Mya, my cat died.

[scarygirl]

He died while I slept.

[ebake02]

Sorry to hear that.

[Starrider]

:cry:

He died while I slept.

Sorry to hear that. I lost my cat to cancer this past January, so I know how painful this can be. I hope he didn't suffer and that he went peacefully.

[whirlwind]

:cry:

He died while I slept.

I hope that he was asleep at the time also. We should all be so lucky to leave this world that way.

Sorry for your loss.

[conversationpc]

Sorry to hear it. I have a 13-year old cat that we are trying to find a home for. There's nothing wrong with him physically but he's made a mess of one room in our house and would do a whole lot better if the were the only pet.

[artist4perry]

Scarygirl I am sorry about your cat. I have cats myself and they become an intricate part of your life.

[scarygirl]

:cry:

He died while I slept.

Sorry to hear that. I lost my cat to cancer this past January, so I know how painful this can be. I hope he didn't suffer and that he went peacefully.

I took him to the vet yesterday. Sometime Thurdsday he got a cut. I don;t know how. There was like a small hole in his side. i came home and my new roommie told me she had been brusihing him and he started pulling away. She looked and there was this hole or cut.... It was after normal vet hours. He wasn';t cyring. He wasn't bleeding. He was being his playful self. It didn';t look infected. It was clean.


I started to take him to teh CAT ER, but he seemed fine. I woke up at 5 30 yesterday morning. I called my boss. GTold I would be late. I took him to the vet first thing..... They said, we;ll put him under, give him stitches. He'll be fine. Before I left him he was PLAYING the most I had ever seen him play. He was a little;e agitated, but that was from the car ride. I got him yesterday afternoon. Vet said all is well. HE S GROGGY. He will be sleeping tonight and tomorrow between that and pain meds.

I took him home. He just layed in carrier for the longest time. Finally slithered half out half in. He was panting a little, but i thought it was nerves. He does that from being in car. He finally calmed down, but barely moved. He lookedd out of it most of the nigth. He changes sides a couple times. I was petting him the whole time. I checked him periodically. I didn't leave the house at all. Around 11 pm I moved him to teh corner of teh room. I didn';t want to accidentally step on him when Igot up. He switched positions again, one way then another. I went to sleep. Around 3am I heard him stirring. He seemed like he was breathing harder and he was gritting his teeth. I thought the pain meds were wearing off. I had given one at 7pm. the night before. I told him, hang on sweetie. Its not time yet. I don't want to accidentally overdose you. I WILL give you more pain meds at six. I checked his breathing.. I went back to bed. I prayed to God to please let him hang on til 7, to take away his pain....After that I didn';t hear him. I think I woek up shortly thereafter ....He was in the corner still. I woke up thiis morning at 7pm. He had moved out closer to me,. in middle of floor. He was just laying there., I started yelling at him. I shook him. Then I felt the heaviness and I knew. He passed away wjhile I slept. I wish I had known . Mayube I could have done something... Toni his sister was hissing atv him yesterday. I felt like she knew.

[Enigma869]

My condolences. We've had the same cat for 13 long years and I know how much a part of the family that they become. Very sorry to hear of your loss. So sad.

[scarygirl]

My condolences. We've had the same cat for 13 long years and I know how much a part of the family that they become. Very sorry to hear of your loss. So sad.

Thank you. Yesterday was a WEIRD day. Like you wake up knowing something isn't right..... I had a new roommie just move in. She doesnt know yet. It is goiing to killer HER. .... She's in her 60s. Just lost her cat. Her cat looked like mine. She told me the night beforelast she was soos happy to be around more cats, esp Mya. SHE felt it was a blessing from god. She is gonna be crushed... She isn't here. In ohio. How do I tell her. 24 hours agfter she moved in , POOR gone.

I had this bad feeling yesterday. Yesterday I gave my good friend my bucket of cat litter. She had run out..... I tld her I would buy some more. I was also feeling bad because poor mya barely fit into the new litter enclosed litter box. His sister Toni fits just fine..... I was thinking I better get a separate one.....

I had a dream last night sometime before or during his passing. There was a tornado coming right for our house. It was me, my mom, and the two cats. We barely got into the bathroom in time. But in my dream I only had one CAT. I was able to get MYA, but his sister Toni was still out there. I woke up thinking how made shed be.... I guess wrong cat....What I mean is, I guess god was telling me I could only save one.

