OT: Man Kills Wife Because Of Facebook "Status"

[Enigma869]

Lots of whacky shit going on in the UK. First the mom letting her 3 year old son smoke a pack of Marlboros and not this nutbag knocks his wife off for listing her status as "single" on Facebook! Must be something in the water over there.

http://www.switched.com/2009/01/23/man- ... 1201161458

[stevew2]

I always thought them hairdressers had ants in their pants

[Michigan Girl]

Seems I remember something similar to this happening
not too long ago....

[finalfight]

That news is actually quite old, i'm surprised it took so long to circulate.

Facebook is a disease, especially in the UK where ordinary people are literally afraid to lead their lives as before because of it. It's like a network of f@cking spies! Someone should sue the b@stards that created it for impeding their freedom.

I'm not condoning the murder though, just can't say I'm surprised in the slightest that it happened.

[finalfight]

Seems I remember something similar to this happening
not to long ago....

This was probably what you remembered its just taken a while to do the rounds.

[Michigan Girl]

[stevew2]

Seems I remember something similar to this happening
not to long ago....

are you single MG?

[bluejeangirl76]

This is why I don't have but about 14 facebook friends.
Too much info available, including full names.
Therefore, unless I personally know your ass, no BJG facebook access for you.

Not that this has much to do with the story but if she were smart she would have just privatized her profile and deleted his crazy ass from her friend list. People play stupid games with MySpace and Facebook - its so totally childish... "oh I'll change my status to 'single', that will show him!" OR on the other end of it, people get mad at other peoples' pages, like "hey, she took me off her 'Top Friends'... that bitch... I'm gonna delete her..." Grow up. LAME.

Facebook is good for one thing... games!

[stevew2]

This is why I don't have but about 14 facebook friends.
Too much info available, including full names.
Therefore, unless I personally know your ass, no BJG facebook access for you.

Not that this has much to do with the story but if she were smart she would have just privatized her profile and deleted his crazy ass from her friend list. People play stupid games with MySpace and Facebook - its so totally childish... "oh I'll change my status to 'single', that will show him!" OR on the other end of it, people get mad at other peoples' pages, like "hey, she took me off her 'Top Friends'... that bitch... I'm gonna delete her..." Grow up. LAME.

Facebook is good for one thing... games!

I prefer to talk to the nutbags on here

[Michigan Girl]

Seems I remember something similar to this happening
not to long ago....

are you single MG?

I don't do Facebook or Myspace.
If I did, it would say.....
married, old and unattractive, no need to bother!!

[Arkansas]

... Someone should sue the b@stards that created it for impeding their freedom. ...

So much for personal responsibility, huh?
Facebook doesn't kill people. People kill people.
Facebook doesn't divulge info. People do.
If people didn't use it, it would go away on its own.
Too much 'hey look at me!' bull$hit in this world.


later~

[stevew2]

Seems I remember something similar to this happening
not to long ago....

are you single MG?

I don't do Facebook or Myspace.
If I did, it would say.....
married, old and unattractive, no need to bother!!

I dont either, you aint none of those things

[stevew2]

We had this female neighbor that had her entire myspace page set up portraying herself to be her husband's dead sister. The sister had been a model and gorgeous. The wife on the other hand was "not". She was having all kinds of online "romances". When the husband found out, he freaked. Didn't kill her, but needless to say they are now divorced. It was really creepy!

Im freaked out

[Enigma869]

I don't do Facebook or Myspace.
If I did, it would say.....
married, old and unattractive, no need to bother!!

Mine just says "Warning...I have a hot wife, so you have a lot to live up to if you want to take a shot"

[StevePerryHair]

This is why I don't have but about 14 facebook friends.
Too much info available, including full names.
Therefore, unless I personally know your ass, no BJG facebook access for you.

Not that this has much to do with the story but if she were smart she would have just privatized her profile and deleted his crazy ass from her friend list. People play stupid games with MySpace and Facebook - its so totally childish... "oh I'll change my status to 'single', that will show him!" OR on the other end of it, people get mad at other peoples' pages, like "hey, she took me off her 'Top Friends'... that bitch... I'm gonna delete her..." Grow up. LAME.

Facebook is good for one thing... games!

Well I am a recent facebook junky and I hated it at first, but now I think it's great. It's like anything else. It's as crazy as the people who use it. You have to use your brain on how much info you want to place there and be careful who you add as a friend. I just recently found 2 friends from my past who I was very close to and lost touch with. I never would have found them again if not for a site like that, and I have really enjoyed catching up with them and their families. Along with several other people from my past and even keeping up with people in the present. I really think there are crazy people everywhere. Look at the personal info people divulge on this site! And yes, I do believe there may be some crazy people lurking or maybe even posting, even on MR.com!!

[Michigan Girl]

This is why I don't have but about 14 facebook friends.
Too much info available, including full names.
Therefore, unless I personally know your ass, no BJG facebook access for you.

