HEARTBREAK......

[SherriBerry]

No one mourns the loss of a loved one or a breakup in the same way - the pain fades with time, like a physical wound, but at the time of the break the pain can be unbearable. I don't know the particulars, so I can only say that it helps to talk it through with friends you trust and spend time doing things for yourself that you didn't get to do before. Don't waste time wondering what you could have done or didn't do or how you could have changed, because it isn't you - you deserve someone who loves you for exactly who you are and appreciates how lucky they are to be with you!

I still don't know what happened to me - he just walked away and left, and didn't even have the decency to tell me why. It wouldn't change anything, but I would have liked an answer. So when I feel nostalgic, remembering only the good times, I force myself to remember all of the times he did or said things to me that were not very nice and then I feel grateful that I have the chance to find someone else who appreciates me. I absolutely love movies and find watching them the best therapy - While You Were Sleeping and You've Got Mail are hopeful, sweet, and funny.

[portland]

Way too many serious replies.
Who gives a s#it? Are we still in high school?
C'mon people. Get creative.


later~

STFU . What does losing a mother or a son have anything to do with fucking highschool you moron.

~ much much later.
If this is too serious for you , go post in the single word thread.

Pi$$ed off post #1. Any more?
Get it out...let go of the anger...denial...depression...
Kubler-Ross anyone?


later~

annoyed post #2: could you be a bigger dumb ass? Really??

Three.

Four.

[portland]

thank you so much everyone....you can't imagine how much it helps to read your words....

Im am so sorry I trashed this thread with my dumb ass comments. You hang in there and dont blame yourself, or thinking "if is was there things would have been different" Id say get drunk but alcohol is a depressent, {althought it makes me numb} You ll have to greive through it, and hug as many family members as you can.My girlfreind went through her sister commiting suicide last month. her family pulling together and hopefullyI helped her. She is still workin thru it.She was going to do conseling but the doctor was more messed up. then she was. Try to stay away from pills, you ll feel nothing until they wear off, then you ll be retarded. Again im sorry about my comment eailer, I type before i think way to often, My prays to you, if that means anything. God can help you more than anything ,if you can beleive in him.

Nice post.

[Babyblue]

thank you so much everyone....you can't imagine how much it helps to read your words....

Im am so sorry I trashed this thread with my dumb ass comments. You hang in there and dont blame yourself, or thinking "if is was there things would have been different" Id say get drunk but alcohol is a depressent, {althought it makes me numb} You ll have to greive through it, and hug as many family members as you can.My girlfreind went through her sister commiting suicide last month. her family pulling together and hopefullyI helped her. She is still workin thru it.She was going to do conseling but the doctor was more messed up. then she was. Try to stay away from pills, you ll feel nothing until they wear off, then you ll be retarded. Again im sorry about my comment eailer, I type before i think way to often, My prays to you, if that means anything. God can help you more than anything ,if you can beleive in him.

Great post Stevew2

Liz, i am very sorry about your breakup hon.It just takes time to get over it. But you will be a stronger woman from it.You will find the right one hon.Wish i could have been more help here.But there have been many good posts so i bet some of them will help you.Just hang in there.

[bluejeangirl76]

No one mourns the loss of a loved one or a breakup in the same way - the pain fades with time, like a physical wound, but at the time of the break the pain can be unbearable. I don't know the particulars, so I can only say that it helps to talk it through with friends you trust and spend time doing things for yourself that you didn't get to do before. Don't waste time wondering what you could have done or didn't do or how you could have changed, because it isn't you - you deserve someone who loves you for exactly who you are and appreciates how lucky they are to be with you!

I still don't know what happened to me - he just walked away and left, and didn't even have the decency to tell me why. It wouldn't change anything, but I would have liked an answer. So when I feel nostalgic, remembering only the good times, I force myself to remember all of the times he did or said things to me that were not very nice and then I feel grateful that I have the chance to find someone else who appreciates me. I absolutely love movies and find watching them the best therapy - While You Were Sleeping and You've Got Mail are hopeful, sweet, and funny.

