Are You Where You Want to Be?

[StoneCold]

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been. Reflect on the path you've taken and on the obstacles you've come upon. Think about which ones hindered you and ask yourself why you let them continue to hold you back from going where you want to go. Once you look at them clearly you'll find that they were not really that big to cross and you'll see that you are the only one thats standing in your way and have put many of the hurdles there in front of you. Let go of some burdens that you don't need to carry and you'll have more strength to proceed forward and jump any hurdles.

You can either stand still where you are and remain stagnant and have regrets at the end of the road or you can believe strongly enough and be determined to go where you want to be. You either stay stuck with I coulda, I shoulda and what might have been or say I can and I will.....it's up to you. It's never too late to change direction and move forward.

Don't put a big part of yourself in the closet and leave it there in the dark to gather only dust, wither and die... bring it out in the light, AND ADMIT YOU ARE A GAY PERSON and let that creative part of you live....things can only grow with light and feeding. You're writing is a part of you just like your leg, arm, hand, etc......you wouldn't intentionally cut off your hand would you? So why are you cutting off your creativity???

Just my 2 cents.

i need some Advil

[lights1961]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been. Reflect on the path you've taken and on the obstacles you've come upon. Think about which ones hindered you and ask yourself why you let them continue to hold you back from going where you want to go. Once you look at them clearly you'll find that they were not really that big to cross and you'll see that you are the only one thats standing in your way and have put many of the hurdles there in front of you. Let go of some burdens that you don't need to carry and you'll have more strength to proceed forward and jump any hurdles.

You can either stand still where you are and remain stagnant and have regrets at the end of the road or you can believe strongly enough and be determined to go where you want to be. You either stay stuck with I coulda, I shoulda and what might have been or say I can and I will.....it's up to you. It's never too late to change direction and move forward.

Don't put a big part of yourself in the closet and leave it there in the dark to gather only dust, wither and die... bring it out in the light, AND ADMIT YOU ARE A GAY PERSON and let that creative part of you live....things can only grow with light and feeding. You're writing is a part of you just like your leg, arm, hand, etc......you wouldn't intentionally cut off your hand would you? So why are you cutting off your creativity???

Just my 2 cents.

i need some Advil

That blue hair in your avatar would give anyone a headache every day... and the reason it gives you a headache is she might be right???

[Angel]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been. Reflect on the path you've taken and on the obstacles you've come upon. Think about which ones hindered you and ask yourself why you let them continue to hold you back from going where you want to go. Once you look at them clearly you'll find that they were not really that big to cross and you'll see that you are the only one thats standing in your way and have put many of the hurdles there in front of you. Let go of some burdens that you don't need to carry and you'll have more strength to proceed forward and jump any hurdles.

You can either stand still where you are and remain stagnant and have regrets at the end of the road or you can believe strongly enough and be determined to go where you want to be. You either stay stuck with I coulda, I shoulda and what might have been or say I can and I will.....it's up to you. It's never too late to change direction and move forward.

Don't put a big part of yourself in the closet and leave it there in the dark to gather only dust, wither and die... bring it out in the light, AND ADMIT YOU ARE A GAY PERSON and let that creative part of you live....things can only grow with light and feeding. You're writing is a part of you just like your leg, arm, hand, etc......you wouldn't intentionally cut off your hand would you? So why are you cutting off your creativity???

Just my 2 cents.

i need some Advil

I'm impressed, you learned how to alter a quote AND you even spelled all the words right!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[stevew2]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been. Reflect on the path you've taken and on the obstacles you've come upon. Think about which ones hindered you and ask yourself why you let them continue to hold you back from going where you want to go. Once you look at them clearly you'll find that they were not really that big to cross and you'll see that you are the only one thats standing in your way and have put many of the hurdles there in front of you. Let go of some burdens that you don't need to carry and you'll have more strength to proceed forward and jump any hurdles.

You can either stand still where you are and remain stagnant and have regrets at the end of the road or you can believe strongly enough and be determined to go where you want to be. You either stay stuck with I coulda, I shoulda and what might have been or say I can and I will.....it's up to you. It's never too late to change direction and move forward.

