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What do you do to heal heartache, besides time?

PianoMan1986 wrote:What do you do to heal heartache, besides time?

There's no easy fix. Time is the only way.

But a bottle of 16 year old single malt might make it go by faster. And blurrier.

Actually dealing with it head on, feeling it/living through it and not avoiding it............makes coming out the other side so bright ya gotta wear shades.

Find some hot, nasty chick that you have no emotional ties to and boink the shit out of her.

Find something to do to keep yourself busy. Don't sit around feeling miserable by yourself because it'll just make it worse. If you have a hobby, now is the time to enjoy it. Also get some friends to hang out, and it'll go by much easier. If none of that works, go to the nearest bar, tie one on, and hit on every woman in there!

PianoMan1986 wrote:What do you do to heal heartache, besides time?

Take it slow. Some people like to go out and immediately "re-invent" themselves, but soon realize that they're still the same fucking person they've always been! One thing that's a great idea is to write down goals and start slowly knocking them down one at a time. The other thing is hang around happy people. Cut the dead weight from your life and abandon the slackers. Hang around people that will tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear. Lastly, get out and do things, stay in shape, eat well, focus that hurt into motivation and show that kunt what she's missing!

PS If you're gay, just go out and suck a random dick.

awww ...this breaks my heart!! There are no easy
remedies ...gotta suffer, you'll be better for it!!

This might be a good time to write some tunes, though!!

Saint John wrote:

PianoMan1986 wrote:What do you do to heal heartache, besides time?

Take it slow. Some people like to go out and immediately "re-invent" themselves, but soon realize that they're still the same fucking person they've always been! One thing that's a great idea is to write down goals and start slowly knocking them down one at a time. The other thing is hang around happy people. Cut the dead weight from your life and abandon the slackers. Hang around people that will tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear. Lastly, get out and do things, stay in shape, eat well, focus that hurt into motivation and show that kunt what she's missing!

Some definite 'pearl's of wisdom here

booze booze and more booze

Saint John wrote:One thing that's a great idea is to write down goals and start slowly knocking them down one at a time.

Is that from Hot Springs, Rip?

Saint John wrote::lol: Is that from Hot Springs, Rip?

It is!

Everett wrote:booze booze and more booze

Bad advice. Why would anyone think a central nervous system depressant is going to pull them out of a slump?
It will just make matters worse.

steveo777 wrote:

Everett wrote:booze booze and more booze

Bad advice. Why would anyone think a central nervous system depressant is going to pull them out of a slump?
It will just make matters worse.

I'm in shock @the sense you seem to be making lately, almost like a normal person
...is this Mrs. Steveo posing?!?!

Time really is what it takes. If someone hurt you, forgiveness, letting go, saying goodbye, even if the person doesn't know you've let go and said goodbye, are healing too, but time is what it takes to reach those too. Focus on the people who do truly care about you, and focus on the good around you. In death, the same, time is what it takes, and focus on all the good you had with that person, and do so with the people around you who shared the same.

Rip Rokken wrote:

Saint John wrote:One thing that's a great idea is to write down goals and start slowly knocking them down one at a time.

This shit has me rolling!!! Nice shirt Dan.

G.I.Jim wrote:

Rip Rokken wrote:

Saint John wrote:One thing that's a great idea is to write down goals and start slowly knocking them down one at a time.

This shit has me rolling!!! Nice shirt Dan.

Even Manilow's?

Music, put on something hard and heavy and rock out. It always puts me in a better mood.

Thanks for the advice people, you guys rock. In the end it comes down to whatever I figure out works best for me.

Although, I wish I could delete this post now -- just something foolish of me to post publicly, although I guess I was really curious to see what ideas people had.

PianoMan1986 wrote:Thanks for the advice people, you guys rock. In the end it comes down to whatever I figure out works best for me.

Although, I wish I could delete this post now -- just something foolish of me to post publicly, although I guess I was really curious to see what ideas people had.

Don't feel bad man. I've used this place to vent many times. Granted I looked like an asshole some of the times, but it's all good. You haven't offended anyone here.

PianoMan1986 wrote:Thanks for the advice people, you guys rock. In the end it comes down to whatever I figure out works best for me.

Although, I wish I could delete this post now -- just something foolish of me to post publicly, although I guess I was really curious to see what ideas people had.

Hey, man, whatever you were feeling at the time was very real to you. You sought out the advice of friends, so don't feel weird about it.
Hope all looks up for ya!

ebake02 wrote:Music, put on something hard and heavy and rock out. It always puts me in a better mood.