Great post Sherri. Like I said before, time. It's the only thing you can do, and unfortunately, it takes awhile.

As for movies - I do that too - distraction... but I can't watch any kind of girlie romance movies unless I'm totally uninvolved with anyone and not going through a loss... just pisses me off more....LOL! I look at those movies then I look at what's next to me on the sofa and I'm like "That ass!! Why can't he be like the guy in the movie?" then... "oh yeah, because the guy in the movie is a figment of some delirious writer's imagination, that's why...." And if there is a nice fresh broken heart, those movies are worse. I'd rather sit there plot the characters' deaths for being so stupid and sappy than enjoy the story. This is why I watch horror - the characters are gonna die anyway, so no harm done.

[Behshad]

Way too many serious replies.
Who gives a s#it? Are we still in high school?
C'mon people. Get creative.


later~

STFU . What does losing a mother or a son have anything to do with fucking highschool you moron.

~ much much later.
If this is too serious for you , go post in the single word thread.

Pi$$ed off post #1. Any more?
Get it out...let go of the anger...denial...depression...
Kubler-Ross anyone?


later~

Depressed & in denial is what describes your situation right now. You seem to get all defensive cause people were talking about death and breakups.
Maybe it bothers you cause you dont have anyone to break up with you. Maybe it bothers you that people will not mourn when youre finally gone.
Maybe you're simply the same jackass in real life that you are here.
Nevertheless,,, you dont have to read here if it's not your cup of tea... If you can't contribute, then move on and try to be useful elsewhere

[artist4perry]

Way too many serious replies.
Who gives a s#it? Are we still in high school?
C'mon people. Get creative.


later~

Love Stinks..............and so do you. Creative enough ARKY?

[Tomulator]

Anonymous group sex worked for me...




I KID!!!

[Arkansas]

Defensive? No.
Jackass? Yes.
Stink? Sometimes.
Mourn? No. Please celebrate.
Take myself & and the internet seriously? F no, never.



later~

[artist4perry]

Defensive? No.
Jackass? Yes.
Stink? Sometimes.
Mourn? No. Please celebrate.
Take myself & and the internet seriously? F no, never.



later~

Minnimalist I see.............later~

[JasonD]

Defensive? No.
Jackass? Yes.
Stink? Sometimes.
Mourn? No. Please celebrate.
Take myself & and the internet seriously? F no, never.



later~

Why are you so cynical?

[Babyblue]

Defensive? No.
Jackass? Yes.
Stink? Sometimes.
Mourn? No. Please celebrate.
Take myself & and the internet seriously? F no, never.



later~

Why are you being a asshole?????

You don't have to read this thread ya know.

[ScarabGator]

WHen my big ole Gator heart gets broke I find someone I care a lot about, spend time with them however that may be and have a couple drinks. Fun, my friend....fun always kicks heartbreaks ass. You heard it from the Gator...now take that to the bank. I'll even have a drink with you....hell, we could all use some cheering up....

[Angel]

WHen my big ole Gator heart gets broke I find someone I care a lot about, spend time with them however that may be and have a couple drinks. Fun, my friend....fun always kicks heartbreaks ass. You heard it from the Gator...now take that to the bank. I'll even have a drink with you....hell, we could all use some cheering up....

What he said. /\
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[stevew2]

WHen my big ole Gator heart gets broke I find someone I care a lot about, spend time with them however that may be and have a couple drinks. Fun, my friend....fun always kicks heartbreaks ass. You heard it from the Gator...now take that to the bank. I'll even have a drink with you....hell, we could all use some cheering up....

Now if you would stop drinkin shitty beer , yould be alright

[Rip Rokken]

Time, for losing a loved one, and lots of Xanax. And for divorce or bad breakups, time and, more importantly, falling in love again or lust again.