Don't put a big part of yourself in the closet and leave it there in the dark to gather only dust, wither and die... bring it out in the light, AND ADMIT YOU ARE A GAY PERSON and let that creative part of you live....things can only grow with light and feeding. You're writing is a part of you just like your leg, arm, hand, etc......you wouldn't intentionally cut off your hand would you? So why are you cutting off your creativity???

Just my 2 cents.

i need some Advil

That blue hair in your avatar would give anyone a headache every day... and the reason it gives you a headache is she might be right???

lol, she problaly is .It s just to deep and to many fuckin words, reminds me of my ex

[Babyblue]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been. Reflect on the path you've taken and on the obstacles you've come upon. Think about which ones hindered you and ask yourself why you let them continue to hold you back from going where you want to go. Once you look at them clearly you'll find that they were not really that big to cross and you'll see that you are the only one thats standing in your way and have put many of the hurdles there in front of you. Let go of some burdens that you don't need to carry and you'll have more strength to proceed forward and jump any hurdles.

You can either stand still where you are and remain stagnant and have regrets at the end of the road or you can believe strongly enough and be determined to go where you want to be. You either stay stuck with I coulda, I shoulda and what might have been or say I can and I will.....it's up to you. It's never too late to change direction and move forward.

Don't put a big part of yourself in the closet and leave it there in the dark to gather only dust, wither and die... bring it out in the light, AND ADMIT YOU ARE A GAY PERSON and let that creative part of you live....things can only grow with light and feeding. You're writing is a part of you just like your leg, arm, hand, etc......you wouldn't intentionally cut off your hand would you? So why are you cutting off your creativity???

Just my 2 cents.

i need some Advil

[larryfromnextdoor]

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been..

geesh.. thank you mike brady..

"alone we can only move buckets, but together we can drain rivers.."

"wherever you go, there you are."

"by tattling on your friends, you're really just tattling on yourself...by tattling on your friends,
you are just telling them that you're a tattletale"

[Lula]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

dude!! i received my master's degree at 40! i just turned 44 and i am happy. there are always things to work towards. i am one of the lucky ones making a living doing what i love, i have an awesome baby boy, and i look good in skinny jeans

[bluejeangirl76]

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been..

geesh.. thank you mike brady..

"alone we can only move buckets, but together we can drain rivers.."

"wherever you go, there you are."

"by tattling on your friends, you're really just tattling on yourself...by tattling on your friends,
you are just telling them that you're a tattletale"

"Mom always said, don't play ball in the house!!"

[larryfromnextdoor]

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been..

geesh.. thank you mike brady..

"alone we can only move buckets, but together we can drain rivers.."

"wherever you go, there you are."

"by tattling on your friends, you're really just tattling on yourself...by tattling on your friends,
you are just telling them that you're a tattletale"

"Mom always said, don't play ball in the house!!"

.....

[DrFU]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.
And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.
And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

dude!! i received my master's degree at 40! i just turned 44 and i am happy. there are always things to work towards. i am one of the lucky ones making a living doing what i love, i have an awesome baby boy, and i look good in skinny jeans

you rock, Sistah (esp. the skinny jeans ) ...

S2M -- average life expectancy for a US male is almost 79 years. You got roughly four decades ahead; you gonna use it to sit around and admire your self-sabotage problem or get off your can and do something about it?

[S2M]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.
And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.
And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

dude!! i received my master's degree at 40! i just turned 44 and i am happy. there are always things to work towards. i am one of the lucky ones making a living doing what i love, i have an awesome baby boy, and i look good in skinny jeans

you rock, Sistah (esp. the skinny jeans ) ...

S2M -- average life expectancy for a US male is almost 79 years. You got roughly four decades ahead; you gonna use it to sit around and admire your self-sabotage problem or get off your can and do something about it?

Perhaps it is just a real bad mid-life crisis.

[Blueskies]

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been..

geesh.. thank you mike brady..

"alone we can only move buckets, but together we can drain rivers.."

