20 Year High School Reunion, Yes or No? If no, why?

[Ratgirl]

My 20th is next year and I highly doubt I'll go.. I went to 2 different highschools and most of the people I used to talk to are on
Facebook. Why go.. when I can just message those who I want to meet up with and save money.

I did read somewhere at one of my highschools in Miami it was $120 pp for a "red carpet" type of event. Uhh? I sure can think of
at least 100 other reasons to spend $120 on.

[mikemarrs]

My 20th is next year also.I was never a real popular guy but i did actually have quite a few buddies that i hung around or did things with occasionally.

However in the last few years besides my immediate family i do not hang out or see anyone.I had two or three people i consider lifetime friends from childhood but i have not seen any of my two or three true friends in quite a few years because i sort of dropped out of sight and want to be left alone.

I do not have Facebook or Myspace or anything where people can contact or find me period.I enjoy and prefer to be at home most of the time and i just want to raise my kids and lead a quiet existence.My girlfriend of 15 years hates me being a recluse but oh well....

[scarygirl]

I am still on the fence. Hard to believe it has been 20 years since high school.

[Don]

Facebook has made full scale reunions a thing of the past. The people that still give a damn about you will usually have reached out through FB already. We can pretty much see through the photos and posts how they have ended up with their lot in life. If they aren't posting or sharing with you as a friend, chances are pretty good that they're not going to open up about their life just by seeing you in person.
All that happens at a reunion is you leave making empty promises about keeping in touch with a bunch of people you never were really friends with anyway. Why go through that? The class mates I know from FB and communicate with have always done a private reunion, be at a bar or someone's house during the Christmas holidays. Why pay to go hang out with the other 90% when you can spend your time with the ones that actually care?

[tammy]

I had/have no desire to go to any high school reunion (it's already over 30 yrs)...I hated high school & all the inner turmoil I constantly felt having to go to a place basically run by "popular cheerleaders & jocks", where I clearly didn't fit & didn't want to. I couldn't understand how these "popular kids" were so snooty or snotty when they had great hair, latest fashion, cars, etc. My clothes mostly came from church basement rummage sales. I wanted to be invisible and I think I succeeded. But, for some reason I have always been curious about what they now look like since we are all middle-aged. I'm not on facebook. One of the things I can never reconcile in my mind & which I still question the universe about when I look at my old yearbook is: "who were those people?" "did they really come from the same cosmos?" "if I believe in a creator, did God really create 'that chick' who was so nasty to me & others?" oh, well...just the way I think. It's too bad I didn't get the chance to focus on the academic part of H.S., but I found that desire later on to get a college degree.

[Arkansas]

You see these same questions in Dear Abby this time every spring. It's the typical thought process...and it's normal. Everybody has the same fears. Just drop all the crap, expect nothing, and give a little more. You'll have fun and be glad you went. And even if you don't enjoy it much, then you'll know not to go next time. Life long regrets are usually around the 'what if' question, rather than the 'been there done that' knowing.


later~

[Abitaman]

I have not been to any of mine. My 30th is next year, and have no desire to go. My school wanted to have two nights, one bring your spouse night, and the next just you. Some one still can't get over the past and carries a flame for someone. I was called to go to my 25th, I asked the lady why? So I can spend a night with 90% of people I could not stand. Get real. I am proud of my life and do not need anyone from the past telling me their lies or acting like they pretend about me or anyone else there.
My good friends that I knew in school, I talk to every now and then. Why do I need a reunion for that? If I have talked to them since school, well they were not important to me. Do I need some past most popular telling about all their divorces?

I say don't go, waste of time and money reliving the past.