Are You Where You Want to Be?

[SherriBerry]

It isn't even New Year's, but I'm in the kind of mood where I'm looking around and questioning every decision I ever made. Some were fine, but I would say that at least several were not. An old friend e-mailed about our 20th high school reunion next summer, which of course got me thinking. When I was in high school, I couldn't wait to get out of my hometown and I had to look at how I ended up back here for so long!

It looks like I'm quitting my job and moving soon ( a start), but I was curious if anyone else was looking around and wondering what happened? Is 37 too early for a mid-life crisis?

[JasonD]

It isn't even New Year's, but I'm in the kind of mood where I'm looking around and questioning every decision I ever made. Some were fine, but I would say that at least several were not. An old friend e-mailed about our 20th high school reunion next summer, which of course got me thinking. When I was in high school, I couldn't wait to get out of my hometown and I had to look at how I ended up back here for so long!

It looks like I'm quitting my job and moving soon ( a start), but I was curious if anyone else was looking around and wondering what happened? Is 37 too early for a mid-life crisis?

If it is then I’m in trouble. I’m 31 & already wish I could retire. I’m determined to make 2010 a great year. I have about a dozen resolutions lined up for January 1st. You’re not alone in questioning the decisions that you’ve made. I think we all do that at times. Career-wise I make good money, but I don’t have the kind of job that I could do till I retire. My days are numbered & I am well aware of that. Hopefully, I’ll have my house paid off before I hit that career brick wall. I have a 15-year mortgage that I’m several years into & so I have my fingers crossed.

Try not to worry too much about things you cannot change. Summer is a long time away. I hope you enjoy your high school reunion.

[artist4perry]

I redefined myself in 2005. At the age of 42 I went back to school and persued becoming an art teacher. I now teach, and create art. Lady the future is ahead........choose the path you wish to go.

[portland]

I am getting my Real Estate License.....and hopefully leaving my current job as I am worn out!!! I think we all to some extent want to change some of the things we have done....but at least we can!!!! Onward!!!

[A. M. Scott]

It isn't even New Year's, but I'm in the kind of mood where I'm looking around and questioning every decision I ever made. Some were fine, but I would say that at least several were not. An old friend e-mailed about our 20th high school reunion next summer, which of course got me thinking. When I was in high school, I couldn't wait to get out of my hometown and I had to look at how I ended up back here for so long!

It looks like I'm quitting my job and moving soon ( a start), but I was curious if anyone else was looking around and wondering what happened? Is 37 too early for a mid-life crisis?

Hey Sherri, that's not early at all! I'm 32 and I'm setting up to move on South Carolina in 24 months. I'll pack up my own business and go hopefully. I live in Italy so that was not an easy decision to make. I really understand you!

Alex Mark Scott

[StevePerryHair]

Yes there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run
There's still time to change the road your on

is that a cut and paste or your own words to live by

[KDOUBLEU]

Im 48 years old and Im pretty sick of what I do everyday. Live your life while youre young, try to find something you love to do and get to it. The skys the limit!! The older you get the harder it is to get out of that rut.

[bluejeangirl76]

Is 37 too early for a mid-life crisis?

If 37 is too early, than I am WAY super screwed.
The good news is that I have a four year head start. Finally, I'm going to be on time for something.

[Michigan Girl]

Yes there are two paths you can go by, but in the long run
There's still time to change the road your on

is that a cut and paste or your own words to live by

I am LMAO @ this exchange, but good words to live by FF!!!

[DrFU]

I pretty much have the best job in the world ...

Having been thinking about finding a place to do it that's closer to mountains or beach, though; hot, flat, central Texas is losing its charm a bit after all these years ...

[Michigan Girl]

It isn't even New Year's, but I'm in the kind of mood where I'm looking around and questioning every decision I ever made. Some were fine, but I would say that at least several were not. An old friend e-mailed about our 20th high school reunion next summer, which of course got me thinking. When I was in high school, I couldn't wait to get out of my hometown and I had to look at how I ended up back here for so long!

