes I found myself thinking "oh my god, knock it off already, you're making a bigger deal of it than anyone else, the rest of us don't care who you sleep with..."

But I generally do try to ignore that stuff, because I also understand why they do that. It's along the same line of thinking as Rosa Parks sitting at the front of the bus. "This is what I am, and it doesn't make me less of a person and I'm going to make the statement until all you racists (or homophobics) STFU and MYOB and treat me like I belong, because I do."


You shouldn't feel embarrassed though. That's just the point. They make you feel bad about it when there is no reason for you to - you (presumably) didn't do anything against them. Their situation is nowhere near as bad as the blacks' situation was under Jim Crow, especially today in 2009.

EDIT: And to tack on to my gay teammate anecdote, we were once drinking and we asked him how he felt about the extremely flamboyant and verbal gays. He couldn't stand them! He said they made it a lot worse for all of them.
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Postby Vladan » Sat May 09, 2009 1:15 am

bluejeangirl76 wrote:
Vladan wrote:but what I mean is, guys will kiss guys, you see it all time, girls will kiss guys, you see it all the time, on facebook, the world, everywhere, and nothing is thought of it. What I am saying when you see "two guys kissing, but making a statement of it like "WE ARE GAY AND WE ARE PROUD". Now that! that is pathetic, the world does not revolve them, and I couldn't give a shit. My gay friends even laugh at that crap, it's ridiculous. It's like a guy and a girl did the same, "WE ARE STRAIGHT AND WE ARE PROUD" - well I say get the f**k outa here with that! that's what I mean :)


Ok, I see what you specifically mean... I read it the other way, because that happens a lot, where people take offense at the mere act of being open about it, whether there's a statement attached or not.

I'm kind of embarrassed to admit this, but I get a little tired of the cheerleading as well sometimes. I feel bad for thinking that because I have a number of people close to me that are gay. One person extremely close to me used to do that a lot and sometimes I found myself thinking "oh my god, knock it off already, you're making a bigger deal of it than anyone else, the rest of us don't care who you sleep with..."

But I generally do try to ignore that stuff, because I also understand why they do that. It's along the same line of thinking as Rosa Parks sitting at the front of the bus. "This is what I am, and it doesn't make me less of a person and I'm going to make the statement until all you racists (or homophobics) STFU and MYOB and treat me like I belong, because I do." I mean, you can't really blame someone for wanting to be treated well. We all want that. Unfortunately some people have to fight hard for it, and still may not get it. :(


Yeah that's cool, no worries. Yeah I know what you mean, totally. It's a tough situation, the cheerleading is annoying for a lot things, I guess not only sexuality. Yeah my original post was a bit "vague" so sorry about that! :) I'm glad we sorted that out.

And I guess, it really doesn't bother me as much as I make it out when I type this (who's the drama queen now?) haha, but it can get somewhat "annoying" but things could be worse. You know, of all the times I've gone to nightclubs all the blokes that got close and "friendly" on me, actually were more understanding when I politely, without being an ass about, gave them the impression this won't be working out, where appose to woman on the other hand... well! not so easy to get away from them lol, I often find it difficult :) unless they're pretty, then it's fine.


Ehwmatt wrote:EDIT: And to tack on to my gay teammate anecdote, we were once drinking and we asked him how he felt about the extremely flamboyant and verbal gays. He couldn't stand them! He said they made it a lot worse for all of them.


Damn, I could see how that make it more difficult. Yeah I guess we are all human in the end, people do crazy shit all time.
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Postby bluejeangirl76 » Sat May 09, 2009 1:37 am

Ehwmatt wrote:EDIT: And to tack on to my gay teammate anecdote, we were once drinking and we asked him how he felt about the extremely flamboyant and verbal gays. He couldn't stand them! He said they made it a lot worse for all of them.


That's probably a pretty common feeling. I feel the same way about obnoxious, bitchy, dramatic, women. Stereotypes have to come from somewhere, but when they get applied to the whole (and I admit to stereotyping in certain cases too - I think we're all guilty of that at one time or another), and when you're one of the ones it does not apply to, like your friend says, it makes it worse for those who don't fit it.

I have two really close friends who I can very safely say don't fit the stereotypical "catty dramatic backstabbing female" stereotype. And this is exactly WHY the three of us get along so well. I just aced a person out of my life because she's that exact stereotype times 100.
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Postby brywool » Sat May 09, 2009 1:41 am

gay or not, the guy can sing... BUT I could not listen to an album's worth of his voice. It's good in small doses.
NO. He's NOT Steve F'ing Perry. But he's Arnel F'ing Pineda and I'm okay with that.
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Postby Rhiannon » Sat May 09, 2009 1:43 am

bluejeangirl76 wrote:I have two really close friends who I can very safely say don't fit the stereotypical "catty dramatic backstabbing female" stereotype. And this is exactly WHY the three of us get along so well. I just aced a person out of my life because she's that exact stereotype times 100.


...And I'm sure you're already thanking yourself for that. :wink:
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