StevePerryHair wrote:scarygirl wrote:Unless you were otherwise raped or coerced by strong means, threats etc, being a teen mother is a choice. That said, I don't believe marrying the daddy is a cure-all,, and if she were my daughter I would not encourage her to do that. If she so chose, I would encourage adoption as I think 17 is too young to throw your life away for a single mistake. However, if she wanted to keep it I would support her best I could, and make damn sure she completes her education beyond HS. I would not howver want her to get an abortion as I believe it to be murder.
Well I sure am glad my mom, who was merely a year older than that, didn't look at having me and marrying my dad so young as throwing her life away. They were married for 26 years and would still be married had he not passed away 14 years ago at the age of 46. Made her glad they had their kids so young, since we were grown when he died. You never know what life will throw at you and not every event can be looked at as "throwing your life away". The advantage to this girl is that her family has money so she will get to finish her education and maybe even college and probably won't have to worry much about care for her baby. Not every outcome is the same or a "cancer" either.
Uhm, I was talking specifically about my family situation. Not saying keeping the child is a cancer, but baring a child early impacts your life in a huge way. Add on top of it marrying just to keep teh family peace, that's just WRONG! I'm sorry, but it is, and unless you have been a child of that you can't understand.
I was not condemning all young marriages, but there are some families taht shouldn't stay together, and mine was one of them. There is a difference between a good family situation and a poor one. If you marry simply for the sake of marrying, particularly to someone who is abusive and only cares about themselves, then the children suffer. They do.