MOVING ADVICE?

[epresley]

Friends, I'm losing my grant-funded job and have taken a job that requires a move, away from my kids' friends, away from our beautiful house we built two years ago, new schools, and an ugly town to boot. I have two teenage daughters and one daughter that is nine. All three are bawling their eyes out, and I feel as guilty and upset as I have about things in a long, long time. The move will happen in a month, so the timeline is short as we prepare our house for selling, etc., etc.

Have any of you gone thru something similar and/or put your kids thru something like this? HELP!!!!!!

Tony

[JH'sTXfan]

No advice, but I'm sorry to hear you're going through that. Kids are resilient though, I moved mine from East Tx to nearly West TX with plenty of protests from them. In a few months they had a lot of new friends. Good luck on your move, Tony.

[Babyblue]

So sorry to hear this Tony, they will bounce back kids always do.I will keep you & your family in my prayers.

[iceberg]

Friends, I'm losing my grant-funded job and have taken a job that requires a move, away from my kids' friends, away from our beautiful house we built two years ago, new schools, and an ugly town to boot. I have two teenage daughters and one daughter that is nine. All three are bawling their eyes out, and I feel as guilty and upset as I have about things in a long, long time. The move will happen in a month, so the timeline is short as we prepare our house for selling, etc., etc.

Have any of you gone thru something similar and/or put your kids thru something like this? HELP!!!!!!

Tony

i remember it well from my own childhood. we moved around a lot and i hit 2 elementary schools, 2 jr high schools, 2 high schools and 2 colleges in my overall time w/my dad. for my sr year in high school he drove 300 miles every weekend to spend at home and lived a year alone just so i didn't have to graduate from a new school after only 1 year (high school).

i'm sure you also will do all you can but while i do remember it sucked at the time and yea, i cried like a 10 year old (cause i was) i also had older brothers and sisters that made it better the 1st time. after that you just got used to it. in the end, i can tell you your own experiences and perspectives will change as you see/live life in other areas. while they don't understand that now, they will in time.

sometimes you can't fix everything, you just have to get them through it.

[epresley]

I'm moving to FAR West Texas, Crane to be exact, not exactly the Garden Spot of Texas!!!!!!!! Ugly, no trees, no grass. Other than that, a find place to live!!!!!!! Many thanks ALL for the advice, ear and prayers!

[Don]

I think it's a bit easier now days. Facebook helps and video chatting so the bonds don't have to be snapped so quickly. Of course, for a few friends who are really close, you will have to spend some money and visit them or have them visit your children at your new place. Not very often but since it's the summer, at least one get together would probably be adequate.

[Michigan Girl]

geez, T ...sorry to hear this!!
Nothing I can say that will be of any use, at all!!
Someone did this to me, years ago, and I'm still
crying!!

[epresley]

geez, T ...sorry to hear this!!
Nothing I can say that will be of any use, at all!!
Someone did this to me, years ago, and I'm still
crying!!

Great MG, just great......................

[Behshad]

Ah , dont look at it as a negative thing man. Kids will adapt and adjust to anything. Look at this as a fresh start where you (and the family) start a new chapter of your life. Moving away from friends & family will also make you appreciate them more. Cheer up , youre doing the right thing and your kids will have new friends in no time. years from now they will realize that it wasnt that bad at all, because of all the new people they meet between now and then that they wouldnt have met otherwise

[artist4perry]

Tony, I used to be a military wife. I know it is hard but in time everyone will adjust. I am sorry though for your job loss and for the stressful you and your family will deal with in the near future. Hold on to each other and put each other first and it will be O.K.

[epresley]

Thanks everyone, it is weighing heavily on my mind 24/7. New job, new town, kids displaced, wife displaced, etc., etc. Three daughters is not picnic, but I wouldn't trade them for the world. I just don't want to mess up.

[hoagiepete]

I've been closely lurking on this thread, as we are moving too, but luckily for us, for much happier reasons. Sorry about your circumstances. Can't believe the coincidence though.

We also have three daughters (2 in college and one in Jr. High). The older two are pissed because we will be selling the only home they have known and will have nowhere to stay if they want to come here to visit their buds when on breaks from college. The youngster is thrilled. We thought it would be the other way around.

My wife and I purchased a business in our hometown, comletely different from what we have done for the past 27 years. Going to be exciting, but nerve racking. If there are any Swedes out there, let me know as it is related to Swedish heritage.

[DrFU]

Kids take their cue on how to react from the parents, to a great extent. So lose the guilt; you are supporting your family in crappy economic times, which is what parents are supposed to do. Love them, let them express their negative feelings and fears in appropriate ways, and give them things to look forward to at short intervals at first.

We moved our crew twice; they are now all college grads and grateful that they got some perspective on how limited the outlook in the original small town was.