This is actually my #1 approach, too. And he's right about the heavy - allows you to vent a lot of pain and frustration thru the music.

PianoMan1986 wrote:Thanks for the advice people, you guys rock. In the end it comes down to whatever I figure out works best for me.

Although, I wish I could delete this post now -- just something foolish of me to post publicly, although I guess I was really curious to see what ideas people had.

Not at all, sometimes you just need to let things out, especially with this kind of stuff and we all get it, no one is a stranger to this kind of thing. But, and I can't stress this enough, everything happens the way it does and at the time is does for a reason. I'm struggling with that one as I type and my life would be a whole lot less complicated at the current moment if I knew what that reason was, but we're not always meant to know right away.

PianoMan1986 wrote:What do you do to heal heartache, besides time?

It's a cliche but it is better to have loved then to never have loved at all. Love is both joy and pain and you have to feel both...so cry and then get busy. Go for a run or some other physical activity when you feel like you're getting down in the dumps and if you feel any anger towards the person then take all of that energy and direct it for your own betterment. What doesn't kill you let it serve to make you stronger.

I don't agree with some suggestions here. Booze or drugs will only take you down further. Maybe some angry loud music like suggested will help work out some frustration momentarily but I think something more positve works better in the long run to motivate forward movement.


People will always come and go from your life. Learn from both the positive and negative experiences. Concentrate on self improvement.
Here's a vid of someone who has the right attitude....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GkrYX9EGUpM

Here's a motivating tune to start with.....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyhg8F6CPm4

Look for more inspiration as you need it, it's all around you.
Get busy, stay busy, gain strength, work on yourself, respect and love yourself first and you will attract the right person into your life for all of the right reasons who will love you for you. Take care.

Blueskies wrote:

PianoMan1986 wrote:What do you do to heal heartache, besides time?

It's a cliche but it is better to have loved then to never have loved at all. Love is both joy and pain and you have to feel both...so cry and then get busy. Go for a run or some other physical activity when you feel like you're getting down in the dumps and if you feel any anger towards the person then take all of that energy and direct it for your own betterment. What doesn't kill you let it serve to make you stronger.

I don't agree with some suggestions here. Booze or drugs will only take you down further. Maybe some angry loud music like suggested will help work out some frustration momentarily but I think something more positve works better in the long run to motivate forward movement.


People will always come and go from your life. Learn from both the positive and negative experiences. Concentrate on self improvement.
Here's a vid of someone who has the right attitude....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GkrYX9EGUpM

Here's a motivating tune to start with.....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyhg8F6CPm4

Look for more inspiration as you need it, it's all around you.
Get busy, stay busy, gain strength, work on yourself, respect and love yourself first and you will attract the right person into your life for all of the right reasons who will love you for you. Take care.

What a load of crap! Just go grab some beer and bang the first girl you lay eyes on!

Sit down for a few and enjoy this little ditty!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PO6Rknx5xyI

It should lift the spirit a bit!

Sex.

G.I.Jim wrote:

Blueskies wrote:

PianoMan1986 wrote:What do you do to heal heartache, besides time?

It's a cliche but it is better to have loved then to never have loved at all. Love is both joy and pain and you have to feel both...so cry and then get busy. Go for a run or some other physical activity when you feel like you're getting down in the dumps and if you feel any anger towards the person then take all of that energy and direct it for your own betterment. What doesn't kill you let it serve to make you stronger.

I don't agree with some suggestions here. Booze or drugs will only take you down further. Maybe some angry loud music like suggested will help work out some frustration momentarily but I think something more positve works better in the long run to motivate forward movement.


People will always come and go from your life. Learn from both the positive and negative experiences. Concentrate on self improvement.
Here's a vid of someone who has the right attitude....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GkrYX9EGUpM

Here's a motivating tune to start with.....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gyhg8F6CPm4

Look for more inspiration as you need it, it's all around you.
Get busy, stay busy, gain strength, work on yourself, respect and love yourself first and you will attract the right person into your life for all of the right reasons who will love you for you. Take care.

What a load of crap! Just go grab some beer and bang the first girl you lay eyes on!

And besides working on yourself, reach out and do some good for others when you can and pay it forward.



( @ Jim )

Marabelle wrote:Sit down for a few and enjoy this little ditty!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PO6Rknx5xyI

It should lift the spirit a bit!

Listening to that makes me wanna read Sylvia Plath, sit in the tub, run the hot water.....

Oh, it's not that bad!