"wherever you go, there you are."

"by tattling on your friends, you're really just tattling on yourself...by tattling on your friends,
you are just telling them that you're a tattletale"

If youre honest with yourself and others then theres no need to worry about "tattling".

[Angel]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

dude!! i received my master's degree at 40! i just turned 44 and i am happy. there are always things to work towards. i am one of the lucky ones making a living doing what i love, i have an awesome baby boy, and i look good in skinny jeans

I am just about finished with my masters and I'm 36 and I would dare say that the majority of people that I'm in school with right now are in their late 30's to late 40's....and fair number are in their 50's....it's the way things are now....it's never too late to do anything.

[Angel]

lol thats why good lord gave as fingers and

Nah, it's not the same.....

[Blueskies]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been. Reflect on the path you've taken and on the obstacles you've come upon. Think about which ones hindered you and ask yourself why you let them continue to hold you back from going where you want to go. Once you look at them clearly you'll find that they were not really that big to cross and you'll see that you are the only one thats standing in your way and have put many of the hurdles there in front of you. Let go of some burdens that you don't need to carry and you'll have more strength to proceed forward and jump any hurdles.

You can either stand still where you are and remain stagnant and have regrets at the end of the road or you can believe strongly enough and be determined to go where you want to be. You either stay stuck with I coulda, I shoulda and what might have been or say I can and I will.....it's up to you. It's never too late to change direction and move forward.

Don't put a big part of yourself in the closet and leave it there in the dark to gather only dust, wither and die... bring it out in the light, AND ADMIT YOU ARE A GAY PERSON and let that creative part of you live....things can only grow with light and feeding. You're writing is a part of you just like your leg, arm, hand, etc......you wouldn't intentionally cut off your hand would you? So why are you cutting off your creativity???

Just my 2 cents.

i need some Advil

That blue hair in your avatar would give anyone a headache every day... and the reason it gives you a headache is she might be right???

Thanks, Rick!

[Blueskies]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been. Reflect on the path you've taken and on the obstacles you've come upon. Think about which ones hindered you and ask yourself why you let them continue to hold you back from going where you want to go. Once you look at them clearly you'll find that they were not really that big to cross and you'll see that you are the only one thats standing in your way and have put many of the hurdles there in front of you. Let go of some burdens that you don't need to carry and you'll have more strength to proceed forward and jump any hurdles.

You can either stand still where you are and remain stagnant and have regrets at the end of the road or you can believe strongly enough and be determined to go where you want to be. You either stay stuck with I coulda, I shoulda and what might have been or say I can and I will.....it's up to you. It's never too late to change direction and move forward.

Don't put a big part of yourself in the closet and leave it there in the dark to gather only dust, wither and die... bring it out in the light, AND ADMIT YOU ARE A GAY PERSON and let that creative part of you live....things can only grow with light and feeding. You're writing is a part of you just like your leg, arm, hand, etc......you wouldn't intentionally cut off your hand would you? So why are you cutting off your creativity???

Just my 2 cents.

i need some Advil

Go back to posting obnoxious pics and saying someone or somethings gay in every post and don't try to think , then you'll feel better.

[Ehwmatt]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been. Reflect on the path you've taken and on the obstacles you've come upon. Think about which ones hindered you and ask yourself why you let them continue to hold you back from going where you want to go. Once you look at them clearly you'll find that they were not really that big to cross and you'll see that you are the only one thats standing in your way and have put many of the hurdles there in front of you. Let go of some burdens that you don't need to carry and you'll have more strength to proceed forward and jump any hurdles.

You can either stand still where you are and remain stagnant and have regrets at the end of the road or you can believe strongly enough and be determined to go where you want to be. You either stay stuck with I coulda, I shoulda and what might have been or say I can and I will.....it's up to you. It's never too late to change direction and move forward.

Don't put a big part of yourself in the closet and leave it there in the dark to gather only dust, wither and die... bring it out in the light, AND ADMIT YOU ARE A GAY PERSON and let that creative part of you live....things can only grow with light and feeding. You're writing is a part of you just like your leg, arm, hand, etc......you wouldn't intentionally cut off your hand would you? So why are you cutting off your creativity???

