StevePerryHair wrote:Behshad wrote:Ehwmatt wrote:StevePerryHair wrote:Melissa wrote:And some of you bring up great points about how Kyle died too. It's just not something people who haven't been there, done that, can understand, and I give that benefit of the doubt to people who are being so f'n judgmental. Sitting and watching my mother die slowly for a year, losing parts and parts of her, and the same happening to my father because they were so much a part of each other, something rare anymore IMO, is just something that can't even be put into words. Until you see it, and feel it for yourself, there's just no way to know what people suffer through like this.
Exactly. It's the "in their shoes" thing that I mean. Until you are a child watching a parent's pain, you really have no idea how you will feel. It's not even the same as a grandparent. I watched grandparents lose their spouses too. But this is our mom and dad.... it's different... and you want them happy when you see their heart broken.
Do you think there's nothing to be said about the notion of there being some need of a "show of respect" in the wake of a long-time spouse's passing? That's my biggest issue. I think you owe it to someone (and their family+your kids if any) who gave his/her life to you for x years to wait at least a little while before putting yourself "out on the market" again. There's obviously no way to demarcate an arbitrary appropriate time period, but still... it's one of those things you just "feel." That's how I KNOW I'd feel.
You do make a good point there ..... Even if Sweet needed the companionship, he couldve just taken things a bit slower, out of respect for his wife and just dated this woman ,,,, Marrying someone that soon to me looks like "Next!" ,,,,
Why should he care how it 'LOOKS" to the world?? He is doing things for his own happiness and why should he have to answer to anyone for that. And slow? Does everyone wait 1 year, 2 years, 3 years to get to know someone to get married? I think not! How can time be judged that way. When it's right, you know it's right. And I just do not get how it's not respecting his wife. YOu nave no idea the things they may be doign to respect her memory. His new wife may be doing things that totally repect her. You people have no clue
What if he pulled a John Edwards and was bangin her during her chemo? Assuming they discussed his moving on, is this move still kosher then?