Toni, she has been roaming around. She is so lost. She was sniffing his carrier just now. I think she knoews now he isn't just at teh vet... I need to get another cat for her, but I can't afford to start over . The vet bills between the two were just horrendous. I spent $300 yesterday alone, a little mad, one more bill, but glad thinking he';ll be okay...... Just another billl. I'll make it. I'd be homeless before I let them go.

[2OfHearts]

I'm so sorry

[scarygirl]

I'm so sorry

thank you

[Rip Rokken]

So sorry to hear about your cat, SG. I had two myself years ago and they were everything to me. Even had to take allergy shots just to be able to live with them, so I can totally relate to your loss.

[Journey/Survivor]

My condolences. I know that losing a pet is like losing a family member. So sorry for your loss.

[scarygirl]

Thanks. It hasn't fully sunk in. It doesn t feel real. He was SUPPOSED to be FINE.!!! The vet told me he would be back to his self by tomorrow. I evern asked if it would be okay to leave him to go to church. He said yes.

I am upset..... My new roommate moved in Wednesday night. He was fine. Thurdsdau morning he was fine. I come home Thursday evening and she says oh, I was brushing him. He had the most beuatiful long main of fur. And he started pulling away. She said she looked and there was this hole in his side. I was like, what? I thought she was PULLING my leg. I was like, yeah right.....She saids she just found it. I accepted that explanation til this morning.....But now? I had to havet happened sometime between going and coming back to work on Thursday. Why didn't she call me IMMEDIATELY? She had my number. Ultimately, I feel responsible. I should have tajken to him the vet THURSDAY nigt. He wasn't bleeding. Wasn t hollering. HE WAS PLAYING AROUND. His usual goofy self, so I waited til first thing FRIDAY morning. They sedated him, closed him up. No infection. Nothing.... They said he was walking arond his cage after the anthesia wore off, was HISSING at the dog,

I took him home that evening and he started sliding, but I didn't or was TOO STUPID to know

She said she didn't know WHAT happened/ She was there with him . Her and her grandson. I have looked all ovber my house. No blood. Nothing broken. I had my bedroom door closed where they couldn't get in.. So nothing happened there. There is nothing in the living room to hurt him. The kitchen is open into living room. I keep all sharp objjects in drawyers. I never once had an incident. And twenty fours hour of her (her grandson also spent the night) moving in he has an injury that requires stitches and he dies. I feel like she knows what happened. SHe said she was brushing him. He HAD some paper stuck in his long fir. Bad MOM i am right? Maybe she tried to cut it out and he moved. I have cut pieces out before. Could easily happen. I feel like she has to know. I have another kitty, toni, but I just can't believe after a year of the two of them togeteher that they would get into an injjurous fight of this magnitude. It was a like round place,. I haven't found any blood, NOTHING. Am I crazy? Oh, her grandson broke the antenna off my radio and didn't tell me . I found it in her room broken. He had been playoing with it Thursday night. I heard them in her room with it.

I could GIVE A FLYING fuck about the radio, but somebody explain this top me. Am I crazy for thinking the worst?

[2OfHearts]

I hope you find out what happened!!
Not knowing is the worst.
If your cat was harmed by someone, you know they're going straight to hell.

You're not a bad mom. You sound like a very responsible and loving pet owner.
Please take care and I hope you get the answers you seek.

[scarygirl]

I hope you find out what happened!!
Not knowing is the worst.
If your cat was harmed by someone, you know they're going straight to hell.

You're not a bad mom. You sound like a very responsible and loving pet owner.
Please take care and I hope you get the answers you seek.

I just talked to my firiend who is nurse and animal lover. She thinks he accidentally fell and had a mini stroke and injured himself. HE LATER stroked out for real frm all teh trauma.... I think so too now. I just wish I coiuld have stopped it....

[Rip Rokken]

I've never heard you curse here before! I tried it a few times but chickened out. You must really be upset. Hopefully it didn't have anything to do with the new roommate, but keep your guard up. I'd never have another roommate again for the same types of reasons.

[scarygirl]

I've never heard you curse here before! I tried it a few times but chickened out. You must really be upset. Hopefully it didn't have anything to do with the new roommate, but keep your guard up. I'd never have another roommate again for the same types of reasons.

I am livid and a mess Rip. I blame myself for not undertsanding his drowsiness for distress and am stil wondering if it the catalyst was at teh very least a horrible accident....My roomie isnt here. I tried calling her just now, but it says not taking calls.

[Starrider]

I've never heard you curse here before! I tried it a few times but chickened out. You must really be upset. Hopefully it didn't have anything to do with the new roommate, but keep your guard up. I'd never have another roommate again for the same types of reasons.