Not that this has much to do with the story but if she were smart she would have just privatized her profile and deleted his crazy ass from her friend list. People play stupid games with MySpace and Facebook - its so totally childish... "oh I'll change my status to 'single', that will show him!" OR on the other end of it, people get mad at other peoples' pages, like "hey, she took me off her 'Top Friends'... that bitch... I'm gonna delete her..." Grow up. LAME.

Facebook is good for one thing... games!

Well I am a recent facebook junky and I hated it at first, but now I think it's great. It's like anything else. It's as crazy as the people who use it. You have to use your brain on how much info you want to place there and be careful who you add as a friend. I just recently found 2 friends from my past who I was very close to and lost touch with. I never would have found them again if not for a site like that, and I have really enjoyed catching up with them and their families. Along with several other people from my past and even keeping up with people in the present. I really think there are crazy people everywhere. Look at the personal info people divulge on this site! And yes, I do believe there may be some crazy people lurking or maybe even posting, even on MR.com!!

I concur!!!

[Rhiannon]

I don't do Facebook or Myspace.
If I did, it would say.....
married, old and unattractive, no need to bother!!

Mine just says "Warning...I have a hot wife, so you have a lot to live up to if you want to take a shot"

[epresley]

Seems I remember something similar to this happening
not to long ago....

are you single MG?

I don't do Facebook or Myspace.
If I did, it would say.....
married, old and unattractive, no need to bother!!

Yeah, right, ALL it would say is "married", the rest of that his horse hockey.........

[NealIsGod]

I don't do Facebook or Myspace.
If I did, it would say.....
married, old and unattractive, no need to bother!!

Mine just says "Warning...I have a hot wife, so you have a lot to live up to if you want to take a shot"

In other words...

[Rhiannon]

I used to love facebook... I joined in 2004, when it was still localized to colleges and universities. The main idea was inter-school social networking. You could also keep up with classes and that sort of thing as well. It was a simple layout, totally handy, and useful for keeping in touch with old friends at different schools.

Then they opened it to all schools, then companies, and now they've made it so anyone can join it. They added the status updates, news feed, and stupid game applications and the thing sucks now. I still use it, but I laugh at these people who update their status messages 3 times per day and make all their profile changes show up on the news feed.

One of my friends constantly updates his status with his daily schedule, down to the time... Jesus, that's just way too much. Who really cares that you're going to the gym at 6 and to work at 7:30?

Some people just invite trouble.

[StevePerryHair]

I used to love facebook... I joined in 2004, when it was still localized to colleges and universities. The main idea was inter-school social networking. You could also keep up with classes and that sort of thing as well. It was a simple layout, totally handy, and useful for keeping in touch with old friends at different schools.

Then they opened it to all schools, then companies, and now they've made it so anyone can join it. They added the status updates, news feed, and stupid game applications and the thing sucks now. I still use it, but I laugh at these people who update their status messages 3 times per day and make all their profile changes show up on the news feed.

One of my friends constantly updates his status with his daily schedule, down to the time... Jesus, that's just way too much. Who really cares that you're going to the gym at 6 and to work at 7:30?

Some people just invite trouble.

Well maybe some of us old people like the fact that we can keep up with all those friends we lost touch with to all of those different schools and jobs and marriages etc.

[finalfight]

One of my friends constantly updates his status with his daily schedule, down to the time... Jesus, that's just way too much. Who really cares that you're going to the gym at 6 and to work at 7:30?

Someone that has is name and location might be interested in the fact he is out regularly between those times. I wonder what his status would say when he eventually gets a new computer from the insurance company after his house has been burgled? In fact do insurance companies even pay out for open invitations to an empty property..?

[finalfight]

... Someone should sue the b@stards that created it for impeding their freedom. ...

So much for personal responsibility, huh?
Facebook doesn't kill people. People kill people.
Facebook doesn't divulge info. People do.
If people didn't use it, it would go away on its own.
Too much 'hey look at me!' bull$hit in this world.


later~

My problem is that non Facebook users are also dragged into this quagmire as there is absolutely nothing stopping them from being mentioned in someone's status or wall or tagged in photographs. This information then does the rounds and eventually gets back to the right or wrong people. It's a cesspool, a breeding ground of unwarranted gossip and Chinese whispers.

Case in point, I know of a Facebook user that put pictures of her child's first day at school on their supposedly secure account only allowing access to family and close friends. A family member who lived several hundreds of miles away tagged the photos and put them on their own Facebook account which did not have restricted access. Now via a simple Google search the estranged father of the person who originally posted the photos 'securely' was able to track down family members, in this case the Auntie, and not only see that his daughter had a child but also know exactly were the little girl went to school due to the uniform in the photo.

Imagine the shock when the mother turned up and the school one day to find 'grandpa' (an ex-con with a violent history) chatting to the granddaughter he had no right to see. Needless to say it was a very heated, unwarranted and downright scary situation for both mother and child. Imagine if she had gone home with grandpa - after all he had gotten this far unquestioned.

