Behshad wrote:But with your ideas above , if all you do is just save and not buy the stuff you enjoy , then what kind of a fucked up dream is that.

I work hard , but I also buy things that me and the family enjoy. Not all of them things that we need , but I rather enjoy the money I earned than save it and invest it and pass it on to my kids after I die.
I rather create fun memories for them now and provide them with a good life while under my roof than just give them money after I'm gone ...

I never said that you can't have
any "toys," but they shouldn't come
first. You seem like a responsible guy and a good parent, and I'm quite sure that while you spend and enjoy, you also make sure that the safety and welfare of your family comes
first.
I know a few people that had their homes in foreclosure, and they scoffed at me when I politely suggested that they sell their cars and buy a far less expensive one, give up their cell phone
or land line, start hitting up coupons and ask their spouses (in 2 instances) to get a part-time job. They just looked at me like I had a 19 inch dick coming out of my ear. In the end, I was glad they were losing their homes. They failed America, not the other way around. It's the
mindset of the country that is fucked up ... not the "dream." Excuses, excuses, excuses. Blah, blah, blah. I equate it to the acceptance of suicide. Not in every case, but in the vast majority of cases, these people are just losers. And in the end, sometimes you just
can't fix that.