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...and the way I get things out is to write...

I know things like this happen (more often than you'd think) in the hospitality industry, because sometimes people just want to escape and deal with their issues (or in this case not deal with them...), so where do they go that isn't home - a hotel... but this is a first for me...

First thing this morning, our GM tells us there was a suicide (by handgun) in a guestroom over the weekend. My skin is crawling so bad right now and my stomach is turning just being in this building knowing that (because it's technically a "crime scene" and the police still have to do... whatever...) it hasn't been cleaned up yet. I honestly feel physically sick just thinking about it.

What a way to start a Monday. Well, hell, what a way to start any day. Someone cheer me up...

Maybe he was a philly fan?

i know i know bad timing

bluejeangirl76 wrote:...and the way I get things out is to write...

I know things like this happen (more often than you'd think) in the hospitality industry, because sometimes people just want to escape and deal with their issues (or in this case not deal with them...), so where do they go that isn't home - a hotel... but this is a first for me...

First thing this morning, our GM tells us there was a suicide (by handgun) in a guestroom over the weekend. My skin is crawling so bad right now and my stomach is turning just being in this building knowing that (because it's technically a "crime scene" and the police still have to do... whatever...) it hasn't been cleaned up yet. I honestly feel physically sick just thinking about it.

What a way to start a Monday. Well, hell, what a way to start any day. Someone cheer me up...

If I held a banana and two oranges in an inappropriate manner... would it make you smile? Or I could grab two grapefruits and tuck them under my shirt and do my best Dolly Parton impersonation... What's it gonna take?

G.I.Jim wrote:

bluejeangirl76 wrote:...and the way I get things out is to write...

I know things like this happen (more often than you'd think) in the hospitality industry, because sometimes people just want to escape and deal with their issues (or in this case not deal with them...), so where do they go that isn't home - a hotel... but this is a first for me...

First thing this morning, our GM tells us there was a suicide (by handgun) in a guestroom over the weekend. My skin is crawling so bad right now and my stomach is turning just being in this building knowing that (because it's technically a "crime scene" and the police still have to do... whatever...) it hasn't been cleaned up yet. I honestly feel physically sick just thinking about it.

What a way to start a Monday. Well, hell, what a way to start any day. Someone cheer me up...

If I held a banana and two oranges in an inappropriate manner... would it make you smile? Or I could grab two grapefruits and tuck them under my shirt and do my best Dolly Parton impersonation... What's it gonna take?

You saying that larry gowan is god

G.I.Jim wrote:If I held a banana and two oranges in an inappropriate manner... would it make you smile? Or I could grab two grapefruits and tuck them under my shirt and do my best Dolly Parton impersonation... What's it gonna take?

It's gonna take a lot. I can't even focus and I'm pretty sure I might be sick soon. Maybe post a picture of this Dolly impersonation.

Though, that might speed up the stomach turning.

bluejeangirl76 wrote:...and the way I get things out is to write...

I know things like this happen (more often than you'd think) in the hospitality industry, because sometimes people just want to escape and deal with their issues (or in this case not deal with them...), so where do they go that isn't home - a hotel... but this is a first for me...

First thing this morning, our GM tells us there was a suicide (by handgun) in a guestroom over the weekend. My skin is crawling so bad right now and my stomach is turning just being in this building knowing that (because it's technically a "crime scene" and the police still have to do... whatever...) it hasn't been cleaned up yet. I honestly feel physically sick just thinking about it.

What a way to start a Monday. Well, hell, what a way to start any day. Someone cheer me up...

Sorry to hear that Kim. I understand the "physically sick" feeling. We had somebody jump from their hotel balcony in the hotel next to our office building about 15 years ago and though we didn't actually see him go by or hit the ground, one of the girl's in our office saw his sneaker go past her window. They sent us home that afternoon, everybody was a f*cked up mess. Of course, hearing the guys talk about how when you hit the cement from that high up, a body pretty much becomes jello incased in skin. Makes me ill just thinking about it. Big hugz chicklet, and sure hope the rest of your day goes better.......

Imagine being the cops. I don't know how they do it. My husband gets called to several suicide calls a year. Or accidental overdose deaths. And I don't know how they get past the point of it bothering them. I have a hard time hearing the stories sometimes. Sometimes I can't. The worst was when one of their officers killed himself with a gun. That one he had a hard time with. Suicide is just sad. Sad for those left behind to deal.

I don't know how to cheer you up Kim!! How about I think the hawks are gonna do it game 6!!!!!

StevePerryHair wrote:Imagine being the cops. I don't know how they do it.

I don't know either, but I guess that is why they can be cops and I can't.
But I'm feeling a WHOLE LOT of respect for officers and paramedics right now.
I can't even stand being in this building knowing that room is up there like that.
And I'm not kidding about it making me sick. I know it's coming.

