How long have you been married???

[portland]

I want to add a Part B to Jim's question.

Of the ones who are married (knowing what you know now) how many of you would do it again? In other words, is being married better than being single. I kinda like the single life b/c I don't have to answer to anyone .... much.

That's a very tough question, yet it isn't. Anyone who's been with someone for quite a while knows that life can become quite stale if you have the same routines day in and day out. Life can become dull. You'll start noticing other people of the opposite sex and think "Damn... those look nice" or "I wonder what kind of clothes she wear's under that dress", or...well you get the idea. There is a lot of temptation out there.

At the same time, it's nice to have someone you can trust, and share things with. It's nice to have someone to talk to and go thru life with. I think EVERY marriage needs a little change every now and then to spice things up.

BTW... Just messing with you about the rings Jason. Hope I didn't offend you.

YEP....what he said!

[Ehwmatt]

My whole life...don't rush kiddies!!!

It blows my mind at how many friends/acquaintances of mine are rushing into things without even having financial independence established. Right now, it's especially not easy for young people to find jobs and I know some jobless people who are making things official while still living at home or still being in college!

I mean, what's the point of making things official before you even have income or a career established? That's tossing aside all other iffy things, like people who get engaged with the 2nd person they date in their lives after dating said 2nd person for a few months..

I was a senior in college...

Context is everything. Shit, my mom was a freshman when my parents got engaged, but my dad was a few years older and also had a well-established job by the time they actually got married and moved in together.

Along with the context, the economy is just shit today. I have a lot of unemployed friends that are a year or two out of college right now (edit: who are getting themselves into silly, rushed situations)

Then there's my best friend (who DOES have a job), who is getting engaged to a bloodsucking wench that is terribly wrong for him on every level. It sucks, because his brother (another good friend of mine) and I know it 100%, but you know, can't say anything about it...

Marriage is a great thing and I'm not trying to wage an anti-marriage campaign here, but I just get worried about a lot of my friends who are getting forced into it or rushing into things in my eyes. But hey, hopefully things work out for them.

[G.I.Jim]

My whole life...don't rush kiddies!!!

Damn... that's a LOOOOOOOOOOOOONG time!

[Michigan Girl]

My whole life...don't rush kiddies!!!

It blows my mind at how many friends/acquaintances of mine are rushing into things without even having financial independence established. Right now, it's especially not easy for young people to find jobs and I know some jobless people who are making things official while still living at home or still being in college!

I mean, what's the point of making things official before you even have income or a career established? That's tossing aside all other iffy things, like people who get engaged with the 2nd person they date in their lives after dating said 2nd person for a few months..

I was a senior in college...

Context is everything. Shit, my mom was a freshman when my parents got engaged, but my dad was a few years older and also had a well-established job by the time they actually got married and moved in together.

Along with the context, the economy is just shit today. I have a lot of unemployed friends that are a year or two out of college right now.

Then there's my best friend, who is getting engaged to a bloodsucking wench that is terribly wrong for him on every level. It sucks, because his brother (another good friend of mine) and I know it 100%, but you know, can't say anything about it...

Marriage is a great thing and I'm not trying to wage an anti-marriage campaign here, but I just get worried about a lot of my friends who are getting forced into it or rushing into things in my eyes. But hey, hopefully things work out for them.

I agree with you, Matty!! You have a good head on your shoulders, some young people do and
others do not!! I just think that people should enjoy life a little before committing to forever!!
Forever is so loooooooooong!!!

haha, Jimbo!!

[JasonD]

I want to add a Part B to Jim's question.

Of the ones who are married (knowing what you know now) how many of you would do it again? In other words, is being married better than being single. I kinda like the single life b/c I don't have to answer to anyone .... much.

That's a very tough question, yet it isn't. Anyone who's been with someone for quite a while knows that life can become quite stale if you have the same routines day in and day out. Life can become dull. You'll start noticing other people of the opposite sex and think "Damn... those look nice" or "I wonder what kind of clothes she wear's under that dress", or...well you get the idea. There is a lot of temptation out there.

