A Note of Thanks

by **Lula** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 1:41 am

The day I lost Trevor was the darkest day of my existence. The outpouring of love and prayers was strong enough to lift me up. People I have never met, never touched, opened their wallets to try and provide some form of relief to us during this difficult time. The generosity was overwhelming. We were able to honor Trevor in a chapel with our friends and family by our side. Money was raised in his name to offer support to other families facing the devastating effects of TTTS. I have been given a list of paypal contributors, but it is unfortunately a list of screen names and nothing else. Ed was kind enough to organize the contributions and forward them to us. It is not an easy task to retrieve the email addresses or real names and Ed has done more than enough. So with that in mind, I ask that you accept this as our heartfelt thanks and know our intention and desire has been to thank each person individually for the kindness extended to our family.

There is unfortunately a few that feel we have not expressed our gratitude appropriately for the gifts we have received. I have been called a “gold digging c**t” and quite frankly I find that to be over the top and cruel. We are unable to identify the individual donors, so please feel free to ask for your money back if you feel we are now undeserving. Our son is at peace and I continue to grieve, I do not need the ongoing exploitation of our loss by a few that perhaps gave, but not from their hearts.

Our sincerest thanks to our online family. We celebrate the gift of Wyatt each day. We continue to feel the support and gain strength as time progresses. Love and peace to you all.

Lula and Dean

by **Saint John** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 1:47 am

The very best of health, fortune and happiness to the 3 of you. God bless.

by **Red13JoePa** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 1:49 am

Lula wrote: We celebrate the gift of Wyatt each day. Lula and Dean

You couldn't have found a better way to achieve peace about it.

by *Laura » Mon Feb 18, 2008 1:55 am

Anyone attacking a grieving Mother who lost her child,is nothing but a complete piece of filthy shit.Don't let that garbage in your life,Lula.Take it out.

With that said,focus on your family and enjoy the precious times with your child.

The best of health and joy to all of you.

by **Deb** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 1:57 am

God bless you, Dean, Wyatt and angel Trevor. There is no need to thank everybody individually, we all gave because we wanted to. When one is down we all rally around. That's what friends do (online or otherwise). I am appalled somebody would call you that.......they obviously don't know you. That just makes me sick! :evil:

by **SacredEyes** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 1:59 am

Lula,

Many do not understand the loss of a child. How devastating it is to lose flesh of your own flesh. Time does not make the wound go away . . . . . soften . . . . . but never, never closed.

Your family to include your precious Heavenly angel, Trevor, is in my prayers daily!

Your true friends will only lift you up and support you during these days of moving forward rather than bring such cruelty to an already unbearable situation. It saddens me that anyone would attempt to further harm your soul with such inflammatory language.

Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you. 2 Thessalonians 3:16

by **JH'sTXfan** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:00 am

Lula,
I still pray for your family to have continuing peace and health.

by **Lula** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:03 am

please know that this is not to start trouble or poke a stick at some. i have been wanting to say thank you for quite some time. the unfortunate words are just that and i only included them to let the individual know i will gladly return what money they donated. i know who i am and i say so with a pure heart. my pity goes out to those unable to achieve peace and harmony within.

by **StevePerryHair** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:03 am

When I gave money to you, it was from the heart with no strings or expectations or really even a thank you necessary. I feel it was the least I could do to help a couple who I had gotten to know, and who I felt pain for when I watched all you both and the babies had gone through. And then to have to deal with a loss as great as the loss you had to bear, it just broke my heart. That's why I wanted to help. Anyone who gave for any other reason or regrets it now obviously did not have their heart in the right place.

God bless you guys.

by **Indyjoe** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:10 am

Dean, Lula and Wyatt,

We continue to pray for your family's health and happiness. We also pray that you will not have to give another thought to someone that would seek to hurt you in any way.

God bless you guys-
Wendy and John

by **Rip Rokken** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:11 am

Hey, Lula -- I was brand new to the board at the time, but was so shaken by your loss that helping was just natural. God bless...

by **JrnyScarab** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:19 am

StevePerryHair wrote:When I gave money to you, it was from the heart with no strings or expectations or really even a thank you necessary.
God bless you guys.

I too gave with no strings attached. THAT is the true meaning of a gift. If anyone expects anything in return it is just their sick ego's looking for approval to show the world how great they are. You know, "Look at ME. Look how great I am for helping". Hope you and Dean fully recover from your family's tragedy. You have a beautiful boy counting on you.

by **larryfromnextdoor** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:19 am

you guys are the best...

by **mistiejourney** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:20 am

Lula and Dean,

I think of Trevor every time I see that gorgeous little guy called Wyatt!

I am so sorry that you have suffered additional pain from a few uncaring individuals.

Just being able to help was an honor in an of itself, it is what friends do (even "virtual" ones!) when sadness/tragedy strikes.

God bless your entire family.

Kim

by **Saint John** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:29 am

Lula wrote: I have been called a “gold digging c**t” and quite frankly I find that to be over the top and cruel.

Yeah, you're a real "gold digger." :roll:

Aren't you a "Special Ed" (oh, the irony) teacher? Perhaps one of the most difficult, underpaid and thankless jobs in America. Yeah, that's pretty consistent with being a gold digger. :roll:

by **Enigma869** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:33 am

Lula wrote:The day I lost Trevor was the darkest day of my existence. The outpouring of love and prayers was strong enough to lift me up. People I have never met, never touched, opened their wallets to try and provide some form of relief to us during this difficult time. The generosity was overwhelming. We were able to honor Trevor in a chapel with our friends and family by our side. Money was raised in his name to offer support to other families facing the devastating effects of TTTS. I have been given a list of paypal contributors, but it is unfortunately a list of screen names and nothing else. Ed was kind enough to organize the contributions and forward them to us. It is not an easy task to retrieve the email addresses or real names and Ed has done more than enough. So with that in mind, I ask that you accept this as our heartfelt thanks and know our intention and desire has been to thank each person individually for the kindness extended to our family.