Just my 2 cents.

i need some Advil

Go back to posting obnoxious pics and saying someone or somethings gay in every post and don't try to think , then you'll feel better.

"Go back?"

He never stopped

You the man Steve

[Blueskies]

He tried to think there for a minute and it wasn't good for him. Thinking gives him a headache.

[stevew2]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been. Reflect on the path you've taken and on the obstacles you've come upon. Think about which ones hindered you and ask yourself why you let them continue to hold you back from going where you want to go. Once you look at them clearly you'll find that they were not really that big to cross and you'll see that you are the only one thats standing in your way and have put many of the hurdles there in front of you. Let go of some burdens that you don't need to carry and you'll have more strength to proceed forward and jump any hurdles.

You can either stand still where you are and remain stagnant and have regrets at the end of the road or you can believe strongly enough and be determined to go where you want to be. You either stay stuck with I coulda, I shoulda and what might have been or say I can and I will.....it's up to you. It's never too late to change direction and move forward.

Don't put a big part of yourself in the closet and leave it there in the dark to gather only dust, wither and die... bring it out in the light, AND ADMIT YOU ARE A GAY PERSON and let that creative part of you live....things can only grow with light and feeding. You're writing is a part of you just like your leg, arm, hand, etc......you wouldn't intentionally cut off your hand would you? So why are you cutting off your creativity???

Just my 2 cents.

i need some Advil

Go back to posting obnoxious pics and saying someone or somethings gay in every post and don't try to think , then you'll feel better.

thats what im good at,ill stick to it, makes me feel wonderful

[stevew2]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

You won't know where you're going if you don't know where you've been. Reflect on the path you've taken and on the obstacles you've come upon. Think about which ones hindered you and ask yourself why you let them continue to hold you back from going where you want to go. Once you look at them clearly you'll find that they were not really that big to cross and you'll see that you are the only one thats standing in your way and have put many of the hurdles there in front of you. Let go of some burdens that you don't need to carry and you'll have more strength to proceed forward and jump any hurdles.

You can either stand still where you are and remain stagnant and have regrets at the end of the road or you can believe strongly enough and be determined to go where you want to be. You either stay stuck with I coulda, I shoulda and what might have been or say I can and I will.....it's up to you. It's never too late to change direction and move forward.

Don't put a big part of yourself in the closet and leave it there in the dark to gather only dust, wither and die... bring it out in the light, AND ADMIT YOU ARE A GAY PERSON and let that creative part of you live....things can only grow with light and feeding. You're writing is a part of you just like your leg, arm, hand, etc......you wouldn't intentionally cut off your hand would you? So why are you cutting off your creativity???

Just my 2 cents.

i need some Advil

Go back to posting obnoxious pics and saying someone or somethings gay in every post and don't try to think , then you'll feel better.

"Go back?"

He never stopped

You the man Steve

did you get rid of your hangover?

[Angel]

You say that like it is your choice......

It makes it easier to cope if I tell myself it's my choice.

[stevew2]

lol thats why good lord gave as fingers and

Nah, it's not the same.....

get one of these
or this

Nah, I'll just continue to practice celebacy.....

I bet you play scissor hands once in awhile

[Angel]

I bet you play scissor hands once in awhile

I'm not entirely sure what that means.

[Ehwmatt]

did you get rid of your hangover?

I guess, i wasn't hungover, didn't drink a drop last night, just feelin after effects of Saturday night. How about you sir? Play some Friga lines to sweat it out?

[SherriBerry]

You guys are the best!! I am so glad that I'm moving - I'm worried about not having a job right away, but I have time to figure things out and get out of this huge rut I've been stuck in! It's time to dream some new goals and make them happen. I don't know what happened - I think I felt limited by the idea that I was running out of time and just started focussing on getting through the day instead of living it, but if I have about 40 years ahead, that puts it in perspective. It's never too late.