Ahh game 6... I think that only adds to the tummy-turning...

StevePerryHair wrote:Imagine being the cops. I don't know how they do it. My husband gets called to several suicide calls a year. Or accidental overdose deaths. And I don't know how they get past the point of it bothering them. I have a hard time hearing the stories sometimes. Sometimes I can't. The worst was when one of their officers killed himself with a gun. That one he had a hard time with. Suicide is just sad. Sad for those left behind to deal.

Yeah, G was at that scene too, very sad day. Didn't matter he'd already seen plenty of suicides before that. I don't know how they do it either, and my brother being a firefighter/medic also, they all see humanity at it's absolute horrifying worst every time they're on the job. Like you I have a hard time hearing some of their stories, and some they just won't even tell.

Melissa wrote:

StevePerryHair wrote:Imagine being the cops. I don't know how they do it. My husband gets called to several suicide calls a year. Or accidental overdose deaths. And I don't know how they get past the point of it bothering them. I have a hard time hearing the stories sometimes. Sometimes I can't. The worst was when one of their officers killed himself with a gun. That one he had a hard time with. Suicide is just sad. Sad for those left behind to deal.

Yeah, G was at that scene too, very sad day. Didn't matter he'd already seen plenty of suicides before that. I don't know how they do it either, and my brother being a firefighter/medic also, they all see humanity at it's absolute horrifying worst every time they're on the job. Like you I have a hard time hearing some of their stories, and some they just won't even tell.

yeah, I know I don't hear the worst ones! Because of my reaction to some of the ones he thought I could handle no doubt! I made him tell our son about the accidental alcohol poisoning death of a teen. I thought he needed to hear that one because I really don't think kids get how easily you can die from too much alcohol at one time.

bluejeangirl76 wrote:

StevePerryHair wrote:Imagine being the cops. I don't know how they do it.

I don't know either, but I guess that is why they can be cops and I can't.
But I'm feeling a WHOLE LOT of respect for officers and paramedics right now.
I can't even stand being in this building knowing that room is up there like that.
And I'm not kidding about it making me sick. I know it's coming.

Ahh game 6... I think that only adds to the tummy-turning...

Oh geez ...so sorry to hear this!! I think you should
use the finger and get it over with ...perhaps you'll feel better!!


On the plus side, only 2.5 hrs until B's big announcement (via Apple) ...which *I* am excluded from !!

bluejeangirl76 wrote:...and the way I get things out is to write...

I know things like this happen (more often than you'd think) in the hospitality industry, because sometimes people just want to escape and deal with their issues (or in this case not deal with them...), so where do they go that isn't home - a hotel... but this is a first for me...

First thing this morning, our GM tells us there was a suicide (by handgun) in a guestroom over the weekend. My skin is crawling so bad right now and my stomach is turning just being in this building knowing that (because it's technically a "crime scene" and the police still have to do... whatever...) it hasn't been cleaned up yet. I honestly feel physically sick just thinking about it.

What a way to start a Monday. Well, hell, what a way to start any day. Someone cheer me up...

Go out and get yourself a nice hamburger for lunch.

I am so sorry you had to face this situation this morning. I have a friend who has a crime scene clean up business and I couldn't imagine being him, cops, etc. How gruesome but someone has to do it. He showed me some pics and it looked like something on TV. Sort of surreal, I guess. It is sad to think that person didn't think he had anyone to help him get out of that situation and that this was the only way. His family must be heartbroken. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Suzanne wrote: It is sad to think that person didn't think he had anyone to help him get out of that situation and that this was the only way. His family must be heartbroken. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

That's the other part that's getting to me... thinking of the guy's family and stuff.
The story we got is that he had family issues/trouble/whatever... it's just sad and heartbreaking to think of the family too.

Thankfully, no one here (guests or employees) was involved in any way, as in, no one heard or saw anything... etc.

bluejeangirl76 wrote:

Suzanne wrote: It is sad to think that person didn't think he had anyone to help him get out of that situation and that this was the only way. His family must be heartbroken. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

That's the other part that's getting to me... thinking of the guy's family and stuff.
The story we got is that he had family issues/trouble/whatever... it's just sad and heartbreaking to think of the family too.

Thankfully, no one here (guests or employees) was involved in any way, as in, no one heard or saw anything... etc.

I am soooo sorry to hear you're going thru this!

You're in my thoughts and Prayers today....

TRAGChick wrote:I am soooo sorry to hear you're going thru this!

You're in my thoughts and Prayers today....

Well, it's that man's family who need the prayers, but thank you.

I just don't deal well with stuff like this. (well, hell... who does?) Last winter, right before Christmas, a man passed away here, and that was due to his medical issues, so it was very sad and all, but less horrifying, I guess, and even that messed me up a little too... this is something else entirely.

