by Rip Rokken » Mon Feb 25, 2008 11:38 am
Looks like the topic has been well covered, but I'll go ahead add my two cents in as well. True alcoholism is definitely a disease, and it's incurable -- you don't grow out of it, and you never learn to successfully handle it for any extended period of time. I personally disagree with some of what comes out AA doctrine, though, such as how willpower and resolve have nothing to do with recovery -- I think they definitely can play a part. I'm absolutely an alcoholic who will never be able to drink like a normal person, but I was never anywhere close to a gutter drunk, never drank during the day, etc. Still, my drinking poisoned my soul, my thinking, my relationships, and my job, and I pretty much made the decision to stop when I was at a point where I really had no choice. I did go to AA meetings for a while, long enough to realize that I wasn't alone and to figure out exactly what factors made up my alcoholism. After that, I decided I didn't want "alcoholic" to define my identity, and didn't want to rehash my past meeting after meeting, so I just took what I'd learned and moved forward. By the grace of God, I've had no struggles or even been tempted for the past 3 years, but I know good and well what would happen if I ever decided I could drink again.
There is a great deal of misunderstanding about what defines an alcoholic, and it usually centers around the amount or frequency that someone drinks -- sometimes that really has nothing to do with it. It's a combination of physiological and psychological factors that normal drinkers do not experience. It's also neither a moral failure, or simply a lack of will or resolve. Much more involved than that.
I'm just a normal guy, though, who doesn't want anyone around me to be bothered by my sobriety. It's good to have a few of us around in case anyone needs a ride, ya know?