[Sarah]

I'm only 23 and I have the midlife crisis going on already too. I pushed myself to get through college in 4 years (my parents would stop paying if I went longer), chose a major subject I was interested in (Classics, which is Greek and Roman studies) because I heard from *everyone* that "hardly anyone actually uses their major in their job", and shortly after I graduated, employment tanked. So basically I have no idea what to do with a B.A. in Classics, and my several years of job experience in low-tier IT work is doing fuckall to help either, since I don't have certs or an education to back it up, and most of my experience was helping UCLA students print their PDFs or install MS Office. I've been partially employed for almost 11 months, and $200/week from my part time job (which isn't willing to give more hours) doesn't pay the bills here in Los Angeles. I've basically been living scared for over a year now, never sure where I'll be by the next month.

My parents feel like they've raised a failure, and that they wasted thousands of bucks for me to go to UCLA and basically emerge with just a few more qualifications than a high school grad. I'm constantly questioned by friends and family alike about if I really want to do IT. But they don't offer alternative suggestions, and it's like, how can I even know what else I can do? I think I might have to break down and shell out the money for an IT cert, but who knows if that will even help.

Basically I wish I really knew what would make me happy, and that it wouldn't kill my spirits so much when I don't get calls back from apps or interviews. It's really hard to keep trying.

[Ehwmatt]

I'm only 23 and I have the midlife crisis going on already too. I pushed myself to get through college in 4 years (my parents would stop paying if I went longer), chose a major subject I was interested in (Classics, which is Greek and Roman studies) because I heard from *everyone* that "hardly anyone actually uses their major in their job", and shortly after I graduated, employment tanked. So basically I have no idea what to do with a B.A. in Classics, and my several years of job experience in low-tier IT work is doing fuckall to help either, since I don't have certs or an education to back it up, and most of my experience was helping UCLA students print their PDFs or install MS Office. I've been partially employed for almost 11 months, and $200/week from my part time job (which isn't willing to give more hours) doesn't pay the bills here in Los Angeles.

My parents feel like they've raised a failure, and that they wasted thousands of bucks for me to go to UCLA and basically emerge with just a few more qualifications than a high school grad. I'm constantly questioned by friends and family alike about if I really want to do IT. But they don't offer alternative suggestions, and it's like, how can I even know what else I can do? I think I might have to break down and shell out the money for an IT cert, but who knows if that will even help.

Basically I wish I really knew what would make me happy, and that it wouldn't kill my spirits so much when I don't get calls back from apps or interviews. It's really hard to keep trying.

I didn't know you were that young, I've seen your posts about havin a hard time findin a job before though. At any rate, that is rough having that Classics degree, especially right now. My best friend got a History degree and he's having a similarly tough time. Is there any market for getting a teaching cert with that kinda degree? Not sure if there's a market for that in high schools...

Just remember, it's rough for every one right now... try and keep your head above water and don't get too, too down... too young to get too down.

EDIT: If there's anyone that is going back to college right now or if there are some younger people, that oft-repeated axiom that you "Don't use your major in your job" is only half true. Sure, if you go and get an Econ degree or a Marketing degree you might not use a lot of those theories that are steeped in academia and not based much in the real world, but a lot of companies are still very interested in hiring people with business training/degrees of some kind. It kinda sucks but it's the way it is, at least around here.

[Playitloudforme]

I'm only 23 and I have the midlife crisis going on already too. I pushed myself to get through college in 4 years (my parents would stop paying if I went longer), chose a major subject I was interested in (Classics, which is Greek and Roman studies) because I heard from *everyone* that "hardly anyone actually uses their major in their job", and shortly after I graduated, employment tanked. So basically I have no idea what to do with a B.A. in Classics, and my several years of job experience in low-tier IT work is doing fuckall to help either, since I don't have certs or an education to back it up, and most of my experience was helping UCLA students print their PDFs or install MS Office. I've been partially employed for almost 11 months, and $200/week from my part time job (which isn't willing to give more hours) doesn't pay the bills here in Los Angeles.