At the same time, it's nice to have someone you can trust, and share things with. It's nice to have someone to talk to and go thru life with. I think EVERY marriage needs a little change every now and then to spice things up.

BTW... Just messing with you about the rings Jason. Hope I didn't offend you.

Nah, you didn't offend me. I just didn't respond b/c I was fixing something to eat. Matt had to go & mention corn & so that made me want some corn so I had to go & nuke of can of it. It's midnight & I'm sitting here eating corn. Yep, that's me ..... Jason with the great big exciting life that goes beyond the scope of anyone's imagination. (That's an inside joke I have with someone here. She'll recognize it I'm sure.)

[portland]

My whole life...don't rush kiddies!!!

It blows my mind at how many friends/acquaintances of mine are rushing into things without even having financial independence established. Right now, it's especially not easy for young people to find jobs and I know some jobless people who are making things official while still living at home or still being in college!

I mean, what's the point of making things official before you even have income or a career established? That's tossing aside all other iffy things, like people who get engaged with the 2nd person they date in their lives after dating said 2nd person for a few months..

I was a senior in college...

Context is everything. Shit, my mom was a freshman when my parents got engaged, but my dad was a few years older and also had a well-established job by the time they actually got married and moved in together.

Along with the context, the economy is just shit today. I have a lot of unemployed friends that are a year or two out of college right now.

Then there's my best friend, who is getting engaged to a bloodsucking wench that is terribly wrong for him on every level. It sucks, because his brother (another good friend of mine) and I know it 100%, but you know, can't say anything about it...

Marriage is a great thing and I'm not trying to wage an anti-marriage campaign here, but I just get worried about a lot of my friends who are getting forced into it or rushing into things in my eyes. But hey, hopefully things work out for them.

I agree with you, Matty!! You have a good head on your shoulders, some young people do and
others do not!! I just think that people should enjoy life a little before commiting to forever!!
Forever is so loooooooooong!!! :
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haha, Jimbo!!

It is very looooooooooong!!!

Enjoy your freedom...there is plenty of time for forever, TRUST me!!!!

[Ehwmatt]

I agree with you, Matty!! You have a good head on your shoulders, some young people do and
others do not!! I just think that people should enjoy life a little before commiting to forever!!
Forever is so loooooooooong!!!

haha, Jimbo!!

Hell, even some of my friends in the 26-29 age range who got married to good women during or right after college have even admitted to me that they wish they would have at least lived on their own after college for at least a while. Even if not literally single, they kinda wish they'd experienced just having their own place to to theirselves or with a roommate rather than just shackin up with the chick right after college.

[WalkInMyShoes]

I agree with you, Matty!! You have a good head on your shoulders, some young people do and
others do not!! I just think that people should enjoy life a little before commiting to forever!!
Forever is so loooooooooong!!!

haha, Jimbo!!

Hell, even some of my friends in the 26-29 age range who got married to good women during or right after college have even admitted to me that they wish they would have at least lived on their own after college for at least a while. Even if not literally single, they kinda wish they'd experienced just having their own place to to theirselves or with a roommate rather than just shackin up with the chick right after college.

But...no one, not family or friends, could have or did dissuade them from getting married. People need to make their own decisions and, unfortunately, live with the consequences.

[Ehwmatt]

I agree with you, Matty!! You have a good head on your shoulders, some young people do and
others do not!! I just think that people should enjoy life a little before commiting to forever!!
Forever is so loooooooooong!!!

haha, Jimbo!!

Hell, even some of my friends in the 26-29 age range who got married to good women during or right after college have even admitted to me that they wish they would have at least lived on their own after college for at least a while. Even if not literally single, they kinda wish they'd experienced just having their own place to to theirselves or with a roommate rather than just shackin up with the chick right after college.