I am livid and a mess Rip. I blame myself for not understanding his drowsiness for distress and am still wondering if it the catalyst was at the very least a horrible accident....My roomie isnt here. I tried calling her just now, but it says not taking calls.

If I were you, her stuff would be piled on the curb and the locks would be changed. I'd leave a message on that phone that "isn't taking calls" to let her know she can come pick it up. I really hope she didn't do anything to Mya, but like Rip said, this is why I have never had a roommate. I am very guarded about whom I let into my home, and if they come here, they had better like cats because I have two now.

See my post in your other thread.

[scarygirl]

I've never heard you curse here before! I tried it a few times but chickened out. You must really be upset. Hopefully it didn't have anything to do with the new roommate, but keep your guard up. I'd never have another roommate again for the same types of reasons.

I am livid and a mess Rip. I blame myself for not understanding his drowsiness for distress and am still wondering if it the catalyst was at the very least a horrible accident....My roomie isnt here. I tried calling her just now, but it says not taking calls.

If I were you, her stuff would be piled on the curb and the locks would be changed. I'd leave a message on that phone that "isn't taking calls" to let her know she can come pick it up. I really hope she didn't do anything to Mya, but like Rip said, this is why I have never had a roommate. I am very guarded about whom I let into my home, and if they come here, they had better like cats because I have two now.

See my post in your other thread.

This lady supposedly loves cats. She just lost hers due to diabetes and had to put him down. I try to be as pick as possible when it comes to roommates. I turned down several before selecting her.

[DrFU]

6 year old ... broken antenna ... hole in side of cat ...

something ain't right w the roomie's story ...

[Starrider]

6 year old ... broken antenna ... hole in side of cat ...

something ain't right w the roomie's story ...

Unfortunately, I concur.

[Rip Rokken]

6 year old ... broken antenna ... hole in side of cat ...

something ain't right w the roomie's story ...

Unfortunately, I concur.

The biggest thing that would make me suspicious is that she didn't call you right away when discovering the "hole". And it would be the first time I've ever heard of something like that happening with an indoor cat, though (unless a stroke was involved). You can drop them from any angle and they land on their feet - it's instinct. But hey - none of us were there, so please take our Internet sleuthing with a grain of salt before getting too upset at your roommate. Just some ideas, and sometimes our own internal demand for answers can cause us to look for them where they don't exist. Could be she's a really nice lady, and you could risk making her uncomfortable this early in the living situation. If there's anything freaky, trust me - it will come out eventually.

[scarygirl]

6 year old ... broken antenna ... hole in side of cat ...

something ain't right w the roomie's story ...

Unfortunately, I concur.

The biggest thing that would make me suspicious is that she didn't call you right away when discovering the "hole". And it would be the first time I've ever heard of something like that happening with an indoor cat, though (unless a stroke was involved). You can drop them from any angle and they land on their feet - it's instinct. But hey - none of us were there, so please take our Internet sleuthing with a grain of salt before getting too upset at your roommate. Just some ideas, and sometimes our own internal demand for answers can cause us to look for them where they don't exist. Could be she's a really nice lady, and you could risk making her uncomfortable this early in the living situation. If there's anything freaky, trust me - it will come out eventually.

I spoke with the vet yesterday. There is a high pribability the cut was cause by scissors. The vet noted that the superficial cut was curved and didn;t involve any muscles or tissues. The hair surrounding the cut has been clipped very short and he said it appeared as if someone had tried to "clean it up." Based on her statement oif brushing Mya and him pulling away and then findiung the cut and the vet's findings I think it is very likely something happened in her care. I never asked her to do any of these things. The vet athinks he died from an allergic reaction to the antibiotic injection. He passed through sedation with flying colors. He was up and about shortly there after and all his vitals were noirmal during and after sedation. He had been sedated once before and had been fine. I feel bad. If I had known he was having an allergic reaction I very possibly could have saved him.... My roommate isn't here so I can;t talk to her. This is not something I care to do over the phone.

I received MYA s ashes yesterday. I couldnr believe how small the urn was. He weighed 14 pounds, It broke my heart.