Michigan Girl wrote:

bluejeangirl76 wrote:

StevePerryHair wrote:Imagine being the cops. I don't know how they do it.

I don't know either, but I guess that is why they can be cops and I can't.
But I'm feeling a WHOLE LOT of respect for officers and paramedics right now.
I can't even stand being in this building knowing that room is up there like that.
And I'm not kidding about it making me sick. I know it's coming.

Ahh game 6... I think that only adds to the tummy-turning...

Oh geez ...so sorry to hear this!! I think you should
use the finger and get it over with ...perhaps you'll feel better!!


On the plus side, only 2.5 hrs until B's big announcement (via Apple) ...which *I* am excluded from !!

I'll let you know about the "big announcement", unless I'm excluded as well...

I think you need to let this stuff go. You can't change it, you can't change the world, this stuff is going to continue happening whether you like it or not. Every time I used to be up in San Francisco I'd trouble myself by dwelling on why all the poor homeless people were out on the streets and what got them there. After living there and spending tons of time up there, I realized one day that the majority of them are happy and/or content living out on the streets. I don't worry about it anymore and that was a great burden off my mind.

So sure your deal is a bit different then the example I expressed, however, the dwelling factor is still the same. Shit happens, it's been happening before we were alive and it's going to continue to happen in the future when we are no longer around.

Kim, so sorry you have to deal with this today. I'll be thinking about you and hope it gets better soon.

The Sushi Hunter wrote:So sure your deal is a bit different then the example I expressed, however, the dwelling factor is still the same. Shit happens, it's been happening before we were alive and it's going to continue to happen in the future when we are no longer around.

Well, of course I won't hold on to it forever, and it isn't something that happened TO me or my family, so yeah of course at some point soon I'll just let it go -- but given that I only just heard this a couple hours ago, and knowing that room hasn't been 'attended to yet' - there's a huge "OOG!" factor that I can't shake right now. That's all.

StevePerryHair wrote:

Melissa wrote:

StevePerryHair wrote:Imagine being the cops. I don't know how they do it. My husband gets called to several suicide calls a year. Or accidental overdose deaths. And I don't know how they get past the point of it bothering them. I have a hard time hearing the stories sometimes. Sometimes I can't. The worst was when one of their officers killed himself with a gun. That one he had a hard time with. Suicide is just sad. Sad for those left behind to deal.

Yeah, G was at that scene too, very sad day. Didn't matter he'd already seen plenty of suicides before that. I don't know how they do it either, and my brother being a firefighter/medic also, they all see humanity at it's absolute horrifying worst every time they're on the job. Like you I have a hard time hearing some of their stories, and some they just won't even tell.

yeah, I know I don't hear the worst ones! Because of my reaction to some of the ones he thought I could handle no doubt! I made him tell our son about the accidental alcohol poisoning death of a teen. I thought he needed to hear that one because I really don't think kids get how easily you can die from too much alcohol at one time.

God bless 'em, it takes a special kinda person to be a cop, paramedic, social worker (we were talking about this the other day, of how they have to deal with taking kids out of abusive homes and sometimes having to go thru so much bloody red tape to do so, knowing the child is in that environment). I could never do any of those jobs, just don't think I could hold myself in check dealing with a child abuser, etc.

The Sushi Hunter wrote:I think you need to let this stuff go. You can't change it, you can't change the world, this stuff is going to continue happening whether you like it or not. Every time I used to be up in San Francisco I'd trouble myself by dwelling on why all the poor homeless people were out on the streets and what got them there. After living there and spending tons of time up there, I realized one day that the majority of them are happy and/or content living out on the streets. I don't worry about it anymore and that was a great burden off my mind.

So sure your deal is a bit different then the example I expressed, however, the dwelling factor is still the same. Shit happens, it's been happening before we were alive and it's going to continue to happen in the future when we are no longer around.

This coming from a guy that took 26 years to get over the pain of his HS love!!
I would assume that you have made major strides in your life since that time,
but then I saw how pissed off you got at Sir Paul!! Just let go of death, but
hold on to silly words ...forever!?!

lol @ MG above ^

I feel ya though today Kim....

I got a call today that my first professional mentor and good friend died this weekend. He was only 36 years old. He was camping in northwestern PA. There were terrible storms throughout Ohio, MI, and apparently NW PA too. Anyway, he was with his family and I guess the awning or whatever on their camper was flapping in the wind and banging against shit. He went outside to fix it and somehow he got crushed when the wind blew whatever awning or other device down onto him. Now, this guy was a big guy, built like a lineman, 6'3, 230, looked to be in pretty good shape... whatever crushed him must have been fuckin heavy. Meanwhile, his wife and 2 young children were inside the camper. I literally sat there in a daze when I heard that this morning. I couldn't/can't even believe it. I just had lunch with him 2 months ago and I literally have a draft message sitting in my gmail account asking him for lunch this week that I began writing Friday but never sent off because I had to check my schedule once this week started.

