AFTER ALL THESE YEARS MTV....

[conversationpc]

Folks say, "How have you stayed married so long?". I say "We don't get a divorce!"

Love that response. And more truth than most can imagine. Marriage ain't easy but youhave to look at it as the long haul...in it to win it! I am at 12 years...lomger than my Mom thought it would last!!

My wife and I are almost at 11. This last year has probably been the toughest but things are looking up. Both sets of parents have been married for 40+ years.

[jrnychick]

Folks say, "How have you stayed married so long?". I say "We don't get a divorce!"

Love that response. And more truth than most can imagine. Marriage ain't easy but youhave to look at it as the long haul...in it to win it! I am at 12 years...lomger than my Mom thought it would last!!

My wife and I are almost at 11. This last year has probably been the toughest but things are looking up. Both sets of parents have been married for 40+ years.

It is a great song about standing the test of time with someone you love. My hubby and I will celebrate our 14th anniversary this summer. We dated for 6 years before we got married, so we've been together for almost 20 years. There have been lots of ups and downs, but I wouldn't want to be with anyone else. I am a lucky woman! Both of our parents are divorced. Both got divorced after over 20 years of marriage, so we're certainly not out of the woods yet!

[SF-Dano]

Beautifully done video. Really a beautiful song. The combination of images and music was truely heart touching.

Well done.

[Rhiannon]

It is a great song about standing the test of time with someone you love. My hubby and I will celebrate our 14th anniversary this summer. We dated for 6 years before we got married, so we've been together for almost 20 years. There have been lots of ups and downs, but I wouldn't want to be with anyone else. I am a lucky woman! Both of our parents are divorced. Both got divorced after over 20 years of marriage, so we're certainly not out of the woods yet!

I know that fear feeling with the parent situation. Mine divorced at 3. They were married for all of 7 years. My friend and I used to sit and talk out our demons and that was the biggest one, his parents have been married for about 30 years and still going strong. He doesn't understand my fear of patterns and I don't understand his fear of failure. Then one weekend I drove up here (where I live now) to visit him and his parents and I were walking through Target getting something for a baby shower and there on a package of diapers was this little toddler boy, his dad turned to him and said, "That's exactly what my grandson will look like from you two." It kinda clicked then with both of us that we'd never know unless we gave it a shot. That our parent's lives don't necessarily dictate what our path will be. And you have to try, even if you do fail, at least you gave it that much.

Unfortunately our first chance at that shot went down in flames. And so we've just been awkward best friends/on and off ever since.

[jrnyman28]

Unfortunately our first chance at that shot went down in flames. And so we've just been awkward best friends/on and off ever since.

You're right, at least you can say you tried. And apparantly your friendship was strong enough to continue. I had a friend for years that really was more than a friend to me. But timing was never right. When we met she started dating my best friend. Then they got engaged. Then I was dating someone. She disappeared for a while, turns out she sorta "ran off with someone". Finally we had a shot, we were both single........she didn't want to ruin that friendship (yeah, THAT line). Its been YEARS now and we are still very close. And she regrets not trying. But I no longer regret it because since then I have gotten married and we have a wonderful child together plus her two from a previous marriage. I don't look back and think "what if" anymore because the answer would exclude my wife and kids now! But I know it would get to her from time to time because we didn't try...that leaves the unknown, and that is the toughest thing.

But I notice you said "first chance". Sounds like there might still be a good shot!! Keep the faith, just don't pass up opportunities while "waiting".

[Rhiannon]

You're right, at least you can say you tried. And apparantly your friendship was strong enough to continue.

He's the best of everything... like your situation ours was a lot of timing too. By all accounts we shouldn't even know each other. And over time I can't even describe what's built up. He's the only person on this planet that really gets me 100% and it fits. But I doubt if it ever happens because right now we're both on different paths in life. He's starting grad school after a few years' hiatus, and I'm so focused and driven on my career in a sink-or-swim situation. The blessing is now we're located closer to each other and I know day or night I have someone there for me. One of the few people I know I can trust with my life. But like you know, timing has to be right.