It looks like I'm quitting my job and moving soon ( a start), but I was curious if anyone else was looking around and wondering what happened? Is 37 too early for a mid-life crisis?

Hey Sherri, that's not early at all! I'm 32 and I'm setting up to move on South Carolina in 24 months. I'll pack up my own business and go hopefully. I live in Italy so that was not an easy decision to make. I really understand you!

Alex Mark Scott

You're going to ruin that beautiful accent hanging around those folks!!!

[G.I.Jim]

It isn't even New Year's, but I'm in the kind of mood where I'm looking around and questioning every decision I ever made. Some were fine, but I would say that at least several were not. An old friend e-mailed about our 20th high school reunion next summer, which of course got me thinking. When I was in high school, I couldn't wait to get out of my hometown and I had to look at how I ended up back here for so long!

It looks like I'm quitting my job and moving soon ( a start), but I was curious if anyone else was looking around and wondering what happened? Is 37 too early for a mid-life crisis?

Hey Sherri, that's not early at all! I'm 32 and I'm setting up to move on South Carolina in 24 months. I'll pack up my own business and go hopefully. I live in Italy so that was not an easy decision to make. I really understand you!

Alex Mark Scott

You're going to ruin that beautiful accent hanging around those folks!!!

HEY!!! Smart ass! It could be worse... he could be moving to Michigan. What the hell is IN Michigan anyway (well, besides YOU that is...)???

[KenTheDude]

I'm not exactly where I want to be yet, but I've started taking steps to get there. I have long-term, mid-term & short- term goals. I haven't been on here in over 2 months because of some of this. I met a new woman and we have been getting along very well. She lives about an hour away from me and because of that she usually stays the weekend at my place. This week she is staying the entire week to see how traffic is to where she works, etc. We are planning on her moving in to my place when her lease is up in February.

My mid-term goal is to buy about 5 to 10 acres and build a house on it. I found a neighborhood that has 2 to 10 acre lots with oak trees as wide as a car on the land. Really beautiful country. I'm going to put my house up for sale in about a year and a half and work towards paying off all bills During that time. Her car, my cars, everything. But in the meantime, I want to buy the land now. I have a lot of equity in my house and when I sell it, I'll use the proceeds to pay off the land.

Long term goal is to be happily married along with one child and retire out in the peaceful country.

[Michigan Girl]

Hey Sherri, that's not early at all! I'm 32 and I'm setting up to move on South Carolina in 24 months. I'll pack up my own business and go hopefully. I live in Italy so that was not an easy decision to make. I really understand you!

Alex Mark Scott

You're going to ruin that beautiful accent hanging around those folks!!!

HEY!!! Smart ass! It could be worse... he could be moving to Michigan.
What the hell is IN Michigan anyway (well, besides YOU that is...)???

JIMBO~HI...
Hey~Look out your window, to the west...
It's hard to see me over GA, AL and MS, but there I am, in the boot!!
REMEMBER, I don't live in the mitten anymore...

I did not realize Alex was moving to the states...that is very cool!!!
Play loud so I can hear you!!!

[Enigma869]

I'm in the greatest city in America...Boston, Massachusetts, so I'm exactly where I want and need to be!

[Jana]

I am in that shithole of Florida. What to do? The palm trees and stunning weather and beautiful lakes in Central Florida are getting to me. I went to the coast (where I grew up) this sunny weekend for a beautiful art festival and could feel the ocean breeze. I hate Florida.

[DrFU]

I'm not exactly where I want to be yet, but I've started taking steps to get there. I have long-term, mid-term & short- term goals. I haven't been on here in over 2 months because of some of this. I met a new woman and we have been getting along very well. She lives about an hour away from me and because of that she usually stays the weekend at my place. This week she is staying the entire week to see how traffic is to where she works, etc. We are planning on her moving in to my place when her lease is up in February.

