I've been wanting to ask this question for awhile....

[Michigan Girl]

It's all about confidence, dude. Stop putting girls on some pedestal though - they're not that special. If everything fails, you can always order some girl from Thailand or Ukraine.

Don't listen to that shit about "waiting around for your special one" or whatever. That's just retarded.

I admit confidence is something I definitely need to work on. I'm just really frustrated, being single kinda sucks.

The best advice I can offer here is that you've just got to put yourself out there, mon cher!! It will be uncomfortable in
the beginning, but it will get easier!! The more uncomfortable situations you put yourself in, the more confidence you will build.
Will it work?!?! Let us know!! One thing is for certain ...doing nothing will get you nowhere!!

[Deb]

Bad boys are totally overrated. LOL believe me, I spent 20 years with one.

Geeks are hot. Recently had a conversation with a friend about that. We were talking about the cast of Criminal Minds. She went on about buff Shamar Moore and the tall dark good looking one, LOL nope not me, Spencer Reid (far left) gets my vote.

[Michigan Girl]

I'm still here!

Confidence. Look like you have confidence. Be confident. Fake nothing except that one thing...

and orgasms ...oh no, that's for the girls ...no j/k ebake!!

BTW~ ebake02 <<<<<what does it mean ?!?!


Good advice from the Wombat!!

[Michigan Girl]

Bad boys are totally overrated. LOL believe me, I spent 20 years with one.

See^^^^ we learn sooner, or in Deb's case ...later!!

[Deb]

Bad boys are totally overrated. LOL believe me, I spent 20 years with one.

See^^^^ we learn sooner, or in Deb's case ...later!!

LOL! I'm a Taurus (=stubborn). Hey, I may be slow, but I'm thorough.

[ebake02]

I'm a big fan of hot geeks myself. One of my favorites:



(I'm a sucker for redheads)

[G.I.Jim]

I'm a big fan of hot geeks myself. One of my favorites:

She makes me want to bust a m... never mind!

[DrFU]

I'm a big fan of hot geeks myself. One of my favorites:

Paging Sarah ...

[ebake02]

I'm still here!

Confidence. Look like you have confidence. Be confident. Fake nothing except that one thing...

and orgasms ...oh no, that's for the girls ...no j/k ebake!!

BTW~ ebake02 <<<<<what does it mean ?!?!

It's a weird combination of my name and the year I graduated high school.

[Deb]

And before Behshad comes in and posts one.................

Hot geek!

[brywool]

Bear with me on this one. Why is every nice, sweet, beautiful girl I run into dating some prick who treats them like shit. Then guys like me are left hanging out to dry.

Nice guys finish last and women are attracted to "the bad boy".
Then they have to actually live with them and realize
"What an immature jerk". Sometimes it takes years.

Guys that treat women like crap suck.

However, women also complain "he's not sensitive enough. I want to see him cry. blah blah blah".

Soon as the guy does, he's out.

[Deb]

Bear with me on this one. Why is every nice, sweet, beautiful girl I run into dating some prick who treats them like shit. Then guys like me are left hanging out to dry.

Nice guys finish last and women are attracted to "the bad boy".
Then they have to actually live with them and realize
"What an immature jerk". Sometimes it takes years.

Right on the money, Bry. What may be exciting about them to start with, eventually turns in to stress.

[ebake02]

Quite a few of the women of my generation are hooked on shitty pop music and MTV, two things I can't stand. I just have to wade through all that crap to get to the cuties who share my tastes.

[artist4perry]

I'm still here!

Confidence. Look like you have confidence. Be confident. Fake nothing except that one thing...

Confidence is super sexy!

[Ehwmatt]

Tow the line between confidence and sensitivity.

If you are that shy and geeky that you can't talk to a girl, you better make a lot of money. Sounds harsh, but true.

I have ZERO game in terms of pickups and all that shit, but I have never had a hard time charming the right girl and talking to girls in general without being worried about snagging their number or taking them home at the end of the conversation.

Just talk to them like human beings, be yourself, and when one that is compatible with you comes along, you'll hit pay dirt.

[Monker]

What do these "bad boys" have that I don't.

Confidence.

That is something a good friend of mine told me a long time ago. The single most attractive thing about a man, to her, was confidence. Confidence in himself. Confidence that he makes the right decisions. Confidence in his direction in life. All of those type of things. She said the biggest turn off was showing weakness...basically, the exact opposite of confidence. Not sure of how to make decisions. Not sure of direction in life...etc...and WORST THING OF ALL...relying on her, or others, to do those things for him.