But I notice you said "first chance". Sounds like there might still be a good shot!! Keep the faith, just don't pass up opportunities while "waiting".

Life has taught me repeatedly to anticipate anything. It's so similar to your situation it's not even funny. We're both single and "talking" now. Which the past has shown is just a matter of time until the next "round". And we've both taken other opportunities... getting advice on relationships from a man you almost eloped with is a situation beyond laughable.

Sounds like you have perspective enough to at least understand that your life is good. I respect you not wondering 'what if', that takes serious dedication.

[ProgRocker53]

Timing pisses me off.

If it wasn't for "timing" I could be married to two different girls, more than likely, right now.

Myself and the other party both times were absolutely crazy for one another and fit perfectly but circumstances/timing kept us from even dating.

Now they're both married and living in other states, BUT, both have told me after the fact that they always wonder what life would've been like with me...

....this is about the weirdest feeling ever, that I get thinking about this.

[Rick]

Timing pisses me off.

If it wasn't for "timing" I could be married to two different girls, more than likely, right now.

Myself and the other party both times were absolutely crazy for one another and fit perfectly but circumstances/timing kept us from even dating.

Now they're both married and living in other states, BUT, both have told me after the fact that they always wonder what life would've been like with me...

....this is about the weirdest feeling ever, that I get thinking about this.

Take your time young Skywalker. There'll be the right one at the right time.

[Michigan Girl]

Timing pisses me off.

If it wasn't for "timing" I could be married to two different girls, more than likely, right now.

Myself and the other party both times were absolutely crazy for one another and fit perfectly but circumstances/timing kept us from even dating.

Now they're both married and living in other states, BUT, both have told me after the fact that they always wonder what life would've been like with me...

....this is about the weirdest feeling ever, that I get thinking about this.

I thought you were waiting for ME!!!

[ProgRocker53]

Timing pisses me off.

If it wasn't for "timing" I could be married to two different girls, more than likely, right now.

Myself and the other party both times were absolutely crazy for one another and fit perfectly but circumstances/timing kept us from even dating.

Now they're both married and living in other states, BUT, both have told me after the fact that they always wonder what life would've been like with me...

....this is about the weirdest feeling ever, that I get thinking about this.

Take your time young Skywalker. There'll be the right one at the right time.

Eh, about damn time someone called me something other than "Grasshopper."

[AlteredDNA]

Folks say, "How have you stayed married so long?". I say "We don't get a divorce!"

Love that response. And more truth than most can imagine. Marriage ain't easy but youhave to look at it as the long haul...in it to win it! I am at 12 years...lomger than my Mom thought it would last!!

My wife and I are almost at 11. This last year has probably been the toughest but things are looking up. Both sets of parents have been married for 40+ years.

My wife and I had our 10 year anniversary this past Feb. We're making it a point to really enjoy every moment of the next ten...

[Triple S]

This video is very well done, and the song - well, it brings tears to my eyes. (And I usually only cry when I'm watching Extreme Home Makeover or Cold Case ) Hey - there's a thought - this song would be great for the end of a Cold Case episode! Or my 18th anniversary next week

[stevew2]

Timing pisses me off.

If it wasn't for "timing" I could be married to two different girls, more than likely, right now.

Myself and the other party both times were absolutely crazy for one another and fit perfectly but circumstances/timing kept us from even dating.

Now they're both married and living in other states, BUT, both have told me after the fact that they always wonder what life would've been like with me...

....this is about the weirdest feeling ever, that I get thinking about this.

When did you start dating girls ?? lol They should have wrote a song called After All These Beers.

[Michigan Girl]

[ProgRocker53]

Timing pisses me off.

If it wasn't for "timing" I could be married to two different girls, more than likely, right now.

Myself and the other party both times were absolutely crazy for one another and fit perfectly but circumstances/timing kept us from even dating.

Now they're both married and living in other states, BUT, both have told me after the fact that they always wonder what life would've been like with me...