But...no one, not family or friends, could have or did dissuade them from getting married. People need to make their own decisions and, unfortunately, live with the consequences.

Oh, without a doubt. That's why I don't say anything to him. But, if he does come to his senses before it's too late, I'll be the first in line to tell him I told you so

[JasonD]

I'm just concerned that the person I marry will do a complete one-eighty after the fact. I'm big on cleanliness..... not Howard Hughes big on it, but still. I want someone who's clean. If you're clothes can walk to hamper on their own, then it's time to take a bath.

Neatness counts too. I'm not a fanatic but if you leave toast crumbs in my butter I'm gonna hafta take your head off.

Be considerate but not obsessed. Call me if you’re gonna be late but don’t call me every 5 seconds & then resort to texting me if I fail to pick up the phone.

Don’t eat in the bed. I hate that!!!!

Don’t snoop through my things when I’m not at home. I hate that even more!!!
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That’s just a short list. My tummy hurts from woofing down that corn so I’m going to bed now ya ‘all.

[Michigan Girl]

I agree with you, Matty!! You have a good head on your shoulders, some young people do and
others do not!! I just think that people should enjoy life a little before commiting to forever!!
Forever is so loooooooooong!!!

haha, Jimbo!!

Hell, even some of my friends in the 26-29 age range who got married to good women during or right after college have even admitted to me that they wish they would have at least lived on their own after college for at least a while. Even if not literally single, they kinda wish they'd experienced just having their own place to to theirselves or with a roommate rather than just shackin up with the chick right after college.

But...no one, not family or friends, could have or did dissuade them from getting married. People need to make their own decisions and, unfortunately, live with the consequences.

Oh, without a doubt. That's why I don't say anything to him. But, if he does come to his senses before it's too late, I'll be the first in line to tell him I told you so

This is FUNNY!!! You remind me of my friends, who BTW never thought I'd make it a year...mostly because I was
moving out of state and they didn't want me to go!!
I wore out a brand new set of luggage that 1st year packing and unpacking my stuff!!
I'd get pissed and want to go home and all the way to the airport I'd think about all the people
that would be telling me so~ so I'd change my mind and we'd go back home!
But every single time that SOB would drive me to the airport, WTH?!?!

[G.I.Jim]

I agree with you, Matty!! You have a good head on your shoulders, some young people do and
others do not!! I just think that people should enjoy life a little before commiting to forever!!
Forever is so loooooooooong!!!

haha, Jimbo!!

Hell, even some of my friends in the 26-29 age range who got married to good women during or right after college have even admitted to me that they wish they would have at least lived on their own after college for at least a while. Even if not literally single, they kinda wish they'd experienced just having their own place to to theirselves or with a roommate rather than just shackin up with the chick right after college.

But...no one, not family or friends, could have or did dissuade them from getting married. People need to make their own decisions and, unfortunately, live with the consequences.

Oh, without a doubt. That's why I don't say anything to him. But, if he does come to his senses before it's too late, I'll be the first in line to tell him I told you so

This is FUNNY!!! You remind me of my friends, who BTW never thought I'd make it a year...mostly because I was
moving out of state and they didn't want me to go!!
I wore out a brand new set of luggage in that 1st year packing and unpacking my stuff!!
I'd get pissed and want to go home and all the way to the airport I'd think about all the people
that would be telling me so~ so I'd change my mind and we'd go back home!
But every single time that SOB would drive me to the airport, WTH?!?!

That should have been a sign woman!

[Michigan Girl]

I agree with you, Matty!! You have a good head on your shoulders, some young people do and
others do not!! I just think that people should enjoy life a little before commiting to forever!!
Forever is so loooooooooong!!!

haha, Jimbo!!

Hell, even some of my friends in the 26-29 age range who got married to good women during or right after college have even admitted to me that they wish they would have at least lived on their own after college for at least a while. Even if not literally single, they kinda wish they'd experienced just having their own place to to theirselves or with a roommate rather than just shackin up with the chick right after college.