[Rip Rokken]

I spoke with the vet yesterday. There is a high pribability the cut was cause by scissors. The vet noted that the superficial cut was curved and didn;t involve any muscles or tissues. The hair surrounding the cut has been clipped very short and he said it appeared as if someone had tried to "clean it up." Based on her statement oif brushing Mya and him pulling away and then findiung the cut and the vet's findings I think it is very likely something happened in her care. I never asked her to do any of these things. The vet athinks he died from an allergic reaction to the antibiotic injection. He passed through sedation with flying colors. He was up and about shortly there after and all his vitals were noirmal during and after sedation. He had been sedated once before and had been fine. I feel bad. If I had known he was having an allergic reaction I very possibly could have saved him.... My roommate isn't here so I can;t talk to her. This is not something I care to do over the phone.

I received MYA s ashes yesterday. I couldnr believe how small the urn was. He weighed 14 pounds, It broke my heart.

Another very possible scenario, and again, pure speculation... maybe she (or the grandson) was brushing her and found a knot or something stuck in the fur, and tried to clip it out with scissors. If the cat jumped or jerked suddenly, it could have caused the scrape. In that case she might have been too embarrassed to say what happened. Sounds like you can be reasonably sure that the scrape had nothing to do with her passing. My advice would be to give the situation some grace at this point to keep things smooth around the apartment.

[scarygirl]

I spoke with the vet yesterday. There is a high pribability the cut was cause by scissors. The vet noted that the superficial cut was curved and didn;t involve any muscles or tissues. The hair surrounding the cut has been clipped very short and he said it appeared as if someone had tried to "clean it up." Based on her statement oif brushing Mya and him pulling away and then findiung the cut and the vet's findings I think it is very likely something happened in her care. I never asked her to do any of these things. The vet athinks he died from an allergic reaction to the antibiotic injection. He passed through sedation with flying colors. He was up and about shortly there after and all his vitals were noirmal during and after sedation. He had been sedated once before and had been fine. I feel bad. If I had known he was having an allergic reaction I very possibly could have saved him.... My roommate isn't here so I can;t talk to her. This is not something I care to do over the phone.

I received MYA s ashes yesterday. I couldnr believe how small the urn was. He weighed 14 pounds, It broke my heart.

Another very possible scenario, and again, pure speculation... maybe she (or the grandson) was brushing her and found a knot something stuck in the fur, and tried to clip it out with scissors. If the cat jumped or jerked suddenly, it could have caused the scrape. In that case she might have been too embarrassed to say what happened. Sounds like you can be reasonably sure that the scrape had nothing to do with her passing. My advice would be to give the situation some grace at this point to keep things smooth around the apartment.

I think that is closer to the truth. I disagree though about the scrape having nothing to do with his passing. If he hadn t touched in the first place he wouldn t have been at the vets office in teh first place. She didnt have any right to use scissors or touch my cat at all. She hastened his expiration date,

I have no doubt it was accidental. She had talked about us going into together and buying a cat tree before his death. But if it was an accident she shouldnt have lied. She shouldn t have lied period. She is teaching her grandson a very bad lesson.

I am torn because I can see that in all probability it was a horrible accident. She doesnt know the consequences yet and I know it will break her heat. This is a very tough spot for me.

[TRAGChick]

Scarygirl....I am so sorry for your loss.....and I know how much this can hurt.

I lost my beloved Bibi, a Cat I had for 13 years, to hyperthyroidism.

She was, as I like to recall, "a BIG GIRL" ~ I adopted her at 2, in 1996; she was a hefty 12 lbs.
Somehow, her thyroid took over, and I watched this beautiful, Panther-looking feline shrink to less than 5 lbs -in 2009.

I almost had a nervous breakdown saying "good bye" to her on 10.28.09, because that day, I somehow knew she was not going to be with me by the time I got home from work.

I know EXACTLY how much this hurts, and my heart goes out to you...

[scarygirl]

Scarygirl....I am so sorry for your loss.....and I know how much this can hurt.

I lost my beloved Bibi, a Cat I had for 13 years, to hyperthyroidism.

She was, as I like to recall, "a BIG GIRL" ~ I adopted her at 2; she was a hefty 12 lbs.
Somehow, her thyroid took over, and I watched this beautiful, Panther-looking feline shrink to less than 5 lbs.

I almost had a nervous breakdown saying "good bye" to her on 10.28.09, because that day, I somehow knew she was not going to be with me by the time I got home from work.

I know EXACTLY how much this hurts, and my heart goes out to you...

Tragchick,

Thank you. To make matters wose I am now so much paranoid than ever of something terrible happening to my one sweet girl, Toni. I don't know how to get over it. I don t want to give voice to my fear for fear of making it come true.