My mid-term goal is to buy about 5 to 10 acres and build a house on it. I found a neighborhood that has 2 to 10 acre lots with oak trees as wide as a car on the land. Really beautiful country. I'm going to put my house up for sale in about a year and a half and work towards paying off all bills During that time. Her car, my cars, everything. But in the meantime, I want to buy the land now. I have a lot of equity in my house and when I sell it, I'll use the proceeds to pay off the land.

Long term goal is to be happily married along with one child and retire out in the peaceful country.

coolness, Kennee ...

[Gin and Tonic Sky]

as for me:

.......I JUST WANT TO GET MY KICKS BEFORE THE WHOLE SHITHOUSE GOES UP IN FLAMES.................

THATS ALL.....

[bluejeangirl76]

So totally not where I want to be or where I thought I'd be at this point in my life. I've made continuous bad choices that I thought were good at the time I made them. I don't know how a person can be so consistently wrong, except that I guess maybe I'm a little too trusting and maybe it's my own fault... it feels like I just make it easy for people to use that against me. I'm not sure. I think that sometime in my 20s, I fell into a nest of jerkwads, and now their scent is on me, so I keep attracting them or something (with a few exceptions of course!). I have really poor judgement with people because I always look for the good, and while I'm busy doing that, I seem to get knifed from the other side.

Maybe that's too much personal info but... meh. I know a lot of you personally now, though, and I think it's clear enough to those I know that I'm a decent person. Anyone else can just go F off. I'm sick of worrying what people think all the time. That's probably been a big contributor to why I'm not where I want to be with my life, so it's relevant.

[ProgRocker53]

I'm 21 and I think about this stuff every day... I need to stop, right?

I screwed around in high school and only graduated with a 3.3, though I was capable of a 4.0. I didn't get good scholarships, but still chose to go to an expensive school to play football. That was a mistake. I had to drop out (although I was Deans List) because an ill-timed inheritance screwed me out of thousands of dollars in scholarships and aid, and I've been in debt to the college ever since.

Since then I've been through five jobs (laid off continually even though I work my ASS off), have been through over a year of unemployment combined, have had to help support my family because of their bad financial decisions, and have had to watch my friends and peers go through college and get awesome jobs and start great lives while I'm stuck here in Bumfuck Ohio struggling.

at least there's a slim shot of me getting back into school next fall.... at a local college.. where I'm going to basically start all over (i can't afford to unlock my old credits yet), with an Education major and Journalism minor... ugh, it's going to be a long road to happiness.

[bluejeangirl76]

I'm 21 and I think about this stuff every day... I need to stop, right?

Yes you do. You're 21. Shush! You have plenty of time, just make sure you use it wisely.

[Michigan Girl]

Anyone else can just go F off. I'm sick of worrying what people think all the time. .

You're already on the right road, sister!!

[ProgRocker53]

Anyone else can just go F off. I'm sick of worrying what people think all the time. .

You're already on the right road, sister!!

That's something else I need to work on. My college decision was made based on what I thought my FAMILY wanted, and not what I wanted.

Also, I don't think I hit the point where I know what I wanted in my life or where I wanted to be, until AFTER I had screwed it all sky high.

how unfortunate.

[Rhiannon]

I'm right where I should be, doing what I want, planning for the future, and working towards where I'll go next.
Once I accepted my own possibilities and let the intuition guide me and my insight balance me, my path laid itself out before me.

I'm 24, and I live each day with a deliberate purpose.
And I have constant butterflies in my stomach from being anxiously hopeful about what lies ahead.


...Your life now is your life now. Make it yourself. Proactive philanthropy and a good attitude.

[ProgRocker53]

I'm right where I should be, doing what I want, planning for the future, and working towards where I'll go next.
Once I accepted my own possibilities and let the intuition guide me and my insight balance me, my path laid itself out before me.

I'm 24, and I live each day with a deliberate purpose.
And I have constant butterflies in my stomach from being anxiously hopeful about what lies ahead.


...Your life now is your life now. Make it yourself. Proactive philanthropy and a good attitude.

For the past two months I've woke up every day with an intention to make life better, whether it be for myself or someone else, without hurting myself. I take every step with my future and a better world in mind.