But...no one, not family or friends, could have or did dissuade them from getting married. People need to make their own decisions and, unfortunately, live with the consequences.

Oh, without a doubt. That's why I don't say anything to him. But, if he does come to his senses before it's too late, I'll be the first in line to tell him I told you so

This is FUNNY!!! You remind me of my friends, who BTW never thought I'd make it a year...mostly because I was
moving out of state and they didn't want me to go!!
I wore out a brand new set of luggage in that 1st year packing and unpacking my stuff!!
I'd get pissed and want to go home and all the way to the airport I'd think about all the people
that would be telling me so~ so I'd change my mind and we'd go back home!
But every single time that SOB would drive me to the airport, WTH?!?!

That should have been a sign woman!

I know, especially now when I'm not mad he says..."hey do you
want to take a trip to the airport?"

[steveo777]

31 Years this last Nov.

[Ehwmatt]

I agree with you, Matty!! You have a good head on your shoulders, some young people do and
others do not!! I just think that people should enjoy life a little before commiting to forever!!
Forever is so loooooooooong!!!

haha, Jimbo!!

Hell, even some of my friends in the 26-29 age range who got married to good women during or right after college have even admitted to me that they wish they would have at least lived on their own after college for at least a while. Even if not literally single, they kinda wish they'd experienced just having their own place to to theirselves or with a roommate rather than just shackin up with the chick right after college.

But...no one, not family or friends, could have or did dissuade them from getting married. People need to make their own decisions and, unfortunately, live with the consequences.

Oh, without a doubt. That's why I don't say anything to him. But, if he does come to his senses before it's too late, I'll be the first in line to tell him I told you so

This is FUNNY!!! You remind me of my friends, who BTW never thought I'd make it a year...mostly because I was
moving out of state and they didn't want me to go!!
I wore out a brand new set of luggage that 1st year packing and unpacking my stuff!!
I'd get pissed and want to go home and all the way to the airport I'd think about all the people
that would be telling me so~ so I'd change my mind and we'd go back home!
But every single time that SOB would drive me to the airport, WTH?!?!

Haha, they've been dating for 3 years and just bought a house... I just don't trust this girl at all. She was married (though estranged) when they met and didn't see fit to tell him (he found out through a third party a few months in and almost ended it there, shame he didn't follow through), she is four years older than him and has had a HR job the whole time but had him sending HER money while he was a full-time student with NO income, and she's unbelievably controlling and has a jealous streak more befitting of an insecure 16-year-old than a 28-year-old adult.

The funniest part about the whole thing is this guy is the poster child for the alpha dog, 6'4 240, spends 2 hours a day lifting, big dude, talks tough, but gets totally owned by this bitch. She ruined New Orleans for him... wouldn't let him even come down to our hotel room while she was getting ready for an hour to drink a few beers, bitched everytime we went somewhere she didn't want to go, made him go to bed really early etc... luckily my other friend was in fine drinking form except the one night he had five Hurricanes in an hour . I went out myself that night

[Michigan Girl]

31 Years this last Nov.

That's a friggin' miracle...she's a SAINT!!

[mikemarrs]

been with mine 13 years.not married though.

[G.I.Jim]

31 Years this last Nov.

That's a friggin' miracle...she's a SAINT!!

Nice MG.

[portland]

31 Years this last Nov.

That's a friggin' miracle...she's a SAINT!!

Sorry but LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!

[artist4perry]

I was married once to a creep who cheated on me for the entire 15 years of our marriage. I divorced him when I found out. He had been with scores of women. My husband now is my best friend and every day gets better. 7 years as I said earlier. He loves me just the way I am.......he supports my art, and my teaching. He is always my strongest defender, my confidant, and he always tells me how beautiful I am. Love must be blind...........but I am glad it is.