So, it's not necessarily being a 'bad boy' that makes those guys attractive. It's the fact that they have so much confidence in who they are and where they are going that makes them attractive. Now, I'm sure that some of those women just want to be with a rebel...but not all...and THAT should give YOU the confidence to approach them.

[bluejeangirl76]

We were talking about the cast of Criminal Minds. She went on about buff Shamar Moore and the tall dark good looking one, LOL nope not me, Spencer Reid (far left) gets my vote.

*perks up*



Oh. Sorry... was there a thread going on here... ?

[Monker]

I'm still here!

Confidence. Look like you have confidence. Be confident. Fake nothing except that one thing...

LOL...Obviously, I didn't read the whole thread!

But, Andrew's mostly right. I wouldn't say to 'fake it'...get it for real....confidence, or an orgasm.

[ebake02]

I'm a big fan of hot geeks myself. One of my favorites:

She makes me want to bust a m... never mind!

Redheads are my biggest weakness. Love them!!!!!!

[Babyblue]

What do these "bad boys" have that I don't.

Confidence.

That is something a good friend of mine told me a long time ago. The single most attractive thing about a man, to her, was confidence. Confidence in himself. Confidence that he makes the right decisions. Confidence in his direction in life. All of those type of things. She said the biggest turn off was showing weakness...basically, the exact opposite of confidence. Not sure of how to make decisions. Not sure of direction in life...etc...and WORST THING OF ALL...relying on her, or others, to do those things for him.

So, it's not necessarily being a 'bad boy' that makes those guys attractive. It's the fact that they have so much confidence in who they are and where they are going that makes them attractive. Now, I'm sure that some of those women just want to be with a rebel...but not all...and THAT should give YOU the confidence to approach them.

Yet that bout says it all.

[gr8dane]

Sorry,but I don't know how to paste,but google this one that I just read.(Savage Love advice for hard-up teenage boy).
It shows in different news papers.I think it's a good one.Good luck.

[Suzanne]

What do these "bad boys" have that I don't.

Nothing. They are uneducated morons who couldn't rock my world even if they DID have a big guitar. I thank God every day for my "good man" that I have now. Although he's not really geeky but he certainly isn't a bad boy. He is a true gentleman and genuine nice guy.

There are plenty of girls/women out there who want you for who you are. When the lucky one finds you, she'll be glad you are a nice guy who really knows how to treat a girl right. I always went for the "geeks" in school. The one who would carry your books for ya and make you laugh and sincerely meant the nice things they said. I'd pick the nice guy any day.

[artist4perry]

Bear with me on this one. Why is every nice, sweet, beautiful girl I run into dating some prick who treats them like shit. Then guys like me are left hanging out to dry.

Nice guys finish last and women are attracted to "the bad boy".
Then they have to actually live with them and realize
"What an immature jerk". Sometimes it takes years.

Guys that treat women like crap suck.

However, women also complain "he's not sensitive enough. I want to see him cry. blah blah blah".

Soon as the guy does, he's out.

False. Brywool, my husband is a great man. He cries seldom because of all the macho crap men pressure each other with. When he has cried, it was due to a loss of a loved one, and then it was hard. He knows now he can let go with me. He is my best friend. I spent 15 years with a filandering horses rear end because I was young and dumb. When I found out about all his lies I left. Dan is here by my side and I love him. He had curly hair........big loose curls when he was a young man and we first met. After my divorce he asked me to go out with him. He is balding and overweight. I am overweight. But there is not any man on this planet I could ever love more. We are both geeks..........silly, joking around all the time. And quite in love. We will be married 8 years at the end of the month. I Wasted 15 years of my life. I will not waste the rest.

[parfait]

Don't listen to the witches of MR, dude, as they're obviously not in the same age range you're looking for.

If you don't got game, then you just need to start of with some confidence. You'll feel like god damn Braveheart after you've worked out for a couple of months. It all depends on the woman though. If you're looking for 1-5's, then you just need a car and a dick. If you want the 8's or better, then you got to up your game. But dude, just hit the town, drink and be the man.

Remember though: There's no birth control like anal!