A week to the day before Mya s passing I had an experience similar to you. I was at hime with the cats when suddenky I had this horrible feeling that Mya was GONE for good... I couldn't find him. I looked everywhere, under the bed, in cabinents, the bathroom you name it. I called and called for hin but he wouldnt answer me. Finally I saw two little ears sticking out of his blue box .... I was at the point of hysterics..... I thought he was REALLY gone.... I was ss happpy to see hin, I told him, you scared me TO DEATH. Why didnt you speak up? i AM SOOO glad you are here.... The morning of his passig I dreamed that I had to take shelter in mgy bathroom because of a tornado. I only had one cat.. I could only save one cat. When I woke he was dead.

What haunts me most is at his last vet visit I had made a flip comment that I'd be lucky to get five years because of his weight. The next Saturday he was DEAD.

I know that I didn';t wish my cat dead, but I hate that I made that comment. I said it out of fear that I hadn't been doing enough to control his weight. I was afraid that maybe he had a bad heart..... and he would drop dead becauase of me. Turns out his ticker was strong.... He just coyuldnt handle teh allergic reactiion from the antibiotic that I mistook for tiredness from sedation. My baby held on for hoiurs.... I will always wonder if I had known would it have made a difference. I was texting my friend the whole time he was dying.... I stayed with him the whole time. I kept checking him. He was all I talked about....I honestly thought he was tired from teh sedation and pain meds.

[Rip Rokken]

I spoke with the vet yesterday. There is a high pribability the cut was cause by scissors. The vet noted that the superficial cut was curved and didn;t involve any muscles or tissues. The hair surrounding the cut has been clipped very short and he said it appeared as if someone had tried to "clean it up." Based on her statement oif brushing Mya and him pulling away and then findiung the cut and the vet's findings I think it is very likely something happened in her care. I never asked her to do any of these things. The vet athinks he died from an allergic reaction to the antibiotic injection. He passed through sedation with flying colors. He was up and about shortly there after and all his vitals were noirmal during and after sedation. He had been sedated once before and had been fine. I feel bad. If I had known he was having an allergic reaction I very possibly could have saved him.... My roommate isn't here so I can;t talk to her. This is not something I care to do over the phone.

I received MYA s ashes yesterday. I couldnr believe how small the urn was. He weighed 14 pounds, It broke my heart.

Another very possible scenario, and again, pure speculation... maybe she (or the grandson) was brushing her and found a knot something stuck in the fur, and tried to clip it out with scissors. If the cat jumped or jerked suddenly, it could have caused the scrape. In that case she might have been too embarrassed to say what happened. Sounds like you can be reasonably sure that the scrape had nothing to do with her passing. My advice would be to give the situation some grace at this point to keep things smooth around the apartment.

I think that is closer to the truth.

I just re-read the thread and realized that you'd already floated that same idea, so pardon me for not catching that.

I disagree though about the scrape having nothing to do with his passing. If he hadn t touched in the first place he wouldn t have been at the vets office in teh first place.

I'm not clear on the hole -- how big was it, and was it deep, or just a scratch? You mentioned it needed stitches, but that there was no blood. Had it scabbed or anything?

She didnt have any right to use scissors or touch my cat at all. She hastened his expiration date,

I have no doubt it was accidental. She had talked about us going into together and buying a cat tree before his death. But if it was an accident she shouldnt have lied. She shouldn t have lied period. She is teaching her grandson a very bad lesson.

SG, I hope you'll give her some grace on this. Remember, she just lost a cat that looked a lot like yours - of course she's going to want to touch it. And you don't know for certain that she lied... thinking over that scenario is just making you angry for possibly no reason.

I am torn because I can see that in all probability it was a horrible accident. She doesnt know the consequences yet and I know it will break her heat. This is a very tough spot for me.

Whatever happened, you know it wasn't purposeful. Take this for what it's worth, but it helped me greatly a year ago. I read over your thread again and it sounds very possibly like emotionally you could be going thru a natural grieving period. According to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, the first two stages are "denial" then "anger". Final step of course is "acceptance". Those may be things you have to go thru naturally, and they shouldn't be rushed. But check out the following link and maybe it will make you feel better or help you understand your feelings:

http://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/

You'll have to figure out how you want to bring the news up to your roommate. I don't want to offer any advice there except to tell you that I think you'll feel a lot better in the long run if you take it easy on her. There are ways you can ask for more details on what happened without making her feel that you are suspicious of her. I hope it goes well for you.

[scarygirl]

Rip,

I know you re right. Gee, now I feel bad...