[portland]

I was married once to a creep who cheated on me for the entire 15 years of our marriage. I divorced him when I found out. He had been with scores of women. My husband now is my best friend and every day gets better. 7 years as I said earlier. He loves me just the way I am.......he supports my art, and my teaching. He is always my strongest defender, my confidant, and he always tells me how beautiful I am. Love must be blind...........but I am glad it is.

It's not blind at all....you are beautiful Miss Ginger!!!

[G.I.Jim]

I was married once to a creep who cheated on me for the entire 15 years of our marriage. I divorced him when I found out. He had been with scores of women. My husband now is my best friend and every day gets better. 7 years as I said earlier. He loves me just the way I am.......he supports my art, and my teaching. He is always my strongest defender, my confidant, and he always tells me how beautiful I am. Love must be blind...........but I am glad it is.

It's not blind at all....you are beautiful Miss Ginger!!!

+1 I'm glad you found the perfect person for you too. He sounds like a really nice guy!

[Ehwmatt]

I was married once to a creep who cheated on me for the entire 15 years of our marriage. I divorced him when I found out. He had been with scores of women. My husband now is my best friend and every day gets better. 7 years as I said earlier. He loves me just the way I am.......he supports my art, and my teaching. He is always my strongest defender, my confidant, and he always tells me how beautiful I am. Love must be blind...........but I am glad it is.

Ginger... you were married to Tiger Woods?

[G.I.Jim]

I've been waiting for someone to say "TOO fucking long!!!".

[artist4perry]

I was married once to a creep who cheated on me for the entire 15 years of our marriage. I divorced him when I found out. He had been with scores of women. My husband now is my best friend and every day gets better. 7 years as I said earlier. He loves me just the way I am.......he supports my art, and my teaching. He is always my strongest defender, my confidant, and he always tells me how beautiful I am. Love must be blind...........but I am glad it is.

Ginger... you were married to Tiger Woods?

You made my husband Dan laugh.......he hates my ex more than I do! No, or I would have a great deal more money.........my ex was a total looser.

[artist4perry]

I was married once to a creep who cheated on me for the entire 15 years of our marriage. I divorced him when I found out. He had been with scores of women. My husband now is my best friend and every day gets better. 7 years as I said earlier. He loves me just the way I am.......he supports my art, and my teaching. He is always my strongest defender, my confidant, and he always tells me how beautiful I am. Love must be blind...........but I am glad it is.

It's not blind at all....you are beautiful Miss Ginger!!!

+1 I'm glad you found the perfect person for you too. He sounds like a really nice guy!

Hugs guys. Dan is on here from time to time. He is a great guy. He reads even if he seldom posts, and loves both of your comments. Laughs out loud at GI's antics.

[Michigan Girl]

I'm done...nighty~night all...I might be making a trip to the airport tomorrow!!

[G.I.Jim]

I was married once to a creep who cheated on me for the entire 15 years of our marriage. I divorced him when I found out. He had been with scores of women. My husband now is my best friend and every day gets better. 7 years as I said earlier. He loves me just the way I am.......he supports my art, and my teaching. He is always my strongest defender, my confidant, and he always tells me how beautiful I am. Love must be blind...........but I am glad it is.

It's not blind at all....you are beautiful Miss Ginger!!!

+1 I'm glad you found the perfect person for you too. He sounds like a really nice guy!

Hugs guys. Dan is on here from time to time. He is a great guy. He reads even if he seldom posts, and loves both of your comments. Laughs out loud at GI's antics.

What antics?

[artist4perry]

I'm done...nighty~night all...I might be making a trip to the airport tomorrow!!

Good night MG. I will have to call it a night also........church tomorrow. Hubby is nursing an injured shoulder, so he is homebound.

I waited 20 years to marry this man, I was in love with him when I was 18...........he is the best friend I have ever had. I would marry him again tomorrow. Life is good.

[G.I.Jim]

I'm done...nighty~night all...I might be making a trip to the airport tomorrow!!

Well just give me a heads up before you get here... I'll get the couch ready for you!