[artist4perry]

Don't listen to the witches of MR, dude, as they're obviously not in the same age range you're looking for. If you don't got game, then you just need to start of with some confidence. You'll feel like god damn Braveheart after you've worked out for a couple of months. It all depends on the woman though. If you're looking for 1-5's, then you just need a car and a dick. If you want the 8's or better, then you got to up your game.

But dude, just hit the town, drink and be the man.

Parfait, can you seriously make one post on here without being a prick to someone? Amazing dude. Maybe us WITCHES as you call us, have been young before and are trying to help him. But then again, I am not suprised. Seems you like to shock and awe. You say inflamintory things and sit back and wait for a response. Boring.

[Deb]

Don't listen to the witches of MR, dude, as they're obviously not in the same age range you're looking for.

If you don't got game, then you just need to start of with some confidence. You'll feel like god damn Braveheart after you've worked out for a couple of months. It all depends on the woman though. If you're looking for 1-5's, then you just need a car and a dick. If you want the 8's or better, then you got to up your game. But dude, just hit the town, drink and be the man.

Remember though: There's no birth control like anal!

Bahahahaha! Ya that's it ebake listen to peepeefait, a dude that pisses down chicks throats. Not all girls are that shallow. I have a 20 year old daughter who is an 8 or 9 (that's not just my opinion).....who was just dating a buff great looking guy that treated her good too, but she decided to go back to her ex (who is going to be a nurse) and who is more shy and not as good looking.

[Ehwmatt]

Don't listen to the witches of MR, dude, as they're obviously not in the same age range you're looking for.

If you don't got game, then you just need to start of with some confidence. You'll feel like god damn Braveheart after you've worked out for a couple of months. It all depends on the woman though. If you're looking for 1-5's, then you just need a car and a dick. If you want the 8's or better, then you got to up your game. But dude, just hit the town, drink and be the man.

Remember though: There's no birth control like anal!

Bahahahaha! Ya that's it ebake listen to peepeefait, a dude that pisses down chicks throats. Not all girls are that shallow. I have a 20 year old daughter who is an 8 or 9 (that's not just my opinion).....who was just dating a buff great looking guy that treated her great too, but she decided to go back to her ex (who is going to be a nurse) and who is more shy and not as good looking.

[parfait]

Don't listen to the witches of MR, dude, as they're obviously not in the same age range you're looking for.

If you don't got game, then you just need to start of with some confidence. You'll feel like god damn Braveheart after you've worked out for a couple of months. It all depends on the woman though. If you're looking for 1-5's, then you just need a car and a dick. If you want the 8's or better, then you got to up your game. But dude, just hit the town, drink and be the man.

Remember though: There's no birth control like anal!

Bahahahaha! Ya that's it ebake listen to peepeefait, a dude that pisses down chicks throats. Not all girls are that shallow. I have a 20 year old daughter who is an 8 or 9 (that's not just my opinion).....who was just dating a buff great looking guy that treated her great too, but she decided to go back to her ex (who is going to be a nurse) and who is more shy and not as good looking.

Good for her! I'm not a relationship kinda guy though, but to each their own.

[bluejeangirl76]

Don't listen to the witches of MR, dude, as they're obviously not in the same age range you're looking for.

And he should listen to who, then? You? Because you're so respectful of women, and you can help him?

In case you're unaware... those "pricks who treat the girls like shit" that ebake mentioned in the first post - that's you, little boy. I promise you, more girls are going to go for the ebake type for a long term relationship before they're going to settle with an arrogant loudmouth who thinks he's better than everyone. There's a term for guys like that ... "Mr. Right Now"

[Deb]

Don't listen to the witches of MR, dude, as they're obviously not in the same age range you're looking for.

If you don't got game, then you just need to start of with some confidence. You'll feel like god damn Braveheart after you've worked out for a couple of months. It all depends on the woman though. If you're looking for 1-5's, then you just need a car and a dick. If you want the 8's or better, then you got to up your game. But dude, just hit the town, drink and be the man.

Remember though: There's no birth control like anal!

Bahahahaha! Ya that's it ebake listen to peepeefait, a dude that pisses down chicks throats. Not all girls are that shallow. I have a 20 year old daughter who is an 8 or 9 (that's not just my opinion).....who was just dating a buff great looking guy that treated her great too, but she decided to go back to her ex (who is going to be a nurse) and who is more shy and not as good looking.

LOL at least 20 years off, Matty!