I've already reconnected with old friends, gotten back into writing, righted a few wrongs I've made, lost 30 pounds, started a new job, and live every day with a lot more confidence and health.

It's a start.

[bluejeangirl76]

Anyone else can just go F off. I'm sick of worrying what people think all the time. .

You're already on the right road, sister!!

That's something else I need to work on. My college decision was made based on what I thought my FAMILY wanted, and not what I wanted.

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I don't mean this to sound harsh... but things get lost in text - I mean this from experience and good intention - make that the last time you do something becuse someone else's actions or desires dicate it. In the end, it hurts you and it hurts those around you. Trust me. Changing your life and your wants and needs for other people creates a bad domino effect that starts with you and has the potential to knock down people you love (or that love you... or both).

[Rhiannon]

I'm right where I should be, doing what I want, planning for the future, and working towards where I'll go next.
Once I accepted my own possibilities and let the intuition guide me and my insight balance me, my path laid itself out before me.

I'm 24, and I live each day with a deliberate purpose.
And I have constant butterflies in my stomach from being anxiously hopeful about what lies ahead.


...Your life now is your life now. Make it yourself. Proactive philanthropy and a good attitude.

For the past two months I've woke up every day with an intention to make life better, whether it be for myself or someone else, without hurting myself. I take every step with my future and a better world in mind.

I've already reconnected with old friends, gotten back into writing, righted a few wrongs I've made, lost 30 pounds, started a new job, and live every day with a lot more confidence and health.

It's a start.

I've seen this, and I'm very proud of and happy for you, T.

[ProgRocker53]

Anyone else can just go F off. I'm sick of worrying what people think all the time. .

You're already on the right road, sister!!

That's something else I need to work on. My college decision was made based on what I thought my FAMILY wanted, and not what I wanted.

''

I don't mean this to sound harsh... but things get lost in text - I mean this from experience and good intention - make that the last time you do something becuse someone else's actions or desires dicate it. In the end, it hurts you and it hurts those around you. Trust me. Changing your life and your wants and needs for other people creates a bad domino effect that starts with you and has the potential to knock down people you love (or that love you... or both).

At least I made the most of that mistake. I discovered I didn't like the college I chose.. BUT, I was en route to becoming a starter on the football team, I was already chosen to be editor of the campus paper as a SOPHOMORE, signed up to intern at the Washington Post during election season, and was going to study abroad in England my senior year....

until all that went into the shitter.

[S2M]

That is such a tough question in that if you say no you are admitting failure. I think with me, I've been afraid of success. Most people are afraid of failure, I'm the opposite. At 10 I wanted to be a CSI person well before it was a TV show. Well that, and Quincy M.D. But as life went on I seemed to gravitate towards things that brought me further and further away from my goals. I'd be on the path, then do something to derail the train. Afraid of success. I'm sure that is a sickness in the DSM -V....Afraid of Success, chapter 3, page 54.

And now, at 40....I've pretty much given up on ever realizing my earlier aspirations...I've written screenplays(just sitting in folders), I've written children's books(I even made one as a project in a Children's LIt class) and they just occipy space in my closet. I've made drawings of inventions. I've come up with great marketing campaigns, and great products. I even have half a comedy routine sort of written out. And even have written a couple of short stories(don't have the energy anymore to make them complete novels).....and all this just takes up space in a closet. And at 40, like I said, what would be the point.

And I've come to accept this, more or less, in the last few years.....

[Ehwmatt]

So far so good for me - I'm 23 and doin what I always wanted to do. I haven't made any terrible choices at all.

I was in a relationship that was going nowhere for far too long (3.5 years) but I was too stubborn to admit it. That's about the only possible big black mark I have on what has been a great time of my life like the early 20s are hopefully supposed to be. But hey, you live and you learn. I'm still young, there's lotsa broads out there, and there's lots of fun to be had before I "have to" settle down

Otherwise I'm feelin great besides this damn sinus infection I can't kick