This guy was just a super nice guy and just entering the prime of his career. He went out of his way to help me a bunch of times in the 14~ months I knew him and was just a genuinely cool guy. Fuckin terrible. The worst part of it is imagining his family having to discover his body once the winds died down. Ugh. I can't even imagine. Makes me sick to think especially about that part. RIP buddy

Wow, Matt, I'm really sorry about your friend. So much worse than what I was talking about... mine is just circumstantial - I didn't know the person or anything, just the extreme weird factor... definitely feel for ya right now, bro.

My friend in PA was telling me this weekend about tornado warnings and stuff, so it must have been bad...

Ehwmatt wrote:

Meanwhile, his wife and 2 young children were inside the camper.

That's awful. My condolences, Matt.

wow, both sad stories,,,, big hugs to both Kim&Matt,,,,

Kim & Matt, i am so sorry to read this.Prayers out to both familys.

bluejeangirl76 wrote:Wow, Matt, I'm really sorry about your friend. So much worse than what I was talking about... mine is just circumstantial - I didn't know the person or anything, just the extreme weird factor... definitely feel for ya right now, bro.

My friend in PA was telling me this weekend about tornado warnings and stuff, so it must have been bad...

Yeah it must have been terrible... he was actually very close to where I went to college in PA.

Thanks for the well wishes guys. It's one thing for the guy to have died tragically, but those circumstances and the mental torment they put on his family is just sickening...

Michigan Girl wrote:

The Sushi Hunter wrote:I think you need to let this stuff go. You can't change it, you can't change the world, this stuff is going to continue happening whether you like it or not. Every time I used to be up in San Francisco I'd trouble myself by dwelling on why all the poor homeless people were out on the streets and what got them there. After living there and spending tons of time up there, I realized one day that the majority of them are happy and/or content living out on the streets. I don't worry about it anymore and that was a great burden off my mind.

So sure your deal is a bit different then the example I expressed, however, the dwelling factor is still the same. Shit happens, it's been happening before we were alive and it's going to continue to happen in the future when we are no longer around.

This coming from a guy that took 26 years to get over the pain of his HS love!!
I would assume that you have made major strides in your life since that time,
but then I saw how pissed off you got at Sir Paul!! Just let go of death, but
hold on to silly words ...forever!?!

Lets get it straight, it took me 26 years to run into her again after the fact. I had gotten over it something like 20 years ago. Started tossing out the shit I had found left over from that time frame right before getting married.....I was cleaning house and "sterilizing" the place just so there would be no surprises stumbled across where I could be put into a position where I had to explain something.

As for Sir what's his face, I wasn't pissed, just didn't desire to have that in the house anymore or for it to be a part of who I am anylonger. I love doing that, ridding my life of stuff that is useless and I do that occasionally. Like today, I got rid of 100% of all the vinyl I ever owned. Next it will be cd's and concert DVDs, maybe next week when I get to those. I sold one of my guitars a few weeks ago, it was actually my first guitar I ever had. I'll be getting rid of my last guitar pretty soon along with all the equipment I bought with it back in the day (80's.) My wife doesn't mind me getting rid of this stuff though. Makes her happy actually, because as she says, I had a history with that stuff and now she's supposed to be my only history, and that's cool with me.

The Sushi Hunter wrote:I love doing that, ridding my life of stuff that is useless and I do that occasionally. Like today, I got rid of 100% of all the vinyl I ever owned. Next it will be cd's and concert DVDs, maybe next week when I get to those. I sold one of my guitars a few weeks ago, it was actually my first guitar I ever had. I'll be getting rid of my last guitar pretty soon along with all the equipment I bought with it back in the day (80's.) My wife doesn't mind me getting rid of this stuff though. Makes her happy actually, because as she says, I had a history with that stuff and now she's supposed to be my only history, and that's cool with me.

I couldn't disagree with you and her more. Our history, our past, and especially our past relationships are what make us who we are today. Anyone who told me they didn't want any reminders of my life before them, or even just reminders of my past partners, is going to be told in no uncertain circumstances to grow up and get over it. But then again, I don't do possessiveness about people, or jealousy.

Sorry to hijack your thread, Kim. I'm really sorry this happened to you. May I recommend an old British standard for shock that does actually work - a cup of hot, sweet tea, sipped slowly. I'm not surprised you're feeling so upset, and I'm guessing most of the staff there are also feeling in shock, so there isn't really anyone to do the strong comforter routine. I'm just glad you don't have to deal with the clean up, and I hope the poor person who found the body is ok.