If you were serious here, I disagree strongly. If you need a pill to cope, than your issues lay a lot deeper than a simple broken heart.

I hate that crap with a passion. Seen it tear about a lot of people. Me, nothing ever worked better for a heartache that a triple dose of melodic metal cranked up as loud as I could stand it. Music can be a huge emotional release.

[StevePerryHair]

Not EVERYONE is an addict just because they may need xanax for a very short term. I for one have never had one in my life, but when my mom lost her husband she loved for 26 years, she needed it short term to SLEEP and only used it about a month. Not EVERYONE has an ADDICTIVE personality....

[stevew2]

Time, for losing a loved one, and lots of Xanax. And for divorce or bad breakups, time and, more importantly, falling in love again or lust again.

If you were serious here, I disagree strongly. If you need a pill to cope, than your issues lay a lot deeper than a simple broken heart.

I hate that crap with a passion. Seen it tear about a lot of people. Me, nothing ever worked better for a heartache that a triple dose of melodic metal cranked up as loud as I could stand it. Music can be a huge emotional release.

xanak fucked up my dad, fuck pills, deal with it, drink a little wine ,go to bed , take the next day in ,it ll get better

[verslibre]

Porn, ALL day, ALL night!

[verslibre]

Im am so sorry I trashed this thread with my dumb ass comments.

Good thing, you don't want this guy after you:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zcbArLoE2gQ&feature=player_embedded

[SherriBerry]

No one mourns the loss of a loved one or a breakup in the same way - the pain fades with time, like a physical wound, but at the time of the break the pain can be unbearable. I don't know the particulars, so I can only say that it helps to talk it through with friends you trust and spend time doing things for yourself that you didn't get to do before. Don't waste time wondering what you could have done or didn't do or how you could have changed, because it isn't you - you deserve someone who loves you for exactly who you are and appreciates how lucky they are to be with you!

I still don't know what happened to me - he just walked away and left, and didn't even have the decency to tell me why. It wouldn't change anything, but I would have liked an answer. So when I feel nostalgic, remembering only the good times, I force myself to remember all of the times he did or said things to me that were not very nice and then I feel grateful that I have the chance to find someone else who appreciates me. I absolutely love movies and find watching them the best therapy - While You Were Sleeping and You've Got Mail are hopeful, sweet, and funny.

Great post Sherri. Like I said before, time. It's the only thing you can do, and unfortunately, it takes awhile.

As for movies - I do that too - distraction... but I can't watch any kind of girlie romance movies unless I'm totally uninvolved with anyone and not going through a loss... just pisses me off more....LOL! I look at those movies then I look at what's next to me on the sofa and I'm like "That ass!! Why can't he be like the guy in the movie?" then... "oh yeah, because the guy in the movie is a figment of some delirious writer's imagination, that's why...." And if there is a nice fresh broken heart, those movies are worse. I'd rather sit there plot the characters' deaths for being so stupid and sappy than enjoy the story. This is why I watch horror - the characters are gonna die anyway, so no harm done.

I also found kick-ass action movies to be great therapy for those times when I would just get mad and had no way to vent without breaking something I would miss: The Long Kiss Goodnight, First Blood, Rambo, and Aliens are great too!

[Tomulator]

Seriously...I have always taken solace in music...specifically playing guitar. Also, writing songs/lyrics about said "heartbreak" is a good release.

Hang in there...it gets better.

[portland]

Time, for losing a loved one, and lots of Xanax. And for divorce or bad breakups, time and, more importantly, falling in love again or lust again.

If you were serious here, I disagree strongly. If you need a pill to cope, than your issues lay a lot deeper than a simple broken heart.

I hate that crap with a passion. Seen it tear about a lot of people. Me, nothing ever worked better for a heartache that a triple dose of melodic metal cranked up as loud as I could stand it. Music can be a huge emotional release.