There is unfortunately a few that feel we have not expressed our gratitude appropriately for the gifts we have received. I have been called a “gold digging c**t” and quite frankly I find that to be over the top and cruel. We are unable to identify the individual donors, so please feel free to ask for your money back if you feel we are now undeserving. Our son is at peace and I continue to grieve, I do not need the ongoing exploitation of our loss by a few that perhaps gave, but not from their hearts.

Our sincerest thanks to our online family. We celebrate the gift of Wyatt each day. We continue to feel the support and gain strength as time progresses. Love and peace to you all.

Lula and Dean

Very heartfelt, and eloquently stated, Lula. As the father of a 16 month old boy, I can't begin to tell you just how sad I felt at the loss you and Dean suffered. I will never be able to comprehend the strength one must have to endure the loss of a child. Losing a child always disrupts the natural cycle of life, and the way things are supposed to work. I know that you, Dean, and Wyatt will always keep Trevor in your thoughts and part of your family.

John from Boston

by **sadie65** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:33 am

Words would never be enough to express the loss and pain, nor the love. That anyone should feel they are due more in the way of thanks is a testimony to their lack of humanity. There is nothing so devastating as losing a child. To be told that you didn't express gratitude and thanks in a manner someone else wants is ridiculous and utterly contemptible.

by **Sassie** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:46 am

I can't believe anybody would call you such a thing either. It was obvious that you and deano were absolutely devestated. When we sent money we just desperately wanted to let you know how much we cared. So you just ignore those idiots that said that. What the heck do they know anyway. Anybody that would call you such a thing has no class. Shame on them!!!

by **Soto All The Way** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 2:59 am

No Thanks are needed in a time like this Lula and Deano....Hope things continue to get better...

e-

by **Moon Beam** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 3:01 am

Lula wrote:The outpouring of love and prayers was strong enough to lift me up.

I hope it continues to do as such lady Lula because it's all I've been able to offer.
I've been doing it daily since that very sad day.

by **Perrydise** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 3:10 am

Lula,

Trevor will forever be with all 3 of you, in your hearts forever. That twinkle in Wyatt's eyes that is Trevor shining through. You, Dean and Wyatt have the love and strength to continue. Your little family has been always included in my prayers since their births and will continue to be so.

We are to give and not brag about how good we are for doing so. We should give in silence and know it is right.

To those who have spited you, what goes around, comes around, that is just fact.

These three things continue forever: faith, hope and love. The greatest of these is love. (1Cor.13:13)

Bless all 3 of you.

by **Granny** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 3:24 am

No thanks are ever needed for a gift of love. and whoever thinks that thanks are needed has no idea what love really is..

Please ignore those that feel that way. They are very sad people indeed!

As the saying goes "Paybacks are Hell"...they will get theirs.....from God.

We love all of you....
G.

by **Ratgirl** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 3:55 am

I cant believe someone would call you out on this. My heart still aches for you all when I hear the sadness in your
voices talking about Trevor. I love you guys and knew sending you money was the least I can do. This thread should have
never came about.

Ignore the people who try to hurt you and move forward Lula. My prayers are with you and I'm just a phone call away if you
or Dean ever need a shoulder to cry on.

God bless,
Angela

by **Melissa** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 4:03 am

No thank you expected, we have been praying for you & Dean when we first heard you were battling TTTS, & it was only natural for us to help when you both had to face something no parent should ever have to face. And for anyone to add to your grief by calling you such awful names as well as throwing it back at you that they "helped" you, like they expect something in return now or that you should be indebted to them in any way.....forget them. They're beyond pathetic.

Your little touchstone Wyatt is absolutely beautiful, & we'll see you soon!

by **DSHinMICH** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 4:05 am

No thanks needed but appreciated! I was happy to help in my small way. You are all still in my thoughts and prayers!
Debbie

by **treetopovskaya** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 4:11 am

i can't even begin to imagine the pain of losing a child. it broke my heart to see you & dean grieving over the loss of trevor. when wyatt gets older & is able to understand he'll probably grieve for the brother he grew up without. i'll continue to keep you guys in my thoughts & prayers. god bless always.

wyatt keeps getting more & more adorable... even though he's starting to look more like dean! }:C))

hugs to you all.

by **Rawbean** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 4:17 am

Lula, I was most definitely a genuine contributor from deep within my heart and have never expected a thank you in return.

Despite all the unfortunate behavior going on, please know that I, too, have continued to send many prayers your way and have the utmost sympathy for the pain you've been going through. I kiss and hug my infant nephew as much as I can and know how much of a blessing it is to have these little miracles in our lives. May Trevor rest in peace, God bless you.

Robyn

by **Barb** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 4:27 am

I can't even imagine going through what the two of you have. What kind of demented person would call you a name like that? UFB! :evil:

by **Gin and Tonic Sky** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 6:17 am

Despite being a board member only a few short months, I know you both are wonderful people- and have certainly noticed how so many other board members hold you so dear- whoever expressed what they did really ought to be ashamed.

Rest assured you both will still be in our constant thoughts and prayers.

Matt

by **Cinner21** » Mon Feb 18, 2008 6:19 am

It's sad that people have to be like that...those are the piles of shit that need some type of recognition to feel important, but that's all they will be, a big old pile of pure nastiness!

...You have a great family here! It was very touching to see everyone come together when someone in the "family" needed strength, hope, prayers and kind words...and like many have said, when you give from the heart nothing should ever be expected in return...Cindy

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