My parents feel like they've raised a failure, and that they wasted thousands of bucks for me to go to UCLA and basically emerge with just a few more qualifications than a high school grad. I'm constantly questioned by friends and family alike about if I really want to do IT. But they don't offer alternative suggestions, and it's like, how can I even know what else I can do? I think I might have to break down and shell out the money for an IT cert, but who knows if that will even help.

Basically I wish I really knew what would make me happy, and that it wouldn't kill my spirits so much when I don't get calls back from apps or interviews. It's really hard to keep trying.

Sarah, at least you have the degree. That opens more doors than all the damn experience does. I've been on contract since March, getting extended month by month, never knowing if this month is my last. In the 3 months I've lived in Seattle, I've sent out at least a resume a day, sometimes more. I've had ONE interview out of all of it. One. And they turned me down cause I don't have that frickin' piece of paper. Put me up against someone else with the same skill set, but THEY have the degree...guess who gets picked?

It's just sucky all over. LA's worse too, as unemployment is like at...12%? My brother suggested that I get into business for myself. I've got a great idea, party planning, event planning, yada yada yada... but no frickin' capital to start it with. And right now with the economy, no one would SPEND money to hire someone to do a party, unless it's a wedding, and that's not my area of expertise. So.. I keep plugging away, hoping that sooner or later my efforts will be rewarded. But that degree at least opens doors. I can't tell you how many I can't even bother applying for because I DON'T have a degree.

Maybe I'll change my addy to lookingformrgoodbar....

[bluejeangirl76]

You guys are the best!! I am so glad that I'm moving - I'm worried about not having a job right away, but I have time to figure things out and get out of this huge rut I've been stuck in! It's time to dream some new goals and make them happen. I don't know what happened - I think I felt limited by the idea that I was running out of time and just started focussing on getting through the day instead of living it, but if I have about 40 years ahead, that puts it in perspective. It's never too late.

Some people just accept defeat and choose to stay miserbale or to just give things up and blame everything on something else because it seems too hard. Congratulations on not being one of those people.

I've done a lot of things in the last 18 months that I never thought I would do and many of them turned out great. Last time I moved, the job I had lined up fell through the week I was moving, and I was out of a job (and really depressed) for the first 18 of the last 36 months. Then it was a temp agency that I hated, but through it, I met the person who is now my department head, and I've been here and happy for 1 year as of tomorrow. And it was a job opportunity that I never expected AND in the field I wanted to be in... random email out of the blue from her (that I got on my b-day last year) telling me that she was moving offices and wanted me to come with her. I was miserable at a boring place that was through the temp agency and it could not have come at a better time.

Things will work out as they are supposed to and it isn't always an easy ride getting there. Sometimes you have to hit the lowest so that you can appreciate the good things more when they do come.

[StoneCold]

I'm only 23 and I have the midlife crisis going on already too. I pushed myself to get through college in 4 years (my parents would stop paying if I went longer), chose a major subject I was interested in (Classics, which is Greek and Roman studies) because I heard from *everyone* that "hardly anyone actually uses their major in their job", and shortly after I graduated, employment tanked. So basically I have no idea what to do with a B.A. in Classics, and my several years of job experience in low-tier IT work is doing fuckall to help either, since I don't have certs or an education to back it up, and most of my experience was helping UCLA students print their PDFs or install MS Office. I've been partially employed for almost 11 months, and $200/week from my part time job (which isn't willing to give more hours) doesn't pay the bills here in Los Angeles. I've basically been living scared for over a year now, never sure where I'll be by the next month.

My parents feel like they've raised a failure, and that they wasted thousands of bucks for me to go to UCLA and basically emerge with just a few more qualifications than a high school grad. I'm constantly questioned by friends and family alike about if I really want to do IT. But they don't offer alternative suggestions, and it's like, how can I even know what else I can do? I think I might have to break down and shell out the money for an IT cert, but who knows if that will even help.

Basically I wish I really knew what would make me happy, and that it wouldn't kill my spirits so much when I don't get calls back from apps or interviews. It's really hard to keep trying.

You could get a teaching credential and go where they need teachers. I think you'd be great at it.