Farcebook breeds jealously and mistrust and ends as many relationships as it creates. This downright dangerous network is a predators paradise and people need to very, very careful when using it.

It beggars belief with the current levels of unemployment that people will openly state how much they hate their job or berate their colleagues when all it takes is a few clicks of a button for this information to become public knowledge. It's simply astounding!

If you want to stay in touch with people safely email, write a letter or God forbid use the phone (and I don't mean txt)! And hope to hell that person isn't a Facebook user unless you want the contents divulged to one and all.

[Rhiannon]

Well maybe some of us old people like the fact that we can keep up with all those friends we lost touch with to all of those different schools and jobs and marriages etc.

We gave you MySpace!! Was that not enough for you?

[AlteredDNA]

Well maybe some of us old people like the fact that we can keep up with all those friends we lost touch with to all of those different schools and jobs and marriages etc.

We gave you MySpace!! Was that not enough for you?

http://boomj.com

[Ehwmatt]

... Someone should sue the b@stards that created it for impeding their freedom. ...

So much for personal responsibility, huh?
Facebook doesn't kill people. People kill people.
Facebook doesn't divulge info. People do.
If people didn't use it, it would go away on its own.
Too much 'hey look at me!' bull$hit in this world.


later~

My problem is that non Facebook users are also dragged into this quagmire as there is absolutely nothing stopping them from being mentioned in someone's status or wall or tagged in photographs. This information then does the rounds and eventually gets back to the right or wrong people. It's a cesspool, a breeding ground of unwarranted gossip and Chinese whispers.

Case in point, I know of a Facebook user that put pictures of her child's first day at school on their supposedly secure account only allowing access to family and close friends. A family member who lived several hundreds of miles away tagged the photos and put them on their own Facebook account which did not have restricted access. Now via a simple Google search the estranged father of the person who originally posted the photos 'securely' was able to track down family members, in this case the Auntie, and not only see that his daughter had a child but also know exactly were the little girl went to school due to the uniform in the photo.

Imagine the shock when the mother turned up and the school one day to find 'grandpa' (an ex-con with a violent history) chatting to the granddaughter he had no right to see. Needless to say it was a very heated, unwarranted and downright scary situation for both mother and child. Imagine if she had gone home with grandpa - after all he had gotten this far unquestioned.

Farcebook breeds jealously and mistrust and ends as many relationships as it creates. This downright dangerous network is a predators paradise and people need to very, very careful when using it.

It beggars belief with the current levels of unemployment that people will openly state how much they hate their job or berate their colleagues when all it takes is a few clicks of a button for this information to become public knowledge. It's simply astounding!

If you want to stay in touch with people safely email, write a letter or God forbid use the phone (and I don't mean txt)! And hope to hell that person isn't a Facebook user unless you want the contents divulged to one and all.

As is normal in situations like these (i.e. these kinds of stalker stories, people who kill over a videogame, etc.), you are citing the most extreme worst case examples to demonize it. Like someone else said, accountability is key. If you're THAT worried about something like an ex-con family member showing up, do not put them on there, period. Likewise for job rantings, compromising pictures of drunkenness or partial nudity, etc etc.

The troubles start at ground zero - DON'T do stupid shit. In this day and age of technology, digital preservation and distribution and what not, if you put something out there, there is ALWAYS the chance it could come back, whether it's through Facebook, MySpace, a "private" e-mail intercepted by company executives, or hell, even on a message board like this. In this instance, the person could have gladly shared the photos with family and friends in person or via e-mail with a disclaimer to keep them private. The blame still ultimately lies with them - nothing's secure or encrypted to a T any more, not even the online stores that store all your identity information in "encrypted" databases.

I keep a Facebook so people can find me and send me messages if they are coming back in town or whatever. I have friends that are working in Argentina and China with no other way to get in touch with me, and some day it'll be nice to be able to look up old friends that have gone their own way. I don't put dumb pictures on there, I don't post my phone number (that's what private messages are for if someone needs it), and I don't give out my address.

People are responsible for the shit that ends up on there, not the site.

With that said, this story is extremely sad, but an Internet Web site did not make that nutjob do what he did. He would have found some other reason to snap, such as when she served him with divorce papers, no doubt about that.

[Ehwmatt]

BTW finalfight, I don't disagree with you at all that FB is a disease for many... so many people waste so much time on there doing god knows what. When I log on, I check to see if anyone's sent me any messages or requests and if they haven't, it's instantly closed out. I don't piss around putting photos and writing all kinds of people messages all day.

[bluejeangirl76]

When I log on, I check to see if anyone's sent me any messages or requests and if they haven't, it's instantly closed out.

I log on to play Mob Wars and Metropolis!

[Ehwmatt]

When I log on, I check to see if anyone's sent me any messages or requests and if they haven't, it's instantly closed out.

I log on to play Mob Wars and Metropolis!

That's what X360 is for, lol.

[AlteredDNA]

When I log on, I check to see if anyone's sent me any messages or requests and if they haven't, it's instantly closed out.

I log on to play Mob Wars and Metropolis!

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