....this is about the weirdest feeling ever, that I get thinking about this.

When did you start dating girls ?? lol

Jealous are we, Stevie babie?

[Since 78]

Somebody should have posted a warning not to watch that at work, I was Tearin up Great Video

[conversationpc]

When did you start dating girls ?? lol They should have wrote a song called After All These Beers.

Seems like some of your crowd are awfully fixated on gay jokes. Care to confess to some pent up homoerotic feelings?

[stevew2]

When did you start dating girls ?? lol They should have wrote a song called After All These Beers.

Seems like some of your crowd are awfully fixated on gay jokes. Care to confess to some pent up homoerotic feelings?

My crowd??? Thats just me .I kid around like that all the time, and I think Prog could be Bi .

[ProgRocker53]

When did you start dating girls ?? lol They should have wrote a song called After All These Beers.

Seems like some of your crowd are awfully fixated on gay jokes. Care to confess to some pent up homoerotic feelings?

My crowd??? Thats just me .I kid around like that all the time, and I think Prog could be Bi .

Actually, Steve should know firsthand. I'm surprised he took his hands off my pole for long enough to type that post.

[Rhiannon]

...this is about the weirdest feeling ever, that I get thinking about this.

You'll find the right thing, and when you do, you'll realize that those experiences prepped you for her.
Try having a weather system change your life. Some of the worst storms ever rocked Chicago on my birthday, causing O'Hare to all but shut down. Therefore causing a flight to get cancelled and by the time it should've taken off the weather was perfect. Things just happen. I wasn't ready, he wasn't ready. Not even a year later we've both matured so much more in ourselves, even in just the tiniest bits. Don't dwell on what might've been, appreciate what is. Trust me, it gets better.

[stevew2]

When did you start dating girls ?? lol They should have wrote a song called After All These Beers.

Seems like some of your crowd are awfully fixated on gay jokes. Care to confess to some pent up homoerotic feelings?

My crowd??? Thats just me .I kid around like that all the time, and I think Prog could be Bi .

Actually, Steve should know firsthand. I'm surprised he took his hands off my pole for long enough to type that post.

I wouldnt touch your twig if i had 10 foot hands

[StoneCold]

Back on track, I'm curious if Journey will release any official vids for these tracks.

Let's see, AATY, the video.

1. An abandoned shipyard. / Check
2. Tight jeans for the band. / Check
3. Air piano for JC. / Check

There you have it, sounds like it'll be a winner.

[Rick]

Back on track, I'm curious if Journey will release any official vids for these tracks.

Let's see, AATY, the video.

1. An abandoned shipyard. / Check
2. Tight jeans for the band. / Check
3. Air piano for JC. / Check

There you have it, sounds like it'll be a winner.

Great av dude.

[StoneCold]

Back on track, I'm curious if Journey will release any official vids for these tracks.

Let's see, AATY, the video.

1. An abandoned shipyard. / Check
2. Tight jeans for the band. / Check
3. Air piano for JC. / Check

There you have it, sounds like it'll be a winner.

Great av dude.

No doubt. SW is a tough one to top.

Air kitty!

[stevew2]

Back on track, I'm curious if Journey will release any official vids for these tracks.

Let's see, AATY, the video.

1. An abandoned shipyard. / Check
2. Tight jeans for the band. / Check
3. Air piano for JC. / Check

There you have it, sounds like it'll be a winner.

Great av dude.

No doubt. SW is a tough one to top.

Air kitty!

Thanks dude

[jrnyman28]

If it wasn't for "timing" I could be married to two different girls, more than likely, right now.

That's illegal in most states!
But like Rhi said, it is all prep. Every experience makes us who we are. It's another reason why I don't bother with "what if's" anymore.

[jrnyman28]

It's so similar to your situation it's not even funny. ....... Sounds like you have perspective enough to at least understand that your life is good. I respect you not wondering 'what if'

I am sure I would be different if I were single. But I am extremely fortunate to have found my "someone" and it has worked. It ain't always easy, but we both want to be together above all else.