Could not agree more! music heals the soul!

We all need to remember everyone is different and each has their own way of dealing with heartbreak. I see people deal with it on a daily basis and not one person has been the same. I am different in the way I deal with my own heartbreaks in life than say the way my friends may deal with it.

I guess there is no "right" way to get through it.

[bluejeangirl76]

Me, nothing ever worked better for a heartache that a triple dose of melodic metal cranked up as loud as I could stand it. Music can be a huge emotional release.

You got that right!

And not just for sadness or anger either.
Sometimes, I'm just in a really good mood - in the mood to crank that bad boy up and yell along with it!!

[WalkInMyShoes]

Me, nothing ever worked better for a heartache that a triple dose of melodic metal cranked up as loud as I could stand it. Music can be a huge emotional release.

You got that right!

And not just for sadness or anger either.
Sometimes, I'm just in a really good mood - in the mood to crank that bad boy up and yell along with it!!

Although when you forget people can see you when you're driving on the highway belting out a tune, you can get some strange looks. Aretha Franklin is my sing-along "inspiration".

[Melissa]

I think for some, sometimes when someone hurts you, maybe that hurt can be harder than when you lose someone to death. When someone you love and care about dies, at least you know that person loved and cared about you too before you lost them. And time does bring peace for death, that I know. But it's hard to swallow and understand when someone you love and care about, and they know you do, hurts you like hell then walks away from you. And they know they hurt you, but don't care. Certainly hard to understand, but I hope you soon find peace.

[Deb]

I think for some, sometimes when someone hurts you, maybe that hurt can be harder than when you lose someone to death. When someone you love and care about dies, at least you know that person loved and cared about you too before you lost them. And time does bring peace for death, that I know. But it's hard to swallow and understand when someone you love and care about, and they know you do, hurts you like hell then walks away from you. And they know they hurt you, but don't care. Certainly hard to understand, but I hope you soon find peace.

Good point, Melly. In a death, the person is gone and you can start the grieving process, but in a breakup/divorce you may have to start that process over many times as you still may have to deal with that person.

[portland]

I think for some, sometimes when someone hurts you, maybe that hurt can be harder than when you lose someone to death. When someone you love and care about dies, at least you know that person loved and cared about you too before you lost them. And time does bring peace for death, that I know. But it's hard to swallow and understand when someone you love and care about, and they know you do, hurts you like hell then walks away from you. And they know they hurt you, but don't care. Certainly hard to understand, but I hope you soon find peace.

That was perfectly said!

[bluejeangirl76]

I think for some, sometimes when someone hurts you, maybe that hurt can be harder than when you lose someone to death. When someone you love and care about dies, at least you know that person loved and cared about you too before you lost them. And time does bring peace for death, that I know. But it's hard to swallow and understand when someone you love and care about, and they know you do, hurts you like hell then walks away from you. And they know they hurt you, but don't care. Certainly hard to understand, but I hope you soon find peace.

Good point, Melly. In a death, the person is gone and you can start the grieving process, but in a breakup/divorce you may have to start that process over many times as you still may have to deal with that person.

Yeah, that's exactly right. For me, it was almost just like someone dying, if that makes any sense. Suddenly this person who was in my life for so long was just gone and was definitely not coming back. The difference for me was that when someone dies, you know there's no choice in the matter. They didn't choose to go and you didn't choose for them to go, and it's really sad but we know that it happens...

For me it came pretty much out of the blue and was like, "ok, he's totally gone from my life, but... he did that by choice and now he's moved on to a new life..." so that made it a little harder to take, I think, feeling the same sense of loss but... he's still walking around out there somewhere. (This was back then of course... I don't feel like that now because I'm over it).

[stevew2]

Im am so sorry I trashed this thread with my dumb ass comments.

Good thing, you don't want this guy after you:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zcbArLoE2gQ&feature=player_embedded

now that guy needs a xanax